hello,

so for the past 6 months I've been aching for our second child. My son is 3 years old now and my husband and I are both 22 and we've been married for 4 years. I want a girl so badly (I know that's not guaranteed) but he's just not ready for a second baby. He always says he isn't sure he really wants another one but he for sure doesn't right now. He's reasons are (long story short) because he's in the military and we are currently stationed in Japan. He is getting out in 3 years to join the police force back home and we will live with my parents until he's fully on the force. He is afraid financially that during that point of transitioning out of the military into the police force that we can't handle two kids and live with my parents. I think it's financially smarter to have our second baby while in the military since all medical appointments and the birth is 100% paid for. I'm worried that once our job situation and we get our house bought, that things will just be too busy for him and he will make up more excuses in three years. And I don't want to be nearing 30 when we have our second baby because our first child will be way older then the second and won't have a good bond.. I feel like I bring this subject up to him too much and I don't want to start pissing him off but everyone I know is starting or already having their second and so it's a constant ache for me that never goes away..  

 

Opinions?? Advice??