Hi again guys. Smart Guy here. I wana talk you about a "problem" i have. Sorry if i become tiring to the readers, but hey, i haven't talked about this with anyone, except my best friends and my cousin.
So, let me start right away. Im 14 years old, and i have 2 best friends. In my age. From school. One of them has a sister... Well... 3 months ago i realized that im in love with his sister... Shes not very HOT, but shes beautiful and cute, and smart and.. ahhh... Well, i told him about it, and surprisingly, he didnt seem to have problems about it. Actually, not only did he not have problems, but since i told him, he's trying to "set me up" with his her. He brings her with him when we go out, he gave her my MSN and he taks to her about me all the time.. he says that am a very good guy, that im funny, you know, things like that. So, whats the problem ? your gonna ask. Well here is the problem: Ehm.. every time i see this girl [his sister], i dont know, weird things happen. I sweat, i become white [ o.O ]. Every time I know I see her, im become sooo nervous and although I "prepare" myself, i always look like dumb in front of her. My mind is overtaken by bad thoughts like: "Jes, shes totally out of my league" OR "Wtf am I gonna say if she asks me if im in love with her" etc. Oh and the other thing. Whenever I talk about her to someone, I have this weird feeling that she or someone who knows her can hear me. For example, even now that im writing this Im worried what if she or someone who knows her read it. [ 8-| :$ ] So, whats the MATTER with me ?? I was very cool around girls before her, and i have never gotten soooo nervous about someone. I think about her all the time...
So the question is: Is this to f**in weird, or its normal ?
So, let me start right away. Im 14 years old, and i have 2 best friends. In my age. From school. One of them has a sister... Well... 3 months ago i realized that im in love with his sister... Shes not very HOT, but shes beautiful and cute, and smart and.. ahhh... Well, i told him about it, and surprisingly, he didnt seem to have problems about it. Actually, not only did he not have problems, but since i told him, he's trying to "set me up" with his her. He brings her with him when we go out, he gave her my MSN and he taks to her about me all the time.. he says that am a very good guy, that im funny, you know, things like that. So, whats the problem ? your gonna ask. Well here is the problem: Ehm.. every time i see this girl [his sister], i dont know, weird things happen. I sweat, i become white [ o.O ]. Every time I know I see her, im become sooo nervous and although I "prepare" myself, i always look like dumb in front of her. My mind is overtaken by bad thoughts like: "Jes, shes totally out of my league" OR "Wtf am I gonna say if she asks me if im in love with her" etc. Oh and the other thing. Whenever I talk about her to someone, I have this weird feeling that she or someone who knows her can hear me. For example, even now that im writing this Im worried what if she or someone who knows her read it. [ 8-| :$ ] So, whats the MATTER with me ?? I was very cool around girls before her, and i have never gotten soooo nervous about someone. I think about her all the time...
So the question is: Is this to f**in weird, or its normal ?
SmartGuy or just blinded by the light?
There is nothing wrong with be in love with your best friends sister, and if he is setting you up, you have his approval on the deal, but it may hurt your two's relationship down the road, if something evil happens.
So you are acting like a total teenager around her, relax breath, breathe deeply, and start out with an easy subject, school starting - what classes she will be taking, what she wishes to do before the summer weather is over, ext... Make it simple, because it is simple.
1st rule (from flirting) be interested not interesting, meaning; talk about her not yourself. plan to have some time together, alone in a park, or similar place, enjoying some summer drinks, going to that place she wishes to go to.... 2nd rule don't expect any thing...at first...or at all...
Do you see what this is, simple, just breathe, and say you’re sorry if you say something stupid, like you will, and " Oh, I really meant this" works wonders...
So do you think she is stable also in this relationship? most likely not, so you make small mistakes, not big ones, and when you say those 3 words...I ...you, don't expect them back right away, she may wish to tread some time on her feelings before say something like that....
This is a trail & error time you most likely will not marry her, so don't make those types of plans. Learn for it and enjoy the time you make, even if it is short one.
RT
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There is nothing wrong with be in love with your best friends sister, and if he is setting you up, you have his approval on the deal, but it may hurt your two's relationship down the road, if something evil happens.
So you are acting like a total teenager around her, relax breath, breathe deeply, and start out with an easy subject, school starting - what classes she will be taking, what she wishes to do before the summer weather is over, ext... Make it simple, because it is simple.
1st rule (from flirting) be interested not interesting, meaning; talk about her not yourself. plan to have some time together, alone in a park, or similar place, enjoying some summer drinks, going to that place she wishes to go to.... 2nd rule don't expect any thing...at first...or at all...
Do you see what this is, simple, just breathe, and say you’re sorry if you say something stupid, like you will, and " Oh, I really meant this" works wonders...
So do you think she is stable also in this relationship? most likely not, so you make small mistakes, not big ones, and when you say those 3 words...I ...you, don't expect them back right away, she may wish to tread some time on her feelings before say something like that....
This is a trail & error time you most likely will not marry her, so don't make those types of plans. Learn for it and enjoy the time you make, even if it is short one.
RT
ask & I can tell more to you
Well thanks, thats some good advice.
Well yes, I ve got more to ask you, since new things happened. Well,y esterday we were out (Me, my 2 friends, she and her friend), and it was... well... c**p... I acted like a total id**t. Yeah I was all saying stupid jokes n stuff, and by the way I acted, she may have thought that I dislike her. [ o.O ] Well, I was silent most of the time, and my friend [her brother] tried a few times to start an interesting conversation, but I showed like I was bored and not interested, because actually I was trying not to say anything... stupid. I hope i had read your post before...hehe So what happened next ? Well I told her brother to tell her the truth [MISTAKE], so she wont think Im a total id**t. So, she told her and she was surprised [I am wondering why -_-]. I also told him to pretend he is saying this to her without me knowing, and tell her not to show that she knows. Thats a very shitty situation, dont you think ? I mean now how Im supposed to talk to her again ? Am I going to pretend that nothing's wrong and be cool or what ? Oh and I believe even though I had some chances at first, now that she knows she will think that Im some id**t who doesnt have the courage to express his feelings. So Im not a really SMART GUY, huh ?
Thanks for reading....again...
Well yes, I ve got more to ask you, since new things happened. Well,y esterday we were out (Me, my 2 friends, she and her friend), and it was... well... c**p... I acted like a total id**t. Yeah I was all saying stupid jokes n stuff, and by the way I acted, she may have thought that I dislike her. [ o.O ] Well, I was silent most of the time, and my friend [her brother] tried a few times to start an interesting conversation, but I showed like I was bored and not interested, because actually I was trying not to say anything... stupid. I hope i had read your post before...hehe So what happened next ? Well I told her brother to tell her the truth [MISTAKE], so she wont think Im a total id**t. So, she told her and she was surprised [I am wondering why -_-]. I also told him to pretend he is saying this to her without me knowing, and tell her not to show that she knows. Thats a very shitty situation, dont you think ? I mean now how Im supposed to talk to her again ? Am I going to pretend that nothing's wrong and be cool or what ? Oh and I believe even though I had some chances at first, now that she knows she will think that Im some id**t who doesnt have the courage to express his feelings. So Im not a really SMART GUY, huh ?
Thanks for reading....again...
Bro, I'm in the same situation as you. But I haven't even told my friend, but I'm sure his sister knows.
Because we hugged quite a bit yesterday, and she was leaning on my shoulder and stuff.
Uhh... heres a tip, since you've put yourself in this position you might aswell ask her out in PERSON.
I'm sure she'll say yes.
Because we hugged quite a bit yesterday, and she was leaning on my shoulder and stuff.
Uhh... heres a tip, since you've put yourself in this position you might aswell ask her out in PERSON.
I'm sure she'll say yes.
O gosh how common is this situation! I'm a girl and have a crush on my best friend's older brother... He doesn't know I exist, or if he does he thinks I'm his kid sisters friend. (He's 5 months and 3 days older than me) We've known each other since my third birthday, and my best friend and I have been through a lot together. I've told her, and she said I should go for it. I'm to worried to ask him out. I have been raised by an "old" mom... and she said that the guy is supposed to ask the mother of the girl if he has permission to date her daughter! I don't want to go through that humiliation of asking my best friend to ask her brother to ask my mother permission to date me. I'm not a dowry or something, and shouldn't be looked at like I am. Any ideas on getting him to realize I exist! I've had this crush for almost 8 years now, and REALLY want to do something about it!
I am in a similar situation. I am 17 my best friends sister is a few years younger but even at that ive fallen so hard for her o.O what to do ??
this is going a little off topic here i think lets remember its SmartGuy's situation and i agree with the post after your last post SmartGuy you Should tell here in person embrace yourself and just dont think about it all just ask her when you two are alone. Hope This Helps i really hope for the best for you.
oh i didnt realise this is from like 2 years ago a bit late to reply
Crooky...I am liking you more and more with each post of yours! THANK YOU for realizing that people shouldn't respond to posts that are YEARS old...in almost every case the poster is no longer reading the forums here...and if, by chance, they were...I would imaging they would not still be having the same issue they were years ago!!! HAHAH
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i am in the same boat as you
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what to do help me
Okay, so my best friend's brother texted me and told me he wants to have sex with me. We have done the date and haven't talked about it, but I want to. I don't know what to do. Please help.