leaving a alcoholic

Leave his AZZ...Be a better woman than I am! I now have 3 kids that are watching and they are old enough to realize what Dad is doing...As a matter of fact My 7yr old told him the other day that he wasn't going to work when he got old he was going to make his wife work while he watched TV and got drunk!! MY 7yr old! The videos are a good idea just don't get caught doing it. You shouldn't worry about him getting you child on the weekend because if you tell them the circumstances they will most likely setup visitation with supervision from a social worker. Sounds like we both have a similar situation except for I am a stay at home mom who feels trapped with no income or means to get out of my situation. Mine drinks about 3 1/2 gallons of liquor a week. He also has the mood swings of extremem high or lows and he also adds the pills occasionally when he has them. IT just seems like a vicious cycle so if you do have a way out take it and don't ever look back or you might give in and come back. Good Luck to you!

I have been with my other for almost five years. The first two were great then he relapsed into meth and alcohol. I waited the meth thing out for two years but the alcohol just doesnt go away. he quit his job three months ago and isnt looking for work. the house we live in is his but bills still need to be paid and there is work to do around here. he gets up and goes out for his first beer at 630am and drinks off and on all day. he takes a nap at noon or so every day and gets back up and out for another beer. i dont know how to leave. i am on disability and so a fixed income and have very limited almost no options. i am so sad and lonely here. i seldom have a car to use to get out and the house is miles from a bus line. i try hard to be positive but some days, like today, it is so very hard.

I know exactly what you are going through. I stayed with my ex for a long time because I feared what would happen if he was able to get visitation without Supervision. Video tapeing is good. I don't think it would have been possible for me to do without him smashing the camera over my head. So I called the police every time he got out of control which only happened when he was drinking. That way I had a paper trail. Something written on paper by the police holds more power with the court. I waited until he had been arrest for alcohol charges and had enough police reports and filed for a divorce.I was able to get supervised visitation. I got a lawyer and went to court and my ex didn't show up because there was a warrent out for him. The judge gave him supervised visitation. Because he didn't show up, my lawyer was able to write the order giving me the option to choose the visitation times and when and with who. Since there was no end date, he will have to take me back to court to try to get anything more. Since the order was in place, he has been arrested twice on drug and alcohol charges, been arrested for driving on a suspended licence, gone to jail for 6 months for posession of marijuana and I was able to obtain a restraining order on him for 1 year for threatening me in front of the police and breaking my back windshield. I think he will have a hard time getting anything more

I know exactly what you are going through. I stayed with my ex for a long time because I feared what would happen if he was able to get visitation without Supervision. Video tapeing is good. I don't think it would have been possible for me to do without him smashing the camera over my head. So I called the police every time he got out of control which only happened when he was drinking. That way I had a paper trail. Something written on paper by the police holds more power with the court. I waited until he had been arrested for alcohol charges and had enough police reports and filed for a divorce. I got a lawyer and went to court and my ex didn't show up because there was a warrent out for him. The judge gave him supervised visitation. Because he didn't show up, my lawyer was able to write the order giving me the option to choose the visitation times and when and with who. Since there was no end date, he will have to take me back to court to try to get anything more. Since the order was in place, he has been arrested twice on drug and alcohol charges, been arrested for driving on a suspended licence, gone to jail for 6 months for posession of marijuana and I was able to obtain a restraining order on him for 1 year for threatening me in front of the police and breaking my back windshield. I think he will have a hard time getting anything more

If he love Vodka than his family so kick his ass ma'am LEAVE him and bring your baby.. You said you are the money maker? So go try to find a home before you leave in his house. Plan it well ma'am.. Don't give him a chance to hurt or to hurt your son ma'am....

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