My BF quit smoking pot and lost his sex drive

Hey. I know what you're going through, my boyfriend is diagnosed bi-polar and smokes weed to regulate his moods (as he finds his medication .. not good enough). After smoking since he was about 15 (he's now 21) and smoking heavy amounts of the stuff for the past 3 years, he decided to quit about 2 months ago. For the first few weeks his sex drive was so low (after us making love every single time we saw eachother), he was irritable, moody, and just not as affectionate as he used to be. You can't take it personally though, I did, I thought he didn't find me attractive anymore and he was falling out of love with me but in reality they need you more than you think. It gets better, after about a month and a half his sex drive came back, he was affectionate but his moods did fluctuate (I'm assuming your partner doesn't have bi polar though). As for making your partner quit, I can understand you are hurt and he should have been a bit more upfront with you, however, you are both adults and we all have our guilty pleasures. I know it might be hard but if it affects you that much then maybe you should find a more compatible boyfriend. 

Let him smoke you pretentious honky.

to say that THC fed his sex drive and not testosterone shows that you don't know Biology. If there is "many studies"- show them.

No what actually sounds like the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. You instantly come off as one of those up-tight, psychotic control freaks that thinks she has everything figured out. Your boyfriend, who sounds like a pretty straight up guy to me, is probably smarter than you and realized your oversensitiveness would undoubtedly cause you to irrationally freak out. That's probably why he lied (because he knows pot IS NOT a big deal). You could have an alcoholic boyfriend that beats you, a chain smoking cigarette fiend that gives you 2nd hand lung cancer if you believe in any of that sh*t (instead, you didn't even know that he smoked which means he wasn't EVEN CLOSE to you and sharing any second hand smoke), and I could continue citing much worse scenarios. INSTEAD you have a fun-loving boyfriend that after smoking pot for 15 years is almost entirely immune to the "high" its probably nothing more than a cigarette kick to him, the only tough part is his body forgot how to function without it and while no serious brain centers are left entirely dependent like from opiates and stims, THC can still interfere with testosterone and sexual function. It shows that you have no concept of how neuroadaptation, downregulation, tolerance, and neurotransmitters in general ACTUALLY work. I know of silly psychotic bit***s like you who even get addicted to over-the-counter stool softener because theyre scared of putting on a few pounds and if they don't get their OTC "meds" they can't even keep food down (I bet you have some demons of your own you're hiding from him). You opened the can of worms, now deal with it like a grown up. You wanted him to quit, now you gotta stick it out until he's back to normal and in the meantime quit bitching to us about it. You better be looking at yourself in the mirror under a microscope hunny. Do some researching for once in your life, all websites claim pot affects sexual function. If he relapses, its because he probably sees that your incessant need for perfection in others is a double-standard for yourself. There's always 2 sides to the coin.

WRONG. If you're going to berate people for getting their facts striaght, don't come on here and spout innaccurate information from the other side. THC is NOT a "form of acid". They are in NO WAY chemically similar and they react completely differently with the brain. ACID (LSD) is a Hallucinogen. THC is NOT a hallucinogen.

I agree with you, but technically weed is a Hallucinogen (if you smoke A LOT you will have mild hallucinations, but were talking close to 20 times what your average smoker consumes, and all at once) Its absolutely nothing like LSD. THC bonds to receptors of the brain that usually inhibit the flow of certain chemical in your brain. These chemicals are naturally produced. (including CBD and other chemicals, didn't feel like looking them up.

I came to this forum because I am currently quitting aswell, and my sex drive has been completely gone, though I desire sex very much. Luckily, my girlfriend is nothin but supportive, and this is making out relationship stronger than ever. Sometimes all it takes to fix someone else's problems is to stop judging them and help them through it.

The amount I ignorance on this board is rediculous. I will NEVER come back here, and to the OP, I think you should do some introspection. Remember that all insecurities come from judgement of others, and they always will catch up to you.

You are such a c**t I'd have to be high to tolerate you too

you should deffinitly let him jsut smoke.. yes i smoke.. but doesnt it say omething to you that he would hide it for so long?! and if your relationship wa o amazing why the hell would you make him stop? was it hurting you? was his life going no where? i know so many succesful people who smoke weed daily. and theyre perfectly fine! you should never try and change anyone and 15 years of smoking!! youll make him changge that for you? thats ridiculous!

Smoking is in my opinion similar to coming home and drinking a beer or smoking a cigarette, everyone has their vice, good or bad.

Smoking marijuana doesnt mean he doesnt love/respect you. He obviously liked you when he met you and fell in love.

He more than likely hid it for fear that you may reject his bad habits and dismiss him entirely.

Although HONESTY is the BEST thing in a relationship it may be a good idea to help him and be supportive, marijuana doesn't change the fact that you love someone or care about someone.

Work thru the issue dont let it defeat your relationship.

The TRUTH about pot is that it is like most other vices. A little is fine but when its abused it becomes a problem. I have been a regular smoker for 22 years starting when i was 13. I have had to quit for various reasons over the years and I can testify that it is very hard to adjust. I had the exact same symptoms everytime i quit. Sleeplessness, moodswings, vivid dreams, depression and a COMPLETE loss of sex drive. In fact I was googling why sex drive was effected when I came across this page. I never reply to these things but I can identify with your BF. If he is willing to quit smoking for you then he really loves you. Give him a break. He will level out in time; probably in about a month to 6 weeks. The first thing he needs to do is find a positive hobby to replace his smoking. Preferably something new as we smokers tend to ruin things that are fun without smoking but we get high before we engage in these activities. (movies, videogames, watchin sports, drinkin beer, you get the idea) I would bet he smoked before sex too as I have been guilty of this myself. Nothing is gonna be fun for him for a while until he adjusts. I workout now to replace my old friend weed. Its positive and it helps the cravings. Plus it evacuates the THC from my fat cells faster. People who do not smoke at all or everyday have no business replying to your post. They have no idea what your BF is going through. It will be fine in time.  Maybe even better than ever.

Clearly he just needs to smoke weed duuhh omg. How hard is that to see haha

Wow, self centered much are we? Perhaps you would benefit from some research on healthy expectations in a relationship. To "expect" to be the only source of happiness for your significant other is not only completely unhealthy and selfish, but it is a sure fire path to the long and lonely life of a spinster. Beyond that you are being ridiculously impetuous on your assumptions as to how he should be handling some pretty significant withdrawal symptoms so early in the quitting game. The fact that he is willing to go through that for no one else but YOU should be enough to sate whatever narcissistic appetite you have for peoplebending over backwards to make you happy.

I'm afraid your boyfriend is not the only person in that relationship suffering from an addiction. You young lady are addicted to being the center of a mans universe. You are addicted to having someone who will dote over you and bend to whatever ridiculous demands you have so you'll put out. You to are suffering from withdrawl symptoms. Withdrawal from having someone kiss you butt and tell you that your c**p doesn't stink.

You should be drawing happiness and self-worth from within yourself like a mature adult. Not from the attention of men around you like a parasitic teenage girl. You could definitely do with a hard lesson in humility. Perhaps that lesson will come when your boyfriend realizes that there is absolutely nothing special about you that he couldn't find in another woman in the world. One with mature sensibilities on where they stand in a relationship and doesn't come strapped with the burden of needing to be someones "everything".

Sexiest woman on the planet? Blegh! Seriously, who would need to feel like that? Disgusting...

ALSO, your brain is HARD WIRED to receive cannaboids through openings in your brain known as cannaboid receptors! Your body naturally produces chemicals of the cannaboid family which THC is also a member of. It is truly the only drug (legal or illegal) that our body responds to that literally cause 0 damage to your body if consumed correctly and with responsible moderation. Water is required for survival, but WILL kill you if consumed in excess. When has anyone died from excessive consumption of THC?

Biggots like you need to just accept that nature put marijuana into the ecosystem for OUR benefit. There is no other explanation for its prolific existence. God has nothing to do with anything. 

This post is frustrating a bunch of people trying to justify there addiction. I'm going thru the same problem I lost someone because of pot and no sex drive. I smoked pot daily non stop only breaking to eat take or go to the restroom. If you have someone you can't completely love soneone because you are cheating that person from being the complete you. If you love someone you want the best for them you want them to be better you want true happiness not additcted to lies. Don't give up on him but don't let him convince you hell be better with it he won't if you have too make him choose either you or the pot. IM A RECOVERING POT HEAD WEED IS HARMFUL

Aside for the lying, I am going through the same thing. EXCEPT I am in your boyfriends position. I'm trying to quit hard and i only have smoked 2 times in last two weeks (including tonight). Me and my girlfriend met a year ago and always had awesome chemistry. But since I quit I have declined ALOT in sex drive. Trust me I know he thinks about it too. First of TALK to him. If you really love him like you say you won't just up and leave. 8 days isn't even long enough to grow my beard let alone choose to break up sch a long relationship. One way or another weed is addictive (as you see) give him time. It's 100000x and more harder than you can imagine. It becomes so second nature as say brushing your teeth or even eating (makes food amazing.) But I'm at two weeks and still struggle (I have great will power and still). I would RECOMMEND having him hit the gym. I hired a person trainer and go 4days per week. It gets my mind off it. I ride my bike now EVERYWHERE. Even to college it's hard but It makes me tired enough so I physically can't stay up and fall asleep easy (without weed). Just give him time. I know how he feels and TRUST me he is thinking it too. Just be open and talk. Now that EVERYTHING is out and on the table. No more secrets from you, so why keep your secrets from him (secrets being not talking to him). Let him know you are worried and really want to help. YES it will hurt. But trust me I don't want to loose my gf as much as she doesn't wana loose me. Just it's hard right now in a few weeks or months at most it'll be better !