You are correct that most causes are the result of medical problems. However, encouraging "him",to seek some help is not always the answer. My husband has medical issues that has resulted in his imputence for the past six years. We have talked about it at length with his doctor and come to the conclusion that nothing can be done to change the problem. Not everything can be solved by a pill or help.
I have the same problem and i know it's not easy.. I am 34 now and my husband is 42.we've been married for two years now. we didnt have sexual relations before marriage because i belong to a conservative family. From the first night of marriage it didnt work. He said he was tired from the wedding day.. second day same thing. our honeymoon was terrible .then he rarely tried. i never tried to put pressure on him because i knew it would've made it worse. it just happened a couple of times and the erection didnt last long. As a result i got pregnant . During pregnancy the excuse was that i was pregnant and that made him nervous and couldnt perform. after i gave birth to my little girl the excuse was that i had just delivered so he better stay away.. then months passed and he never tried. At last i was able to convince him to see a doctor and he did. the doctor said it was a psychological problem and he started making sessions but then he got tired of all that saying the dr. wouldnt help him and that he was only trying to take money from him so he stopped the treatment saying he was cured and when we tried again it worked for one time and then the same problem.Now he has traveled because he has work outside the country and i feel that he is taking advantage of the distance in order to avoid the problem. I feel frustrated and i'm thinking a lot about divorce. i wish someone could give me advice on what to do because i am very desperate and dont know what to do.
dear reynosa
When I was 32 years old I was have a difficult time getting an erection, better yet I was almost impotent. I have a very beautiful wife and I was afaird to lose her. My wife suggested that I get a complete physical, which I did. It was very difficult to open to my primary doctor, more so, because she is a female doctor. To my surpise she was awesome, caring and helpful. She turn out to be a endocrinologist which specialist in the type of field. First thing, I was given a blood test to check my testosterone levels. Turns out that the level were very low, about 140. Second she had me do a MRI to check my pituitary gland. It turnout that i have/had a microadenoma growth on my pituitary gland, turn out that it was benign, but it was interfering with my testosterone production. I had a few different option to take care of my issue. I decided to use a 4 androderm patch to increase my levels, it has worked beautiful,. my levels are back to normal, I get a better erection than ever, I'm, happy and my marrige and wife are happier. I hope this will give another option. Please go see a endocrinologist. Good luck, and I wish you the best.
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I am 45 and my husband husband of 9yrs is 56.. The relationship was hot in bed until we married and the last 5yrs has been rough nothing will he try to please me. The subject is totally avoided and no contact in bed for us. Intimacy is absent in our marriage due to his diabetes and high blood pressure. He reffuse to get meds from doctor for the Erectile Dysfunction. The strain is a constant battle but to you I can only say be patient and try to keep yourself from straying. The temptation to get him a help husband is tempting....lol Hold on!!!!Give him your love and support...Do things to treat yourself in the mean time spa days with great massages...
To be quite really honest, there is more then one way to skin a cat. LOL! Most men with erectile disfunction can still have an orgasm even if they are not erect. Oral sex is the best for this problem. My man had cancer and can't have an erection. Its ok with me because we have found other ways of pleasing each other. Use your imagination. We have never had intercourse. He is really good at oral and to be honest, so am I. He can get off but he just can't get hard. Love and Affection can be experienced in so many different, passionate ways besides having all out sex. Experiment and I promise you, if you really love him and are attracted to him, it will be the best sex ever. Good Luck!!!!!!!!
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