My parents don't understand me!

You sound like the daughter I never had but would have loved dearly. Well -- as long as you never found out what my grades were. My schools name began with "E" and I was a letterman in several classes. They knew I could do better because I got all A,s in Physics where most people have a hard time. Then there was the time they gave us an IQ test and I was in serious trouble. They were relentless after that. I don't qualify for MENSA but I miss by only a few points.

I guess your mother has a difficult story which is likely the reason for the way she is so you will have to make allowances for that. That's just the sad reality of life. As they say, life isn't fair and we all have to deal with that. The Facebook thing bothers me because I don't feel anyone has the right to post ANY pictures of you without your permission. I am not on Facebook but if I were I would not use any pictures of myself due to the horror stories I have heard about them being used in ways I don't want. Plus with today's cameras the GPS info is in there. Maybe they have a "private" section where it is safe(r) where I might.

Your writing shows you are not the typical 14 year old and I'm sure you will be fine even though it's tough now. I don't feel it's right to push someone into college if they do not want to go. It's great if you want to learn what they have to offer and have something that interests you but there are plenty of people who took a different route and have done well.

I want to wish you the best.

You can get through anything

My parents are very nice and all,but,my step mom is so mean to me.She's always saying:You need to grow up and act your age!Like I'm some kind of adult in an 11 year Olds body.I'm not an adult,I'm a child!Then my other family members are telling me to enjoy life,and I'm trying.But it's back and forth with this stupid c**p of theirs!And I hate it!!!I go to my friends,but they don't help because they are all so worried about my other friend to notice me,so I'm alone.I've started talking to myself and I'm not sleeping that much and I'm super paranoid!What should I do?

You r so right. All my mom does is yell at me. Ive told her what it makes us feel how it affects us over time (based on alot of studies on the) . . . And guess what? She yellwd at me tp apologize. Like shouted, "You havs to say sorry!!!"

My mom just left for my brothers b-ball with my sis and 3yr twins, girl/boy. I was supposed to babysit tonight. but after a heated argument, red and crying, my mom called me crazy and brought the twins w/ her, that i was supposed to bbsit. Before this all happened, right after school, i went w/ her to get some errands done, she was in a really good mood then, and so was I. She dropped me off back home to get stuff done (aka youtube and test tomrw ) When she came home w/ the crew, I could already tell she was in a bad mood, trust me its been 14 yrs, she didn't smile at me or offer a cheery hello. When she did talk to me, it was in a accusatory tone. Im not quite sure what set it off, but I just started ranting about how when we are alone together, she is a much happier person. But whenever she comes home with all, she's irritable. I get it, she's stressed, has supper to make, but doesn't give her the reason to piss at me for no obvious reason. Why is it always me that she picks on? Why? She called me crazy, she even threatened boarding school, like wtf. Sometimes wonder l that if i really am some form of psycho. She just came back from b-ball (I put this on hold for a bit) and she seems to be in a good mood, but she didn't acknowledge me. But still. After past arguments, I always tell myself not to act happy even if she is. So that she'll (at least this is how I think) rethink her ways and wonder " maybe I am doing something wrong". If that makes any sense..... This might be a bit of a weird question but, do moms still PMS, I know it seems like I'm trying to blame her for everything, I know my flaws, but hopefully one is not psycho maniac.

14 btw, if you didn't pick that up earlier

Trust me when I tell you this I tried to make my parents understand me but they just wont listen my mom always like"your like this because of the Xbox" no it isn't when I play it I feel free no one tells me what to do on their if you try to make them understand you and they still font then they probably never will they think you know how you feel but they don't they think they don't know if they don't understand you in the end then maybe someone else will my friends understand me better than my parents and that's the sad part am 14 i tried to make them understand me but they never did in the end my moms super christian she thinks god will fix every thing and they always force me go listen to christian music but i hate it when they force the kind of stuff on me I like the music I listen to but they don't and they took my iPod away because of that and that's stupid I hope things look up for you but things haven't for me may god have mercy

I get you. My mom is very swwet but also intense and everything bothers her.
I need help too, they don't get my humor and are always getting on my about trying to be more of a lady. I'm sorry that I'm more of a free spirit and im not a girly girl, I'm a tomboy ok?! I'm sorry that I may be talk too much but there is a lot on my mind and still so much more to get out. Also, I'm always on. I just want to party and always have something to do! I can't help but to seek adventure! Sorry, I know this isn't advice but man did I need to get that out!

I know right ! Talking to my parents are always hard, I try but it always results into them shouting. I thought killing myself would help, but I have a younger sister and I don't want her to grow not having me around( like I'm not selfish). So I deal with the shouting but how do I resolve this situation?

Hey/
i have the exact same problem.My dad yells at me most of the time!! i have just completed my high school, they are still yelling at me for gods f**k no reason,
The only thing i know right now and i tell myself is i'll give my kids the support and understanding they need, maybe the time will be different but i'll do anything so they dont end up pretty screwed up like me!
I guess everyone like you gets this thing about raising their kids.

With all the times I have to just listen to the two critics of the house, I am just getting ready to make a run for it. I mean, mom and dad, they think they know everything. Just because I came from them and they were once my age doesn't mean that they know everything about me, back to front, front to back. It's just not fair or FINISHED!

No don't be stupid I'm a teenager and I understand you but killing won't fix everything I thought of that like a thousand times but its not worth it just be with your self do everything you feel like doing bcz its your life even though we can't have that much fun with them giving permissions but read books and listen to music its helpful there's also an app called relax rain its the sound of the rain its so relaxing I suggest it

Exactly my point

Yes true when ever i play games they yell at me because they want me to bring 90% above in every exams so that i can be rich to give them some money

hi, i've tried this before and it didn't work. my parents don't seem to want to take my suggestions, now what?

My parents doesn't understand me at all.. I have gone to the level that i wish i can die when i face any argument.. My heart hurts it really hurts like literally.. Im beginning to feel that school, exams, my parents and even my life is draining life out of me.