Hi everyone I'm back. My computer crashed about a week ago and it's been in the shop. thursday night about 11:oo my mother called me and told me to set down and I told her no no no and she said give the phone to my sister and I did because i knew that she was calling to tell us that our grandmother had died. She was very sick and I knew the time was near but I didn't want to hear it. I love my grandmother very much she and I had the same birthday and I was her first grandchild and I really enjoyed that spot. Her homegoing was yesterday and today I'm just missing her. I had to cancel my appointment at the therapist yesterday and I don't get to go until next tuesday i belive that I can hold out until then because i don't have any time alone because my whole family is here and we are doing fine. Her children had a big falling out the police was called and everything is was unbelivible. I just glad that I have my computer back because i tried to stay in touch with my cell phone but it pissed me off because the reception was so poor so I gave up but I'm back and i missed yall. :-D
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Hi Renetta34:
I am going to make a huge assumption here...You referred to your grandmother's service as a "homegoing." That leads me to believe that you believe in Heaven. If you do, your comfort can be found in the fact that, as a spiritual person, you will see her again. It also sounds like she lived a full, happy life. She enjoyed you and her other grandchildren. She would not want you mourning too long. She knew that she would see you again. She is no longer suffering with illness. That is a thought that should give you joy. Yes, you will miss the place that she held in your life, but you have a hope that some others don't. You will meet with her again. Again, my assumptions are based upon your post. I apologize if I misunderstood. Therapy is great.....spiritual hope is better. Grasp those things that you know about death. If you believe that she is just asleep...Try to find comfort in that. Try to reflect on the great memories you have of her. Work thru your grief, but don't get stuck there. What would your grandmother want for you...for your life? Move in that direction so that you will be honoring her memory.
I am going to make a huge assumption here...You referred to your grandmother's service as a "homegoing." That leads me to believe that you believe in Heaven. If you do, your comfort can be found in the fact that, as a spiritual person, you will see her again. It also sounds like she lived a full, happy life. She enjoyed you and her other grandchildren. She would not want you mourning too long. She knew that she would see you again. She is no longer suffering with illness. That is a thought that should give you joy. Yes, you will miss the place that she held in your life, but you have a hope that some others don't. You will meet with her again. Again, my assumptions are based upon your post. I apologize if I misunderstood. Therapy is great.....spiritual hope is better. Grasp those things that you know about death. If you believe that she is just asleep...Try to find comfort in that. Try to reflect on the great memories you have of her. Work thru your grief, but don't get stuck there. What would your grandmother want for you...for your life? Move in that direction so that you will be honoring her memory.
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Thank You very much for answering me so fast. i really miss her I know she in a better place and it's not more pain for her and I rejoice in that. i will keep going but it's just so raw right now. It was just awful the way her children was acting and I just felt that they didn't respect her on that day and i was very disappointed in all of them. Back to reality thank you and i will hold my head up and press on. :-)
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I know how you feel, i lost my beloved gram 20 years ago. She raised me and if it weren't for her and her undying love
and support, God only knows where i would be today. My mom just passed away this past March,she and i we not close at all. In my mind, my mom left me 20 years ago when God took my Gram. I did not react to my mothers passing and i still haven't.
There is not a day that goes by that i don't think of my gram. Her memory passes thru my mind all the time. I even think i may feel her presence at times. I am not really a believer of spirits and such, but there have been times when i swear she is near me.
Your lovely gramma would not want you to be sad, i know mine wouldn't.
You will never forget her but it will get a little easier for you, tho it will take a while. Eventually you will be able to think about her and not cry, you will be able to look at a pic of her and smile. Every now and again i will look at a photo of her and be able to remember the circumstances around that photo, i do cry and i tell her how much i miss her. I go to her grave about once every few months. When she first left me, i was at the cemetary every day. I was sooo sad and felt lost without her. She was my beautiful gram.
She was very sick. When the call came, i had just left her. She knew what she was doing and didn't want to do it in front of me. My heart broke, my gram is dead. When we went to the viewing, i fainted at the coffin. The procession to the cemetary was endless, tho it was around the corner. The graveside service i don't remember much, i just remember dropping a red rose into the ground on top of her coffin.
Everyday will get a little easier for you. Celebrate her life, remember her love, and always keep her in your heart.
Hugs to you hon.
and support, God only knows where i would be today. My mom just passed away this past March,she and i we not close at all. In my mind, my mom left me 20 years ago when God took my Gram. I did not react to my mothers passing and i still haven't.
There is not a day that goes by that i don't think of my gram. Her memory passes thru my mind all the time. I even think i may feel her presence at times. I am not really a believer of spirits and such, but there have been times when i swear she is near me.
Your lovely gramma would not want you to be sad, i know mine wouldn't.
You will never forget her but it will get a little easier for you, tho it will take a while. Eventually you will be able to think about her and not cry, you will be able to look at a pic of her and smile. Every now and again i will look at a photo of her and be able to remember the circumstances around that photo, i do cry and i tell her how much i miss her. I go to her grave about once every few months. When she first left me, i was at the cemetary every day. I was sooo sad and felt lost without her. She was my beautiful gram.
She was very sick. When the call came, i had just left her. She knew what she was doing and didn't want to do it in front of me. My heart broke, my gram is dead. When we went to the viewing, i fainted at the coffin. The procession to the cemetary was endless, tho it was around the corner. The graveside service i don't remember much, i just remember dropping a red rose into the ground on top of her coffin.
Everyday will get a little easier for you. Celebrate her life, remember her love, and always keep her in your heart.
Hugs to you hon.
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It sounds like you're going to be just fine. Let your family members do what they do. Maybe they don't know how to grieve in a healthy way. Try to keep your distance so that you can have peace in your world. They will come around. I know that things will continue to get better for you. Always come back here to seek advice and comfort. Most people have to deal with grief and your experience is just one more way for them to seek comfort. I hope we'll here from you again soon.
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