never had orgasm

Hi Guest,

Theres no problems your just not completely relaxed with him yet. It took me a few months with my fiance to relax enough to have them and he wasnt my first. Just wait and see.

There is nothing wrong with you.  This is a very common issue many women go through and it gets better as they become more comfortable with themselves and learn what works for them.  Many women, and I want to emphasize many here, never have orgasms from vaginal intercourse alone.  Clitoral stimulation is usually required directly or indirectly. Have you tried being on top?  This gives you control of the depth and the pace.  Both of you can stimulate your clitoris for additional pleasure.  You might try positioning him best to hit your g-spot.

Are you doing more than penetrative sex?  Does he perform oral sex on you?  Oral stimulation is for women is incredible and I don't think you will be disappointed.  If he doesn't you should slap him! (I'm only joking!) It is odd how many men expect oral sex on them and then don't return the favor or they only do a half-ass job of it.  You might try a session sometimes without penetrative sex at all, concentrating on caressing, masturbation, and oral sex.

Maybe he does perform oral but you still haven't had an orgasm?  Only a rare few start out as a natural in providing this level of pleasure.  He has to really want to please and he has to really enjoy doing it because he enjoys pleasing you.  It really does make a difference.  You need to guide him - not just oral - and tell him what feels good for you. Show him how you like to be touched and teach him how he can masturbate you. He could stimulate you with his fingers/hands while going down on you and he can even do this to enhance your pleasure during regular penetrative sex.  What are your fantasies?  Fantasizing during sex can put you over the top.  Are there any you would like to act out with him? That can be a whole new experience.  And let's not forget the importance of foreplay, a lot can be done to get you in the right mood.

If he really cares for you and really wants to please you, he will be very interested in how to improve and he will listen attentively. Hopefully he is looking for information on how he can better please you on his own initiative also.  Of course, a lot of men have ego problems and might take it as an insult because he thinks he is an expert.  Only you can decide if your willing tolerate this behavior where he put his interests so far over yours that he won't even try.

Even if he does everything he can to please you, you could still have difficulty having an orgasm.  This is a common problem with a wide range of potential causes and contributing factors. It does not mean there is something wrong with you.  There are some great women's sex education sites with a lot of useful advice on dealing with this.  I would recommend looking for these sites online, they are very helpful.

There is so much to be said on this topic you could write a whole book on this issue alone, and in fact, many have been.  Work with him to improve sex for both of you and research the issues online and off.  There is a wealth of information that really can help you. Then put it to use.

The bottom line is there are many things you can try to give your body the extra boost it needs to reach that stage of enlightenment.