my last period was march 13? all the hpt & pt i take are negative.iv bean with my bf scence i was 12 i am now 16. we have sex at least 5 times a week or more. we are veary happy. we want a baby .....badly. i have 2 small symptomes, watery discharge and i only want cold foods. could i be preganate...am i preganate? please let me no????
Honey! You probably have an infection, or something called an "Hysterical Pregnancy" It happens when you think or want a baby SO badly that your brain actually thinks you are pregnant. I think it is more likely that you have an infection.
I would suggest you go to your doctor and have a swab and urine test taken, and perhaps an ultrasound of your ovaries - just to make sure there's nothing going on.
I know you are in love honey, BUT having a baby is a HUGE undertaking. A lifetime job! And even though you truly believe you can handle it, it is not an undertaking to be made at such a young age. I know I know, you think you are old enough and mature enough. It takes THOUSANDS of dollars to raise a baby in the 1st year alone, there is teething, rashes, vomit, diareha, sleepless nights, anxiety, and sometimes despair. You need to be in a relationship that you are with each other all the time and there to support each other, if one is too exhausted to take care of the baby. IF you think about welfare or any other aid, this isn't a life of luxary in ANY way possible. It CAN be a lifetime of being on Welfare, and your child following suit! It means not going out with your friends, because you have no one to watch the baby! It means taking buses and strollers, everywhere, because you can't afford a car! It's not easy even for ADULT married couples, never mind young people who think it is a sign of your love!!!
I am not diminishing your love or commitment too each other honey, I just want you to know that, just becasue some star on TV got prgnant at 16 and shows up on the front of people magazine holding their babies and looking as happy as possible. They have MILLIONS of dollars, and a whack load of people helping them. You don't see them with no sleep and puke over their shirts. Remember when Britney Spears had a melt down after her children, and everyone jumped on her. What she experienced is called "Post partum depression, or baby blues" BUT the world and the stupid media, damned her bcause she couldn't keep it together - for what reason because she was a star? MANY women get baby blues, in varying degrees, honey, what you have to realize is that you wont be able to avoid that, and that combined with NO sleep and pain, can be a terrible mix! Of course there are the upsides to having your own child. BUT the downsides are not shown enough to young people.
You both have to think of HOW you are going to come up with the Thousands of dollars/pounds, that it IS going to cost to raise this baby for the 1st year? Even if your boyfriend is working fulltime, it will be YOU at home taking care of that baby 24/7! PLUS because he is 16 he and there are very little jobs in ALL of our countries right now, the chances of him getting good employement are pretty low!!! I want you both to think of another option for showing you love! Getting a promise ring - or something that will symbolize your love and commitment to the fact that in 2 or 3 years THEN you will consider having a baby getting married etc.
I know I'm being a TOTAL downer right now, BUT there is one other thing for you to think about. Because of your age, Social SErvices will be involved from day 1. And IF they see anything wrong, they can and WILL take the baby. So PLEASE reconsider having a baby, for ALL of your sakes, and ALL of your futures. Because one decision COULD have ramifications that you NEVER expected. So please be careful OK? Perhaps go to your nearest school for young mothers, see how they are coping etc. Talk to other teens in similar situations, in most areas there are "high risk" groups - teenagers that want to be parents. These groups give you the REAL story on being a teenage parent, and ALL that it involves.
I wish you health, and a POSITIVE future. 1st go and get checked out by your doctor. And perhaps IF you decide to wait - which I hope you do - get on the pill till you are TOTALLY ready. Good luck hon!
I would suggest you go to your doctor and have a swab and urine test taken, and perhaps an ultrasound of your ovaries - just to make sure there's nothing going on.
I know you are in love honey, BUT having a baby is a HUGE undertaking. A lifetime job! And even though you truly believe you can handle it, it is not an undertaking to be made at such a young age. I know I know, you think you are old enough and mature enough. It takes THOUSANDS of dollars to raise a baby in the 1st year alone, there is teething, rashes, vomit, diareha, sleepless nights, anxiety, and sometimes despair. You need to be in a relationship that you are with each other all the time and there to support each other, if one is too exhausted to take care of the baby. IF you think about welfare or any other aid, this isn't a life of luxary in ANY way possible. It CAN be a lifetime of being on Welfare, and your child following suit! It means not going out with your friends, because you have no one to watch the baby! It means taking buses and strollers, everywhere, because you can't afford a car! It's not easy even for ADULT married couples, never mind young people who think it is a sign of your love!!!
I am not diminishing your love or commitment too each other honey, I just want you to know that, just becasue some star on TV got prgnant at 16 and shows up on the front of people magazine holding their babies and looking as happy as possible. They have MILLIONS of dollars, and a whack load of people helping them. You don't see them with no sleep and puke over their shirts. Remember when Britney Spears had a melt down after her children, and everyone jumped on her. What she experienced is called "Post partum depression, or baby blues" BUT the world and the stupid media, damned her bcause she couldn't keep it together - for what reason because she was a star? MANY women get baby blues, in varying degrees, honey, what you have to realize is that you wont be able to avoid that, and that combined with NO sleep and pain, can be a terrible mix! Of course there are the upsides to having your own child. BUT the downsides are not shown enough to young people.
You both have to think of HOW you are going to come up with the Thousands of dollars/pounds, that it IS going to cost to raise this baby for the 1st year? Even if your boyfriend is working fulltime, it will be YOU at home taking care of that baby 24/7! PLUS because he is 16 he and there are very little jobs in ALL of our countries right now, the chances of him getting good employement are pretty low!!! I want you both to think of another option for showing you love! Getting a promise ring - or something that will symbolize your love and commitment to the fact that in 2 or 3 years THEN you will consider having a baby getting married etc.
I know I'm being a TOTAL downer right now, BUT there is one other thing for you to think about. Because of your age, Social SErvices will be involved from day 1. And IF they see anything wrong, they can and WILL take the baby. So PLEASE reconsider having a baby, for ALL of your sakes, and ALL of your futures. Because one decision COULD have ramifications that you NEVER expected. So please be careful OK? Perhaps go to your nearest school for young mothers, see how they are coping etc. Talk to other teens in similar situations, in most areas there are "high risk" groups - teenagers that want to be parents. These groups give you the REAL story on being a teenage parent, and ALL that it involves.
I wish you health, and a POSITIVE future. 1st go and get checked out by your doctor. And perhaps IF you decide to wait - which I hope you do - get on the pill till you are TOTALLY ready. Good luck hon!