No sex desire

i went and am going through it..part of it is shes so tired from the baby trust me...the other part is we dont feel like we used to inside and out..we feel ugly fat unattractive and if she has had bad experiences it seems to kinda catch up with us which makes us feel sick to our stomach at least me...and i also have a problem with feeling like its all the guy wants....lights go off so lets screw...well the only things i can say to do is give it time be understanding dont pressure her or youll never get it and if you do shell force her self and feel even more disgusted with herself...so just be there and make her feel beautiful tell her you love her and show her you dont care bout sex...that might bring her around...and when it starts to be real romantic and try not to make her feel like its a requirement be exciting about it when you finally get to go at it again lol...like when you were young or in beginning of relationship... but thats just personal experience...good luck and be kind to her she needs it