I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now, and we just started having sex 6 months into our relationship (i was a virgin and wanted to do the whole waiting thing.) sex was painful in the beginning, but i thought that was perfectly normal since i was a virgin. but lately, things have gotten worse. when we first start doing it, i'm aroused down there & it's fine. but after a few minutes, i begin to dry out almost COMPLETELY. this causes the condom to rub raw against my inner labia. just for the record, my inner labia are longer than my outer, which makes sex just not so easy, period. (they get caught and pull.. it's horrible) so when i'm dry, it's just double the pain. it hurts so bad, i have to tell my boyfriend to stop. it's happened a couple of times already, and it's really depressing me. although sex isn't everything, i feel it is and important factor in a relationship. and i feel that if i can't resolve this issue soon, i might lose him.
sorry for making that a novel. lol. but i just thought i should explain everything. i would really really appreciate some advice, because i don't know what to do. :( thank you guys so much. <33
sorry for making that a novel. lol. but i just thought i should explain everything. i would really really appreciate some advice, because i don't know what to do. :( thank you guys so much. <33
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if your natural lubrication is drying up too soon, you need to use KY jelly, or similar water based lubricant to stop the dryness and prevant the chaffing which is causing you so much discomfort.
you say when you start off you are wet down there, but maybe you need more foreplay, so that you are so highly aroused that you are almost reaching your climax, then if bf enters you at that time , you should be very wet and both of you should reach orgasm quickly, perhaps within 5 mins of penetration. that should be pleasurable for you to reach your climax, and hopefully the experience will be pain free.
many women have inner labia that are quite long, so you are not unusual in that respect.
if you wanty some advice on how to get close to your climax by fore -play, i suggest getting bf to suck your nipples and play with your clitoris for around 20 mins.
that works for many women.
I wish you well and hope it works out OK for you.
you say when you start off you are wet down there, but maybe you need more foreplay, so that you are so highly aroused that you are almost reaching your climax, then if bf enters you at that time , you should be very wet and both of you should reach orgasm quickly, perhaps within 5 mins of penetration. that should be pleasurable for you to reach your climax, and hopefully the experience will be pain free.
many women have inner labia that are quite long, so you are not unusual in that respect.
if you wanty some advice on how to get close to your climax by fore -play, i suggest getting bf to suck your nipples and play with your clitoris for around 20 mins.
that works for many women.
I wish you well and hope it works out OK for you.
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