You know the ol' saying if ya don't get it at home you'll go elsewhere?? It rings so true here for lots of us. I get what I need here. Ya know what I'm sayin?
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What's funny is... I LOVE PEOPLE WHO CAN GRASP THE ENTIRE IDEA OF IT.
What's better for me right now is someone who has covered it as well. Don't know why? Probably because they somewhere had the same mindset as I at one point of time to cover those miles.
I'm a running snob and the rest are commoners, yes? :P
What's better for me right now is someone who has covered it as well. Don't know why? Probably because they somewhere had the same mindset as I at one point of time to cover those miles.
I'm a running snob and the rest are commoners, yes? :P
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My husband used to run, but because of physical limitations he cannot. He likes to walk. He doesn't actively try and stay fit.
I'm overweight, but exercise regularly to stay fit. He enjoys hearing about my milestones and knowing I get excited about going to the gym. He hates the frivolous details...he says "Isn't that what the Riff Raffers are for?" I don't like hearing about the details about his golf game.
I would not (nor would he) ever tell me it bothers him and to stop talking about it.
I love to hear and read training tales. I love to see people running on the side of the road and want to talk to them about their run today. I'm weird, I guess.
How I get around explaining RF.com...you people are in my running club :D
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I exercised and ran before I met my hubby and he was always active. But we have become mildly obsessed with exercising together.
We trained and completed our first marathon together.
He is the reason I bike. I started biking with him when we dated and we still bike together.
We trained for and did our first triathlon together.
I would not be the "athlete" I am without his encouragement. I enjoy exercising because I do it with him. I can't imagine being with someone who didn't share in my loves. If he didn't share but did encourage, that I could probably live with.
We trained and completed our first marathon together.
He is the reason I bike. I started biking with him when we dated and we still bike together.
We trained for and did our first triathlon together.
I would not be the "athlete" I am without his encouragement. I enjoy exercising because I do it with him. I can't imagine being with someone who didn't share in my loves. If he didn't share but did encourage, that I could probably live with.
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I kinda feel that way too. My SO is a bit of a couch potato, although I know he used to lift and keeps talking about getting back into it. His comment the first time I told him "I ran 5 miles last night" was....for what? Who was chasing you? Only half kidding....but he does support what I like to do and does put up with me talking about it. I do, however, have OTHER interests in life, some of which we share. I am not nearly as obsessed with it as I was a couple of years ago when I was running and racing more often, and if I ever do get back into that mindset, I can come here or another forum to discuss the ins and outs of training et al. Like your friend, Noley, I lost my enthusiasm after a series of injuries and illnesses and just never got the fire back that I once had. So now I just do it for me. Perhaps that's the difference......having it be a HUGE part of your life, yes, I could see where this could cause conflicts. For me, it really doesn't matter. I accept him for who he is, I have running friends to train with if I ever really get back into it, and I know he finds even my small gains something to be proud of, because he tells me that. He doesn't get it, doesn't want to do it, but he'll listen to it and I know he's impressed because I heard him telling his sister "ask her how far she ran Saturday."
To each his own. I also knew a woman who was completely obsessed with running and training and I often felt sorry for her spouse having to listen to what I could just imagine was an endless stream of yakety yak about the same thing every day. Just like all work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy, all one thing and no other interests makes people dull too. Just my :twocents:...take what you want and toss the rest.
To each his own. I also knew a woman who was completely obsessed with running and training and I often felt sorry for her spouse having to listen to what I could just imagine was an endless stream of yakety yak about the same thing every day. Just like all work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy, all one thing and no other interests makes people dull too. Just my :twocents:...take what you want and toss the rest.
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I can relate alot to this quote. You might be talking about my husband. When he was trying to coax me into running in the 90's, I had no interest in it. Then he became a Type 1 Diabetic, which means he's insulin dependent. Then I lost weight, and then started running. My DH was really pretty negative about the whole running experience, especially training for my first half-marathon, and then the full marathon!
Well, it turns out he was jealous. Because he couldn't do what he could do at a younger age. And now I was doing it.
I called him out on it and we've actaually resolved the marathon training issue...he's become rather supportive, and is always bragging about me to his friends...
but yes, for a first date I would be very disapointed in this conversation of "Can't" and "won't" be interested. There's too many other issues with this man that you don't need the baggage of in your life.
Well, it turns out he was jealous. Because he couldn't do what he could do at a younger age. And now I was doing it.
I called him out on it and we've actaually resolved the marathon training issue...he's become rather supportive, and is always bragging about me to his friends...
but yes, for a first date I would be very disapointed in this conversation of "Can't" and "won't" be interested. There's too many other issues with this man that you don't need the baggage of in your life.
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I read this and see what I'd like to have in a relationship. You can both be rubber and glue...bounce ideas, activities, events off each other...then stick together in the long run.
Be there for encouragement...
Share the same loves in life...
This is what I see being my perfect fit one day (if there ever is one). I want someone to say when I go out to run, "Run one for me...I'll be there for you." or when I'm finished, "How'd it go? Did you get a good run in?"...
I want the support, sharing, encouragement, understanding...
I'll be looking for this, I'm sure.
Wow Dancer, you're lucky.
:D
Be there for encouragement...
Share the same loves in life...
This is what I see being my perfect fit one day (if there ever is one). I want someone to say when I go out to run, "Run one for me...I'll be there for you." or when I'm finished, "How'd it go? Did you get a good run in?"...
I want the support, sharing, encouragement, understanding...
I'll be looking for this, I'm sure.
Wow Dancer, you're lucky.
:D
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Interesting question. After I announced that I was going to train for and run a marathon my wife decided to train for and run it with me. I had to bring my pace down, but we did every step of the way - training and races - together.
I decided that I wanted to do another and push myself, go sub 4, just to see if I could do it. She still ran with me on my shorter days, but I lost my long run buddy. But I had no problem doing slow 3-5 milers with her, just so we could be together.
She always supported me, because she saw it from my frame of reference, the outlook of a runner.
That said, as I re-enter dating life (guess the running didn't prove to be the glue I had hoped it might be) I don't really hold a shared love of running as a pre-requisite for compatibility. There are so many other things that come into play. That said, I do like fit women, so I'm not going to be interested if a potential partner is a couch potato that loves the golden arches.
Nolefan, sounds like your friend was giving you a clear signal to "quit the running talk". It doesn't fit for everyone. I have friends that I love to talk running with, friends I love to talk biking with, and friends I love to talk swimming with. I also have friends that do none of those things, but we still love to drink and dance and have fun. It takes all kind to make a party.
I decided that I wanted to do another and push myself, go sub 4, just to see if I could do it. She still ran with me on my shorter days, but I lost my long run buddy. But I had no problem doing slow 3-5 milers with her, just so we could be together.
She always supported me, because she saw it from my frame of reference, the outlook of a runner.
That said, as I re-enter dating life (guess the running didn't prove to be the glue I had hoped it might be) I don't really hold a shared love of running as a pre-requisite for compatibility. There are so many other things that come into play. That said, I do like fit women, so I'm not going to be interested if a potential partner is a couch potato that loves the golden arches.
Nolefan, sounds like your friend was giving you a clear signal to "quit the running talk". It doesn't fit for everyone. I have friends that I love to talk running with, friends I love to talk biking with, and friends I love to talk swimming with. I also have friends that do none of those things, but we still love to drink and dance and have fun. It takes all kind to make a party.
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I'm with Rocket....she doesn't have to be a runner, but she has to be supportive and understanding....it would be nice to see her at the finish line with a smile and a cold bottle of Powerade......and then there's the massage....heheheheh.... 8)
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I truly get this and there is much more to it to have fun with someone that does not involve running.
I guess my point is that I truly need to have my exercise habits, running endeavors, working out, etc...at least supported and encouraged. You're right, it doesn't fit everyone and I'm sure I have a totally different mindset than the general population of people.
It was just funny how my mind has switched and I really sat there defending myself in something I like so much. I just figured that I could at least be supported. Perhaps it takes time for someone to understand??? Not sure?
BTW. I didn't even bring the topic of running up at that time. It was in the forefront of his mind and he decided to say something. I guess it's something that can bother people in his situation where he cannot do all the things I can. I would have to learn to "zip it" at times I'm sure.
I guess my point is that I truly need to have my exercise habits, running endeavors, working out, etc...at least supported and encouraged. You're right, it doesn't fit everyone and I'm sure I have a totally different mindset than the general population of people.
It was just funny how my mind has switched and I really sat there defending myself in something I like so much. I just figured that I could at least be supported. Perhaps it takes time for someone to understand??? Not sure?
BTW. I didn't even bring the topic of running up at that time. It was in the forefront of his mind and he decided to say something. I guess it's something that can bother people in his situation where he cannot do all the things I can. I would have to learn to "zip it" at times I'm sure.
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maybe I'm different. I'm like Dancer, where we are both active.......but, I'm different because "I" can sometimes be that SO that is a little resentful of his time committments. He works very long hours and then his workouts are very long too. I feel that he's choosing to spend time away from us. We work weekends around his workouts, whereas I work my workouts around family time. He would never get up at 4:30 on a Sat or Sun so he could be with family. There are a few other issues involved here, but sometimes I wish I married a couch potato and wasn't involved in my running AT ALL
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I think it is important that they understand what you're trying to do and achieve otherwise everything would seem like a waste of time and energy to them. I am single and still live in my parents' home and my non-runner parents can never comprehend why I run at least 6 days a week and log an excess of 70+ mpw...They think I'm obsessed (well, I guess most runners are, at least a little) and wasting my time away...I don't know what it is with them but they just don't support what I'm doing...So I do feel sort of alienated I guess...
My parents rarely encouraged physical activity in the family until recently when my 11-year old brother went for a med-checkup...he was found to be overweight for his height and had above normal levels of triglycerides and cholesterol for his age...kinda sad but common I guess of the generation of kids these days where obesity is on the rise...of course that was the result of an unhealthy diet combine with hours lazing in front of the TV and computer...that was when they started to implement daily exercise (at least for him)..my mom now takes him to a local running track to get him to run a few laps...(she jogs with him too)
My parents rarely encouraged physical activity in the family until recently when my 11-year old brother went for a med-checkup...he was found to be overweight for his height and had above normal levels of triglycerides and cholesterol for his age...kinda sad but common I guess of the generation of kids these days where obesity is on the rise...of course that was the result of an unhealthy diet combine with hours lazing in front of the TV and computer...that was when they started to implement daily exercise (at least for him)..my mom now takes him to a local running track to get him to run a few laps...(she jogs with him too)
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I started running 4 years ago because I got the second best rate for life insurance. How insulting!
My wife runs occasionally and ran cross-country in high school. She is, for the most part, supportive of me.
However, I am one those guys that analyzes everything, need very concrete goals, etc. For example, I want to run a sub 20" 5K by the end of the summer. I am slowly adding miles, up to 45 mpw. Sometimes with my job and taking care of our three boys I find myself running at night, 10-11pm. (We can do that in Alaska, sunsets after 11pm.) This is where I can tell she wants to criticize but holds back, (so far.)
The only criticism I have had so far is that I run too slow for as many miles I run and I am losing too much weight.
My wife runs occasionally and ran cross-country in high school. She is, for the most part, supportive of me.
However, I am one those guys that analyzes everything, need very concrete goals, etc. For example, I want to run a sub 20" 5K by the end of the summer. I am slowly adding miles, up to 45 mpw. Sometimes with my job and taking care of our three boys I find myself running at night, 10-11pm. (We can do that in Alaska, sunsets after 11pm.) This is where I can tell she wants to criticize but holds back, (so far.)
The only criticism I have had so far is that I run too slow for as many miles I run and I am losing too much weight.
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