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What Noley is really trying to say is based on that date with a guy she barely knows who lives across the country is she figured out that physical fitness is important to her and is an important quality in the person she will ultimately choose to date in the future and/or develop a relationship with. She didn't realized until that date how important it was to her. She's not necessarily interested in THAT guy who got her thinking about it.
She is realizing through the responses that it is more important to have someone supportive of your own physical fitness goals and understand them rather than someone to share in it (especially if they can't through injury or whatever).
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Due to the fact that I can no longer run sometimes it makes it very very difficult to hear about the great runs or gym time Mr Aire has had--because I don't know if I'll ever ever get that again.
There could be deep sadness behind his words--it sounds like a thorn in his side, something that causes him pain.
But then again, I could just be reading it wrong. Perhaps he's just an azz.
But as I said before, common goals--whether you both veg, or birdwatch, or stampcollect--or tolerate those activities in your mate is what makes all the difference. Going in the same direction.
Noley isn't wrong and neither is he. She should probably move on because it is an important part of her life--and for someone to not be on board with that would make for a troubled and unhappy relationship.
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It is all about compromise.
I figure if I can get my runs in, giving up several races is a fair compromise.
She though never wants to run.
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"it takes every kind of people to make what life's about"
i can see how a non-physical person would be HO-HUMMED out of his or her mind at even the thought of the physical run. i was a non-physical person for most of my life. i only started running 5 years ago. i scoffed at any form of exercise before that time but i am most grateful to have made the change. however, i can't believe i've become so narrow minded and hypocrital in my viewpoint.
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She's beside herself with grief. :cry:
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Is there a Noley River out that that I don't know about?
:LOL:
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OK. I'm jumping right back into this. First of all, my friend is nice and not a jerk in any kind of way. I would not have sat across from him while home if he were. I have known him for 20+ years and grew up with him. It goes all the way back to the lemonade he gave me at his garage sale when I was still in braces and a training bra...then to all the advice giving he gave me before/after FSU. He has been one to give me greatest advice and support on things. He can tell me how it is...I expect that of him...I've known him forever. The subject did just come up as we had dinner, yes. I could tell that it was important to him to express this, because it does hurt him to hear it from me. He was very phsically active...in incredible shape...played all sorts of sports and on teams... I think he had to say it because I do talk about my running endeavors on most days. Perhaps he cannot hear it all of the time? I could tell in his eyes that what I do does hurt him. Get that? It was mentioned by RP that there are many things to make people interesting in life. Not just running. I think my friend is very nice. He and I have many common grounds to stand on, yes. I wouldn't make his issues about my running a deal breaker as I said I would. However, I'd have to seriously consider if I'd be the best girl for him...him for me...if ever together. I'd need the support of what I do from a person, any person, in a relationship. Right now, I do like to have someone in my life with the common ground of being active like I am though. I've said this already...
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I'm just asking because I rarely talk about running to non-runners because I figure it would really bore them.
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However, anyone that knows me KNOWS that this is a part of my life. I spend many hours a week training and at the gym for one to know this.
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Heck, when I'm recovering or injured, I don't want to hear about hubby's "great" workout, however, I do and "act" excited, but deep down I can be sad and/or jealous. I have felt some resentment from him sometimes if I have a successful racing season and he doesn't. (no one wants a cool Sept day more than me)
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