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Sex is something that two people have to work out TOGETHER. You aren't just born knowing what feels good for you or your partner and neither was he. Everyone is different in what feels good for them and how to make the big "O" happen. You shouldn't be faking it to make HIM feel good, you should let him know what feels good for you and he should want to keep trying until he's able to give you the most pleasurable feeling possible. But he needs your help in finding all the right spots and motions. If you don't know because you didn't learn from masturbation when you were younger, the two of you can now have a wonderful time exploring your body (and his because you need to learn how to please him too). Just be honest and open with each other about what you are feeling and what you want to feel and go to it --- for fun.
If he is making you squirt, that's NOT pee, the pee mechanism is closed off in both males and females during arousal. Squirting is usually associated with caressing the G spot up inside your vagina although some girls of porn seem to make it work by giving their clit a real workout.
You are mainly looking to have an orgasm right now, which is usually accomplished by caressing the clitoris. If your clit can be uncovered by lifting the hood, that's a good place to begin. It is the equivalent of the head of a penis and that's where most of the fun nerves are located. You girls have many more fun nerves in that tiny nub than we guys have in our heads so you should be able to get some really intense pleasure from it. The exposed part is only the tip of it. It has two legs that go down both sides of your vulva like roots on a tooth. For my wife that's where I start, by caressing both sides with two fingers, up and down all the way from the top near the tip of the clit to about where the vagina is, slowly at first then a little faster but changing speed while I'm doing it. Then I begin touching the clit area (hers is hidden so I don't really have a clit to play with) always tenderly, sometimes up and down and sometimes across it sideways. If your's can be exposed so he can touch it directly you need to be sure it's well lubricated. Spit will do but if you squirt, you may have plenty of natural lubricant from inside your vagina.
If you both want to try oral sex, his tongue is the perfect thing to use on your clit and it feels great to have your whole vulva licked all over and around and inside your vagina if he can get his tongue in there a bit. Playing around the tip of the urethra with a tongue is also nice. Some gentle sucking on your clit and inner lips if you have them, is usually nice too. Your clit may become too sensitive as you get close to an orgasm and you may have to finish off without touching/licking it directly.
I'm jealous because you girls have so many wonderful parts that respond so well to loving care. All you need to do is spend some time with your lover figuring out what works best for you. It takes time, don't get discouraged, it's a lot of fun and enjoyment. How could getting loving attention on your best parts be anything but? The longer it takes, the more fun you have.
For God's sake, don't be embarassed about any part of your body. God was practicing when he made us guys. He perfected the design when he made you girls. He put all those parts there for (y)our pleasure, we need to figure out how to use it and that's a whole lot of fun.
It took me years to learn how to give my wife the pleasure we eventually developed. She had never masturbated so she didn't know what worked for her. He may be more experienced, but not on your body and that's what counts now.
So go to it and if you'd like to, I'd like to hear back from you about how this helped or didn't help you.
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