Relationship with medicated bipolar

Bentley1,
Hi I am going through the exact same situation as you. except I am male and my partner is female with BP and she has two kids. And I can tell you right now it can only get better. I have been with my partner for 7 months and experienced the highs and lows to a degree but she was medicated and it was fine. As long as they know whats wrong with them and are being treated, they want to be treated and want that life with you. I say move forward with him if you love him cause it will be worth it.
As for me we got pregnant in January and she had to get off her medication and it has been hell ever since. The withdraw was herendous, she has changed into I completely different person and she knows it and she can't help it. We just broke up, we still talk, but in the course of one night she kicked me out and the dead beat father of the two kids decided to show up from california and she let him move in. He know she was off her medication and saw that opening and took it. I am devastated! She wants to get back on the medication as soon as possible and this pregnancy is really hard on her. Its the stress and anxiety and its all because of that a hole coming back and turning her life into turmoil. I am just hoping once she gets back on her medication everything will get better they have to. So any words of advice or encouragement?

Hello dustan13 and bentley1


I just ended a two year relationship with my daughters dad ( she is only 10 months) and i have another daughter from before that is 11. I was the hardest thing i had to do... But the roller coaster we (because the children are effected too more than we know) were riding was going to crash. So i had to do the best thing for myself and the girls... I have learned that no matter how much i love him and no matter what i do i can not fix him.. I did not want to live my life not knowing... How my day was going to be depending on what kind of mood he was in... We can love them and pray for them but dont have to live in misery... I spent two years trying to fix him, and lost myself and my happiness... My advice to you is if you stay be ready for the ride.. Good and bad... As long as you know what you and the kids are in for hold on tight ... I will always love him and pray for him but I am not riding on the roller coaster any more. I know life has ups and downs but not only ups and downs... He is a wonderful man, loving, giving, understanding, kind and a great father but the opposite is not what I want or need. So I will continue to pray for him that he can find some stubality in his life for himself and his children... And i will love him always but i don't have to live it any more... God bless you both I hope this helped... May the lord be with you >>>

Thank u for responding.. my experience to date hasnt been too bad. I say that but he has revealed an addiction i was unaware of which was present at the time we met. Amazingly i see him turning that around now. Free of the trappings of that and starting to look fit and healthy and alive again. I witness the total obnoxiousness of bpd when he hits a low and the wrench emotionally on me when those few days occur. I have to say i am already quite vulnerable and dented and hence why i became very attached to him because of how he was able to nurture that and comfort me like no man ever will again. For that i love him and always will. I have made future plans which will not be possible to apply for a good few years and i continue to observe with a view that should the relationship become out of bounds i have these plans in place for me and the girls irreespective of a partner. I do love him but wil make a decision over time. I myself am only just beginningto let him in emotionally anyway and the attachment is strong. But i have suffered far worse and if the relationship has folded as a result of his illness so be it. So i observe with interest and continue to oversee and if we fall apart he touched my life in a way noone else would. BPD for all its suffering and for all its ugly side reveals a beauty that cant be compared. As with al of us thats the problem and it takes a great deal of strength to part out of time. It also takes a great deal of strength to stay with it overseeing the problems that can arise. x

hi its bentley1

Dustan13 did you receive my response ?

Hey I really liked what you had to say about everything. Iv been with a guy for 3 1/2 years now we have a 2 year old son. And he is currently in rehab and has just been diagnosed with bipolar. So our relationship so far has been an insane horrible rollercoaster. He will be released from rehab in a week and is now medicated and seems like a whole new person. I feel like I need to allow him to come home to help him through this And feel like there might be a chance for our family now. But I do not want anything to do with how things were and if this is still going to always be a battle I don't want a part of it. So u believe ppl that are medicated for bipolar are still a rolercoaster ?

A year ago my whole world came crashing down. Long story short even with medication it is still a roller coaster. I lost myself, my self worth and it’s been a year later and I’m fibally starting to see my self again. I’m finally come back to life. I was madly in love with my partner and he just up and broke up with me randomly out of no where and dispeared. He didn’t even care and didn’t even notice the pain he left me with. I was left with picking up the pieces. I went to countless thearpies. Like I said it’s been a year and I’m fibally coming back around. Some days are still hard but I look back and I realize thank God I’m out of that. Life is hard enough, can you imagine what else worse could happen. If they left you first time they will do it again. Even my pdoc told me to find more stable people. Even with medication like my ex was on you’re still walking in egg shells and you never know when they will up leave you and your left with all memories and pain to realize you were just a game and you were tricked. They all tell you they love you and they are sweetest people. My ex was the best boyfriend I ever had and I never felt so loved by anyone then him but he woke up one day and left. Who does that? Who just leaves with out a conversation? Who just moves on with out feelings, remorse? That’s what happended to me. I was so depressed I was put antidepressants and sleep aid for the first time in my life. I could function. In the end all I know I never felt like that with anyone but him but I never felt so depressed and sad over someone. I wish all of you best but I thank gosh that he left me and I gave chance to have good life with out the drama and roller coaster. I also have several bp friends and many of the traits are the same. I have compassion for person with bipolar but I also know how tough it is to be with one. I. The end I know how it feels and most of yib will take their partner back just so you know it will happen again. With any mental illness it takes about ten years to really tackle it. Just bc they take meds doesn’t mean the bipolar is gone. All medication does is prevent Mania abs major depression. That means they still have majority of their symptoms. Good luck but if I could give any advice I would leave and run while you can. My peanuts and my friends and family had to pull me out of the worst depression of my life after that relationship. If you think you been sad you will feel kind of pain you feel like this, being with person with this condition. I hope better mediation comes out for those who need it. It’s.l very sad illness and distinctive.