Hi, I am 21 years old and I am pregnant for two months. I am not ready to have a baby yet because I want to finish my collage so having baby in this moment would disrupt my plans. I have decided together with my boyfriend that I will go on abortion but I am afraid because one my friend suffered uterine rupture during abortion. I would like to know how big the risk is that something like that can happen to me.
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Hi, rupture of uterus is very serious complication. It is mistake which gynecologist may do while he is removing surface layers of uterus after abortion. Risk is not big and it is not something that happens frequently. Your friend really didn't have luck when that happened to you. I suggest you to choose experienced gynecologist and there is no reason to worry.
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Rupture is rare due to abortion, but it is a risk. There is risk to every medical procedure and a good doctor will go over the risks and benefits t-of a procedure such as abortion before it is done. In fact, it is required that they explain the procedure or surgery before it is done so that you are informed before you sign the consent form. We call it informed consent in the medical field.
May I ask if you have considered all your options before coming to this decision? I sense a hesitation on your part. I realize that 20 is young to have a baby and this was not in your plans, but if you are old enough to have sex, then you should be old enough to deal with the consequences. You could have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are lots of couples who cannot have biological children who would bend over backwards to adopt a healthy newborn. There are lots of agencies/attorneys who arrange adoptions and who would be willing to pay your expenses for carrying this baby and giving it up for adoption.
If you feel you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it up, you might consider finding a family member who is willing to raise the baby. There is also the possibility of keeping the baby and changing your plans. There are plenty of women out there who have a baby and still manage to finish college. Yes, it is harder to raise a child and go to school, but it can be done.
And then there is the option of abortion, but you also have to be able to live with your decision if you take this option. Your baby at two months is a fully formed baby with fingernails, eyes, fingers, toes, and beating heart, etc. If you see this baby as an object who can't feel and who doesn't know anything, then maybe you can live with yourself if you chose to end its life. However, if you realize that this baby is already a person with feelings and you don't think you can go through with ending his/her life, then its time to look into the other options.
I totally think you have the right to do what you think it best, but I also think you need all the facts before you can make a decision and getting incorrect or exagerated medical info from a friend is *not* the best info to base a decison as important as this one on.
Go see your doctor or a free women's clinic and sit down and get some pregnancy counseling before you make your final decision. I wish you, your baby, and your boyfriend the best! Good luck!
May I ask if you have considered all your options before coming to this decision? I sense a hesitation on your part. I realize that 20 is young to have a baby and this was not in your plans, but if you are old enough to have sex, then you should be old enough to deal with the consequences. You could have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are lots of couples who cannot have biological children who would bend over backwards to adopt a healthy newborn. There are lots of agencies/attorneys who arrange adoptions and who would be willing to pay your expenses for carrying this baby and giving it up for adoption.
If you feel you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it up, you might consider finding a family member who is willing to raise the baby. There is also the possibility of keeping the baby and changing your plans. There are plenty of women out there who have a baby and still manage to finish college. Yes, it is harder to raise a child and go to school, but it can be done.
And then there is the option of abortion, but you also have to be able to live with your decision if you take this option. Your baby at two months is a fully formed baby with fingernails, eyes, fingers, toes, and beating heart, etc. If you see this baby as an object who can't feel and who doesn't know anything, then maybe you can live with yourself if you chose to end its life. However, if you realize that this baby is already a person with feelings and you don't think you can go through with ending his/her life, then its time to look into the other options.
I totally think you have the right to do what you think it best, but I also think you need all the facts before you can make a decision and getting incorrect or exagerated medical info from a friend is *not* the best info to base a decison as important as this one on.
Go see your doctor or a free women's clinic and sit down and get some pregnancy counseling before you make your final decision. I wish you, your baby, and your boyfriend the best! Good luck!
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