This is a 19 yr old guy. I constantly want to have close intimacy with my gf, want to touch, kiss, cuddle with her. I love it a lot but I feel like I'm stepping over the line when she trys to stop me. We never had sex, but just lately, we often lay on the bed and make out. She won't let me touch her breast, and I can't help doing it. We've been going out for a little more than a year. Are we going too fast? I have very strong sexual desire, I masterbate almost daily and I like to stop doing it so often as well as touching her too much since she doesn't like us being too close. How can I stop? =/
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ummm..you said you have been dating this girl a little over a year, and you havent had sex with her? that is SO far from taking things "too fast". well, in my opinion anyway.
i could be wrong by assuming that neither of you are virgins, but it just seems like you guys are pretty scared/nervous to get physical. well mostly your g/f is scared, by the sounds of things.
there is nothing wrong with taking things slow, in fact i wish that i had waited to have sex until i knew that the person it was with was the one i would spend the rest of my life with. but indeed, i had sex for the first time at the young age of 14. i had been going out with my g/f for 8 or 9 months at the time, but up until that point we had been very physical also. she was my first with anything. first kiss, all the way up to sex and beyond (anal, 69, threesome etc.). since then, i have had a very "on-and-off" relationship with this girl. the first time we broke up, the fact that we had had sex made things very emotionally complicated (especially for her). but alas, every time we broke up, saw other people/screwed around/had our freedom, we always ended up back together. now, we are happily engaged and have a 9 month old daughter ! :-D
if you do not plan on staying with this girl and getting married, it is best to wait until you find someone you want to get married to. it is very difficult to do that, because of emotions and hormones which rage almost uncontrollably when "in love", but i doubt anyone would deny that in the end, everyone wishes they would have waited.
you are far ahead of me my friend. i am almost 18 years old, and i have had sex with 9 people, and have in turn broken 9 hearts (or more, sadly). most of the girls i have had sex with, i wasnt dating though. one, i had just met that afternoon. and two, i had only known for less than two days. im not proud of any of those, and now i have to deal with the pain i caused my girlfriend when i banged all those other girls. its not cool to hurt people, and when sex gets thrown into any relationship that doesnt have its bearings set in stone, people are bound to get hurt.
i could be wrong by assuming that neither of you are virgins, but it just seems like you guys are pretty scared/nervous to get physical. well mostly your g/f is scared, by the sounds of things.
there is nothing wrong with taking things slow, in fact i wish that i had waited to have sex until i knew that the person it was with was the one i would spend the rest of my life with. but indeed, i had sex for the first time at the young age of 14. i had been going out with my g/f for 8 or 9 months at the time, but up until that point we had been very physical also. she was my first with anything. first kiss, all the way up to sex and beyond (anal, 69, threesome etc.). since then, i have had a very "on-and-off" relationship with this girl. the first time we broke up, the fact that we had had sex made things very emotionally complicated (especially for her). but alas, every time we broke up, saw other people/screwed around/had our freedom, we always ended up back together. now, we are happily engaged and have a 9 month old daughter ! :-D
if you do not plan on staying with this girl and getting married, it is best to wait until you find someone you want to get married to. it is very difficult to do that, because of emotions and hormones which rage almost uncontrollably when "in love", but i doubt anyone would deny that in the end, everyone wishes they would have waited.
you are far ahead of me my friend. i am almost 18 years old, and i have had sex with 9 people, and have in turn broken 9 hearts (or more, sadly). most of the girls i have had sex with, i wasnt dating though. one, i had just met that afternoon. and two, i had only known for less than two days. im not proud of any of those, and now i have to deal with the pain i caused my girlfriend when i banged all those other girls. its not cool to hurt people, and when sex gets thrown into any relationship that doesnt have its bearings set in stone, people are bound to get hurt.
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Cold water helps. You can stop from touching other. You should talk about your life plans and how marriage fits into your plans. The reality is that marriage is not a programmable thing when it's for love. Nature brought you together and nature is what you have with each other and both of you feel the need to procreate, so you either plan a way to proceed with nature or a way out of it.
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