Thank you for the info will take you advice and try to make it better for her.my girth is average I guess never thought about that.but will ask her that question. I will also ask if she wants to talk to you about this.somtimes I wish that a more mature woman would teach me how to use it.because I have grown tired tired try to make this work with my girlfriend.i am just wondering if there is any ladies out there in this forum that can help anything would help.
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Your welcome and in glad I could give you a little help, it may be easier for your girlfriend to talk to someone she doesn't know rather than talk to you but I understand if she doesn't want to, if she would rather talk to me in private so you don't see what she is talking about all she has to do is make an account and she should be able to pm me to talk after 5 open page posts.
Even if an older woman was to teach you it doesn't mean that what she finds good any other woman will because every woman find different things turn them on or they like it different ways that is why I say communication is the answer to a good sex life, if she doesn't like something you do or your not doing it just how she likes it then she should guide you to just how it feels good for her just the same as you should do for her if she isn't quite doing something right you just guide her.
If you want any more advice feel free to ask but one thing I will say is he you want me to see your message then make an account and send a private message to me.
Even if an older woman was to teach you it doesn't mean that what she finds good any other woman will because every woman find different things turn them on or they like it different ways that is why I say communication is the answer to a good sex life, if she doesn't like something you do or your not doing it just how she likes it then she should guide you to just how it feels good for her just the same as you should do for her if she isn't quite doing something right you just guide her.
If you want any more advice feel free to ask but one thing I will say is he you want me to see your message then make an account and send a private message to me.
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i understand ,but you dont think a more mature woman not only physical but mentally would have more experince in this. and how about more exprience in her vagina if know what i mean.and will be able to take it more in without causeing pain or able to enjoy it better?
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Yes she would have more experience but doesn't necessarily mean she can take it all without pain, as I said what feels good for her wouldn't necessary feel great for any other woman for the simple fact everyone is different.
I know woman that can orgasm from the slightest movement on her clitoris but another one who needs very hard fast clitoral stimulation to orgasm and the same with intercourse one can orgasm easy during intercourse in any position where as the other one can only orgasm during intercourse with some form of clitoral stimulation, you could have sex with the most experienced woman in the world and she could teach you everything she enjoys but doesn't mean every other woman would enjoy the same. The whole point of love Making is to find out by trial and error what each other likes and how you can make that experience better.
I know woman that can orgasm from the slightest movement on her clitoris but another one who needs very hard fast clitoral stimulation to orgasm and the same with intercourse one can orgasm easy during intercourse in any position where as the other one can only orgasm during intercourse with some form of clitoral stimulation, you could have sex with the most experienced woman in the world and she could teach you everything she enjoys but doesn't mean every other woman would enjoy the same. The whole point of love Making is to find out by trial and error what each other likes and how you can make that experience better.
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hmm makes sense what you say alot of sense the hard thing for me is doing it. not only doing it but doing it the correct way.i know it going to take a lot of work betwen my girlfrien and i . and she is going to know i was geting advise from someone .because we are going to talk alot. i am very nervous thinking about all this.what is the best way to confront her? and where?.i live alone in my apartment but all the bad expierineces has happen here she may feel unconfortable and even me.she lives with her mom. so thats not an option. and what if she wants to try some of the technics.very nervous???
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As I said I am only advising you from your perspective of what's wrong so it makes it difficult to understand the hole situation of what is making her so uncomfortable.
When you talk to her say that I am willing to help her and if she doesn't want to talk openly then what ever we discuss in private will be strictly between the two of us if she doesn't want you to know.
I doesn't matter where you are wether it be your apartment or a luxury hotel it will still be the same if she is shy, try setting the mood with dimmed lights and candles I don't know if either of you drink but if you do get some wine and make a nice meal for her make her feel special not like she is going into a lecture.
Have you had a chance to Google some of the things I said yet? Let her have a look at some of the positions I said and if she does want to try just take it steady and don't rush, are you able to bring her to orgasm with foreplay and oral sex if so go for that as an option to give her pleasure and don't let her feel like it's a choir and she has to return the favor.
Hope all goes well and let me know how you get on :)
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souds very romaniic dim ligt and some wine. now i cant wait to be with her.and by the way i can bring her to orgasm with oral and foreplay i have google position for sex and its very intresting.do you think i can show her these pages on the web or am i comming on to strong.? i want to bre patient with her.i hope she doesnt reject me because i have never talked to her about this. the things you advise me on. hopefully she doesnt see me differntly and think bad about me .her mother is very religous and has taught her good values.her mother likes me alot hopefilly my girlfriend doesnt tell her anything about our situation.
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If I was you I wouldn't bring the matter up straight away just say something like I have been looking for some answers online to make intercourse more enjoyable for you and come across this web forum and people have been really helpful on suggesting different positions so I don't go in so far. Don't copy my words exact that's just a way you could put it.
When you have foreplay do you start by just kissing then go straight for her vagina or do you just slowly undress her and kiss and tease her whole body before moving down to her vagina?
There is nothing bad about asking for help especially when you have tried all you know, seeing as her mother is very religious that is probably why your girlfriend is shy and lead a very sheltered life towards sex.
Just be patient with her and in sure in time she will bolder with what she does and how she responds.
When you have foreplay do you start by just kissing then go straight for her vagina or do you just slowly undress her and kiss and tease her whole body before moving down to her vagina?
There is nothing bad about asking for help especially when you have tried all you know, seeing as her mother is very religious that is probably why your girlfriend is shy and lead a very sheltered life towards sex.
Just be patient with her and in sure in time she will bolder with what she does and how she responds.
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yes i start undressing her slowly ,then caressing her whole body down to her toes even then stroking her vagina very slowly play around with her clit and start rubbing her there. then slowly work down to her vagina kissing her legs on the way down to vagina with my mouth. then i start oral sex on her .till she orgasm then she begins on me .sometimes that is all we do no penetration she say she really enjoys it that way but i always feel there is something missing. do you think thats the way to do the fore play and the oral sex?,or is there something else i should do or do different?
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Sorry I never replied until now but never see you reply.
It sounds fine to me what your doing and if she is happy without penetration and still getting orgasms through oral then I would say nothing is really missing, you could try spending more time on her erogenous zones to bring her to a higher point before she orgasms also have you found her gspot yet while you have been fingering her?
There are a couple more things for you to look up and research on how to do.
Hope you have both had a good weekend :)
It sounds fine to me what your doing and if she is happy without penetration and still getting orgasms through oral then I would say nothing is really missing, you could try spending more time on her erogenous zones to bring her to a higher point before she orgasms also have you found her gspot yet while you have been fingering her?
There are a couple more things for you to look up and research on how to do.
Hope you have both had a good weekend :)
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yes had a fair weekend with my girlfriend we did the usual oral and foreplay we had a long talk before that.i told her that i had found information in the internet about how we should try to try to work with me and my penis .told her about all the information that i had and that we should try it..she got very emotional started to cry and that made us depress.i am still depress.i ask her what was wrong she said she was sad because she couldnt please me and that she didnt feel like a woman.i told her that she was a woman to me.from there everthing went down hill.so i took her home said good bye and went home .so what do i do now?i have a feeling this is going to take a long time what do you think? how long do i wait before i talk to her?and what do i tell her now?
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Hi sorry to hear about that, not sure how often you normally talk to each other but I would say don't let this little problem stop you talking to her.
Tell her sex isn't everything and you love her because of the person she is and not just for great sex, you don't need intercourse to feel good about someone. Just say that it's not just her as many females have the same problem with a partner that has a larger than average penis and not to worry herself because she is the best woman you know.
Just reassure her that's she's not let you down and that most couples have some problems with intercourse to start with and she is still the same woman you fell in love with, show her some of the things I suggested if she wants to see but don't push her if she doesn't want to let her do it in her own time when she feels ready.
Things like this need patience because it's not something that happens over night.
Tell her sex isn't everything and you love her because of the person she is and not just for great sex, you don't need intercourse to feel good about someone. Just say that it's not just her as many females have the same problem with a partner that has a larger than average penis and not to worry herself because she is the best woman you know.
Just reassure her that's she's not let you down and that most couples have some problems with intercourse to start with and she is still the same woman you fell in love with, show her some of the things I suggested if she wants to see but don't push her if she doesn't want to let her do it in her own time when she feels ready.
Things like this need patience because it's not something that happens over night.
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do you think not having intercourse can go on forever ? i was planning on marrying this girl someday but now its on hold .do couples have relationship without intercourse ? i guess i meant to say successful realationships. and happy ones? i think that there will always be something missing between us.its a sad and sressful situation
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Of course couples can have successful relationships with little to no intercourse besides you still have a good sex life with foreplay and can both make each other happy with that, don't let that little problem put you off what you have planned.
The longer you are together the longer more she will come out Her shell about sex and the more your be able to talk about how to get over sexual issues like this like nearly ever couple does.
Can I ask how long have you and your girlfriend been dating so far and how long have you and her been trying to have successful intercourse?
The longer you are together the longer more she will come out Her shell about sex and the more your be able to talk about how to get over sexual issues like this like nearly ever couple does.
Can I ask how long have you and your girlfriend been dating so far and how long have you and her been trying to have successful intercourse?
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