I am a 23 years old male and there are a few things my girlfriend of 20 years of age and I are experiencing that is very new to both of us. First is the issue related to my subject of this post.
Heres the story..
One happy morning, my girlfriend and I were having intercourse. All was fine and normal. We were making jokes about stuff like usual.. She was laughing and moaning.. I made a joke about how funny it would be if my member was as small as the tip. (as I was only putting the tip in) Then I slid in my full length and she screamed. I felt like the tip of my member hit something. I pulled out quickly and there was a considerable amount of blood on me and still coming out of her. We laid there for a minute, then showered and postponed that good time for a later time.
Heres some additional info about the setting, situations, and points of possible concern.
We both have no STD's
We both have no medical conditions
She said this is a first time event (never happened with any other partners)
She was well lubricated with natural fluids
We do not using any contraceptive at present time because we are trying to conceive.
Her last period was about 3 weeks ago
We were in the missionary position with her head slightly raised by 3 pillows.
She thinks its because I'm big but I have never had this problem before with any other partners.
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She doesn't cum from vaginal intercourse. She never has before with anyone... She cum's from clitoral stimulation but thats it. I have only known 3 other women in my life who are like this, My ex-wife, my brothers ex-fiancé, and my sister. The girl my brother was with was the only girl he's been with that had the same issue. So I know its not me, but that still makes my mind unsettled. Why does she not cum? We have tried every position.. foreplay.. role-playing.. bondage.. very hard and rough.. soft and sensual.. deep and close.. doggy.. cowgirl.. reverse cowgirl.. and so much more.. The closest we got was a need to pee sensation.. Then nothing happened.. I held off as long as I could, (which I can hold off for quite some time or I can just cum back to back) then her area started to hurt, so I let it go.. This is pretty much the same thing that happens every time we make love.. We are both still positive about our sex life and have hope of achieving her vaginal climax, but we are lost on ways to do so.
We would both appreciate any and all solutions, explanations, ideas, medical stand points, etc. for both issues stated above.
Thank you.
Heres the story..
One happy morning, my girlfriend and I were having intercourse. All was fine and normal. We were making jokes about stuff like usual.. She was laughing and moaning.. I made a joke about how funny it would be if my member was as small as the tip. (as I was only putting the tip in) Then I slid in my full length and she screamed. I felt like the tip of my member hit something. I pulled out quickly and there was a considerable amount of blood on me and still coming out of her. We laid there for a minute, then showered and postponed that good time for a later time.
Heres some additional info about the setting, situations, and points of possible concern.
We both have no STD's
We both have no medical conditions
She said this is a first time event (never happened with any other partners)
She was well lubricated with natural fluids
We do not using any contraceptive at present time because we are trying to conceive.
Her last period was about 3 weeks ago
We were in the missionary position with her head slightly raised by 3 pillows.
She thinks its because I'm big but I have never had this problem before with any other partners.
Next topic....
She doesn't cum from vaginal intercourse. She never has before with anyone... She cum's from clitoral stimulation but thats it. I have only known 3 other women in my life who are like this, My ex-wife, my brothers ex-fiancé, and my sister. The girl my brother was with was the only girl he's been with that had the same issue. So I know its not me, but that still makes my mind unsettled. Why does she not cum? We have tried every position.. foreplay.. role-playing.. bondage.. very hard and rough.. soft and sensual.. deep and close.. doggy.. cowgirl.. reverse cowgirl.. and so much more.. The closest we got was a need to pee sensation.. Then nothing happened.. I held off as long as I could, (which I can hold off for quite some time or I can just cum back to back) then her area started to hurt, so I let it go.. This is pretty much the same thing that happens every time we make love.. We are both still positive about our sex life and have hope of achieving her vaginal climax, but we are lost on ways to do so.
We would both appreciate any and all solutions, explanations, ideas, medical stand points, etc. for both issues stated above.
Thank you.
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Your 23 and have been married before? Shes 20 and your 23 and want a baby!? And is this the first time you both had sex with one another?
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Im not trying to get anyones personal opinions and/or moral stand points if its not related a solution or explanation of the subject. I need strictly educated or experienced solutions. I never said this was our our first time having sex. How long we have been together holds no bearing over this situation. Being together 20 years or 2 would not change the amount of pain, bleeding, or cause for this situation. Please don't answer this post unless you have an understand of the clearly stated issue.
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The last question was a valid one, just if you just had sex with one another for the first time then it could be because your penis is too big for her, but if its not, then it could be something else. You could have just hit the cervix too hard which would be what you felt and the cause of her pain and bleeding. She could have also had some kind of cysts without knowing it, and thus you hit that and possibly ruptured it. Doesn't have to be from an STD, sometimes they just develop for some reason. She could also have endometreosis. When was her last pap test do you know? and when is her period due? because she could just have started her period. But if not and shes still in a lot of discomfort, she should visit the gynaecologist just to see whats going on and make sure shes okay. As there are a number of things that could have caused the pain and bleeding so its really hard to tell. Was there ever a problem the last time you had sex? hope this helps...
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Ok from an experience point of view. I have both of these problems. First off, she could have a shorter vagina than average. Although most women can take up to 8 inches (after arousal). Try foreplay a little longer to assure she is fully aroused and GO SLOW. Best I can explain it is if she is small (like me) she has to stretch more to accommodate your little man. It doesn't happen all the time, but it happens often if we rush to fast. Your little man is hitting her vaginal wall, cervix, or possibly even uterus. In my case it's my cervix. It can cause immediate pain, cramping and bleeding for a couple days, and once it happens it's kinda hard to not think about it during the next sexual encounter. Be patient, go slow, and maybe even let her pull you into her or push herself onto you. Any position I.E. Doggy style, or legs over the shoulder that allows for deeper penetration will almost certainly result in hitting the cervix. Once you find that specific position that allows for her to take all of you, you are set. But remember not to jam yourself into her when you are in an awkward position. Also, this happened while I was pregnant ending with me being put on strict bed rest for 2 weeks. The whole shebang bc he hit and ruptured vessels on my cervix. Extremely painful and sucked because my pregnancy was ever so happy. ALL THE TIME I was ready for more if you catch my drift. So when you do get pregnant, be mindful of her body and changes and if all she can take is your little man's head, make her use her mouth. No I'm joking there, but always calculate the position, pressure, and once the belly is showing....it's better to not try those extra deep positions.
Second topic. I can only experience ecstasy from clitoral stimulation also and to top it off he can't apply the stimulation. Only me. The pressure has to be just right otherwise it tickles. We tease, try every position and still nothing BUT cowgirl with a pillow under his hips allow for the perfect position and stimulation. After I experience the first one, everything is super sensitive and normally anything he does afterward will leave us both very happy. I really hope this helps you understand a little more than you already do and good luck in your relationship and family to be!!
Second topic. I can only experience ecstasy from clitoral stimulation also and to top it off he can't apply the stimulation. Only me. The pressure has to be just right otherwise it tickles. We tease, try every position and still nothing BUT cowgirl with a pillow under his hips allow for the perfect position and stimulation. After I experience the first one, everything is super sensitive and normally anything he does afterward will leave us both very happy. I really hope this helps you understand a little more than you already do and good luck in your relationship and family to be!!
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Also thought this may helpWomen get an orgasm by proper stimulation of the clitoris, a small lap of skin just over the vagina. The clitoris can be stimulated by hand, using lubricating gel, by the woman herself or her partner. It can also be stimulated by mouth. If the clitoris is stimulated by her partner, this is usually done before the vaginal intercourse. Note that during normal vaginal sexual intercourse, the nerve endings in the man's penis are stimulated, but not the nerve endings in the womans clitoris. Only 30 % of all women get an orgasm through vaginal sexual intercourse according to Shere Hite! More.
There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give an orgasm. This point is named the g-point. It is, however, difficult to find this point and stimulate it in the right way. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way usually use the intercourse position with the woman on top of the man. The reason for this is that this position gives the woman the largest options to control the movements so as to stimulate the g-point.
Some women have a problem in that stimulating the g-point causes a strong need to urinate.
Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out what they prefer.
There is also a place inside the vagina, which can be stimulated to give an orgasm. This point is named the g-point. It is, however, difficult to find this point and stimulate it in the right way. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way usually use the intercourse position with the woman on top of the man. The reason for this is that this position gives the woman the largest options to control the movements so as to stimulate the g-point.
Some women have a problem in that stimulating the g-point causes a strong need to urinate.
Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out what they prefer.
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Maybe she told him. Id tell my brother. Maybe they have a good relationship and they tell eachother everything. I find it really rude that you would assume something like that then put it up on a public site. Think before you type.
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how childish are these guys ,its not the case of being gay or whatever and to make a remark like that ,shows your maturity ,i'd say round two.
Good on you chris for asking ,i agree with the woman,it could be any factor and knowing facts about your sis or even the bro's partner aint bad,i know things that are similar kind of bout my sisters and i'm a male,so to the idiots grow the heck up....
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Ok your problem is almost as mine. My fiancee wouldn't cum no matter what position we tried. Some positions hurt her too. We rarely do any extreme positions such as those we watched from porno movies. However, after almost 2 years, we found a way where she would cum once or twice in the middle of sex. Mind you, I can hold on for around 1 hour or so. Anyway, our way is that she would be sitting on top while I'm at the bottom. I will have one hand caressing her butt while another on one side of her breast and with my mouth cup on the other. It's more like both of us sitting, but with her on top of me. I read somewhere from the internet that if we can stimulate all the sensitive parts, it'll make her cum. Although it's not those "fountain" cum, but she will still cum when on top. You could try. It works somehow.
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