i'm 17 and although it's normal for me to still be a virgin at this age, i'm getting impatient. the anticipation of what sex is like, if ill be good, so on and so forth, is bothering me for starters. another thing is (i still want to have that special first time and all) that if im ever interested in sleeping with a guy without him being special to me, i can do that without feeling like i gave "my innocence" to that guy or feeling guilty about it. i dont want to lose it to a random hookup, because i may get a little attached or need someone who is caring to be with me during my first time, but there are some guys i hookup with where i wouldnt mind sleeping with them had i not been a virgin.
see while i was raised in a somewhat religious family and still believe strongly in god, i just dont find it reasonable to wait until who knows when to get married to have sex with the first and last person for the rest of my life, when i am a very sexually adventurous person. so ive settled for losing it to my first boyfriend...
...but i'm starting to wonder when that's ever going to happen, because i haven't met a single guy in my city that i like and am attracted to in over 3 years(and nothing happened with that)!! there are no guys in my school im interested in...in short, there's not going to be a "special somebody" that i can lose it to anytime soon.
i also don't want to be totally inexperienced in the act itself.
you get the general idea...i want to start having sex, but i must first get past the whole virginity, "lose it to someone special" obstacle.
what should i do?
see while i was raised in a somewhat religious family and still believe strongly in god, i just dont find it reasonable to wait until who knows when to get married to have sex with the first and last person for the rest of my life, when i am a very sexually adventurous person. so ive settled for losing it to my first boyfriend...
...but i'm starting to wonder when that's ever going to happen, because i haven't met a single guy in my city that i like and am attracted to in over 3 years(and nothing happened with that)!! there are no guys in my school im interested in...in short, there's not going to be a "special somebody" that i can lose it to anytime soon.
i also don't want to be totally inexperienced in the act itself.
you get the general idea...i want to start having sex, but i must first get past the whole virginity, "lose it to someone special" obstacle.
what should i do?
You hang tight honey! Even though your hormones are raging it doesn't mean you just toss that gift out there to the first John Smith whom walks by! As I have told my boys - the first time is a gift! That should be treated as such and not taken for granted or resented or been embarrassed of for the rest of your life! Hopefully you will be with someone who is also his first time! remember there are more virgin teenagers then not! So don't buy into the fact that EVERYONE is "Hooking up" they might say they are to fit in, but they are just the SAME to you - teenagers who don't know how to take their next step! The right person tends to come along when you aren't looking! OR he could be sitting right beside you and talks to you everyday - you just haven't seen him in "THAT" light! Open your heart and you will allow someone to come on in! Don't be in a hurry to grow up honey OK? Just savour each moment and don't rush it!
I'm 22 and still a virgin and happily waiting for the right guy. I get what you mean about not wanting to be a "virgin" anymore, or having that label, and wanting to experience what its like. But my friends regret giving their virginity to the guy they did, and they have sex with every guy they've been with, and I'm glad I don't have to live feeling that way and still have myself. And I'm proud of myself. Its not easy but I think it'll be rewarding in the end and mean so much more. And don't worry about being inexperienced, but ya like bambi27 said, hopefully you will find someone where its his first time too. Its hard tough! I've hard it tried on me and broken up with guys because they wouldn't respect my decision and it sucks, but then they clearly don't respect me and are only in it for one thing. Do what you feel is right, but no need to rush.
Good advise from bambi27. Keep your virginity first, it would be better to lose to your Mr.Right.
Don't Rush !!
Don't Rush !!