Hi everyone, my husband and I have been together for almost 5 years, and have been married for almost a year(1 year on July 18th). Whenever we got married, we discussed having a baby, and that he would like to wait until after he turns 25(will be September 24th) Last night, we had that talk again and he told me now he wants to wait even longer, because he doesn't think we are ready. We have a good amount of money in savings right now, but he doesn't think that would be enough. He uses excuses such as, we need new tires for our car, we need a bigger apartment, we don't have family that lives close to help us with babysitting, ect. Having a baby doesn't happen overnight, and he thinks that things just magically fall into place before you have a baby. I absolutely adore my husband should I add, and want to have a little part of us running around, and I have the overwhelming desire to be a mother. We both have good jobs, we live comfortably, and I would get paid maternity leave. This conversation just broke my heart, I've cried and cried. Am I the only one feeling this hurt? I feel burdening my best friend with this is too much, as she already has a 1 year old and is pregnant right now. After I got upset last night, I left the room and told him I didn't want to talk about it anymore. He thinks I just feel behind because our friends already have children, and that is not it at all. Yes, I'd like our children to grow up together, but I want to have a child with the man I love. Am I being selfish ladies? Any advice is appreciated.