I have just got into a first real relationship and i we are ready to have sex. I am a virgin and when we first tried to have sex we couldnt get his penis into me as it hurt and when he did get it a bit more further into me i felt a sharp pain and had and had to pull away. When i looked i was bleeding. I have heard that is it quite common for girls to bleed the first time they have sex, but i have tried again more recently and the same thing happend. The bleeding only happens for a few minutes then it stops but because of the pain me and my boyfriend cant do it again because it hurts me. He has pleasured me in other ways and it doesn't hurt me. Could you tell me what is the matter or is there anything i can do?? %-) %-)
You may have a thicker hymen. Some girls are born with an ultra thick hymen that may need a "snip" from the doctor, it's not a big deal.
The bleeding is probably due to your bf's attempts to make penetration without success.
If you can wear a tampon or be stimulated with the insertion of a finger(s) i suggest that you give it a chance. First time intercourse is a big deal and your both nervous. It's quite an akward time for the two of you and you need to be completly relaxed and well lubricated.
You say he pleasures you in other ways. Have him begin to do it in the way where it feels good to you, then as you get more and more excited, have him assume the position. You on the bottom (missionary) is the best way for a first timer. Help yourself stay fully aroused by masterbating yourself while he attempts to gently penetrate you, don't allow yourself to have an orgasm. The cross between extreme pleasure and a slight pain is very arousing and may just be enough to let him make full penetration. Be sure to be well lubricated. If you can't seem to make enough of your own natural secretions, try some KY-gel or Astro Glide. This makes for easier penetration without pulling or scratching of the vaginal walls.
I think if you take a lot of time in getting yourself fully turned on and well lubricated, you should be able to consumate your relationship with success. You may even want to experiment with a vibrator a bit. You can buy these at any shop like a Spencers or on line. Don't feel funny about buying one, they have helped many couples with first time intercourse. ;-)
The bleeding is probably due to your bf's attempts to make penetration without success.
If you can wear a tampon or be stimulated with the insertion of a finger(s) i suggest that you give it a chance. First time intercourse is a big deal and your both nervous. It's quite an akward time for the two of you and you need to be completly relaxed and well lubricated.
You say he pleasures you in other ways. Have him begin to do it in the way where it feels good to you, then as you get more and more excited, have him assume the position. You on the bottom (missionary) is the best way for a first timer. Help yourself stay fully aroused by masterbating yourself while he attempts to gently penetrate you, don't allow yourself to have an orgasm. The cross between extreme pleasure and a slight pain is very arousing and may just be enough to let him make full penetration. Be sure to be well lubricated. If you can't seem to make enough of your own natural secretions, try some KY-gel or Astro Glide. This makes for easier penetration without pulling or scratching of the vaginal walls.
I think if you take a lot of time in getting yourself fully turned on and well lubricated, you should be able to consumate your relationship with success. You may even want to experiment with a vibrator a bit. You can buy these at any shop like a Spencers or on line. Don't feel funny about buying one, they have helped many couples with first time intercourse. ;-)
bbfeet has offered up as a lot of good advice here. Are you still around and posting? I'd like to hear if her advice really helped out because I think that it sounded helpful. Keep me posted!