Ya, I guess time will tell. But whatever she did hurts. But there was no sign of endo or any cysts, so thats good news.
Okay, well fingering didn't hurt at all so that's a step up :-D but the sex part still hurt a bit, but not as bad :-( so I guess she fixed some of the problem, but not all :-(
I went back to the Gyno again because it still hurts, and we talked about a lot of things and options, and possible diagnosis of the problem. But she did give me the dilators to try for a bit to see if that helps. Makes me nervous, but I hope it helps.
What you have to think of is this! They are used for women whom have suffered TERRIBLE Vaginal Trauma! Where they have not had sexual relations for years! And it hurts beyond belief! So take your time and just take it easy! SLOW is the word to use, and be relaxed, and don't have your partner ANYWHERE near you! Do it alone and with quiet music and just TOTALLY relaxing! Thus you can use them in the bath too! You know the old addage "IF it works for me, it will work for you!?" Then this IS true for you! I suffered for years honey, and this was totally the only way out! Keep me informed and let me know OK?
Question, are you just suppose to take the pain? Like I tired the bath thing, and it helped, but if i feel like it hurts too much then do i stop, or am i suppose to take the pain? its really hard to get myself to do it, when i know whats coming. And i know i have to stop thinking like that, because its like half the problem, so i tried to relax and breath and i put music on too like you suggested, and i did all the things my gyno said to do but i get scared, and it does hurt and i want to stop but i don't know if i'm suppose to or not because she had once a day for 20 minutes.
Hopefully your starting with the smallest insert - its the size of a finger! It might TWINGE but it shouldn't hurt at all - as you are slowly working your way up! So using the smallest one - with lubrication - you insert it, and just lay there and focus on relax ALL the vaginal muscles! Before you do that give the following a try!
lay on a bed in a quiet room, tense EVERY muscle from toe to the top of your head and tense it HARD! Then slowly focus on relaxing each muscle - from the toes up - 1 by 1 learning how to let that tension go from each area! So your brain is TOTALLY concentrating on each muscle! When you get up to your pelvis, this hould be in the Kiegles mode, relax each muscle and go all the way up your vagina, into your uterus, into your abdomen and so on!
So when you insert the smallest one, do the same lay and relax and concentrate on TOTALLY relaxing those vaginal and pelvic muscles! And inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth and just RELAX! Totally think of better things, and IF it twinges, just refocus on something else - I sell crystals for a living, so I would hold on to a crystal and just rub it and focus on it - get your brain to think "Awh this is nothing like I thought" And when you are TOTALLY comfortable with the smallest one, you go to the 2nd one and follow the same routine - there is NO schedule for this, just YOUR body telling you when it is best OK?
With my 1st child I had 50 internal vaginal stitches!!! With my 2nd I tore through my vagina almost all the way through my anus! So the nerve damage and the wounds and scaring was beyong belief honey! So I had ALL this physical damage and pain, yet I also had the biggest - MENTAL anguish! So that is why I have siad "If I can do it so can you!" Just remember NICE and EASY! And lubrication is key here - as your brain will not allow your vagina to lubricate! Also I was told to do it whenever I could get the chance - so your brain doesn't get that old habit back - which makes sense doesn't it!?
Are you going to be seeing the Pelvic physiotherapists again? And did they tell you to get a hold of a g spot vibrator? This is an AWESOME tool - it's embarrassing going to the store - but FAR cheaper than buying from the doctors! It looks like a bent finger and is as slim as a finger! You DONT put batteries in it - it's not for pleasure or sex it's for pain - and you place this inside the vagina and find those "Knots" they are little bumps in the vagina where they muscles have tightened up! You will know when you have found 1. So you press on the spot and breathe through and move the end just a little here and there, and eventually it releases the knot! To tell you the truth THIS is the hardest part of the process - the dialotors were like a massage after doing a marathon!!! 8-| ;-) o.O It's YOUR body and YOUR time table OK?
lay on a bed in a quiet room, tense EVERY muscle from toe to the top of your head and tense it HARD! Then slowly focus on relaxing each muscle - from the toes up - 1 by 1 learning how to let that tension go from each area! So your brain is TOTALLY concentrating on each muscle! When you get up to your pelvis, this hould be in the Kiegles mode, relax each muscle and go all the way up your vagina, into your uterus, into your abdomen and so on!
So when you insert the smallest one, do the same lay and relax and concentrate on TOTALLY relaxing those vaginal and pelvic muscles! And inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth and just RELAX! Totally think of better things, and IF it twinges, just refocus on something else - I sell crystals for a living, so I would hold on to a crystal and just rub it and focus on it - get your brain to think "Awh this is nothing like I thought" And when you are TOTALLY comfortable with the smallest one, you go to the 2nd one and follow the same routine - there is NO schedule for this, just YOUR body telling you when it is best OK?
With my 1st child I had 50 internal vaginal stitches!!! With my 2nd I tore through my vagina almost all the way through my anus! So the nerve damage and the wounds and scaring was beyong belief honey! So I had ALL this physical damage and pain, yet I also had the biggest - MENTAL anguish! So that is why I have siad "If I can do it so can you!" Just remember NICE and EASY! And lubrication is key here - as your brain will not allow your vagina to lubricate! Also I was told to do it whenever I could get the chance - so your brain doesn't get that old habit back - which makes sense doesn't it!?
Are you going to be seeing the Pelvic physiotherapists again? And did they tell you to get a hold of a g spot vibrator? This is an AWESOME tool - it's embarrassing going to the store - but FAR cheaper than buying from the doctors! It looks like a bent finger and is as slim as a finger! You DONT put batteries in it - it's not for pleasure or sex it's for pain - and you place this inside the vagina and find those "Knots" they are little bumps in the vagina where they muscles have tightened up! You will know when you have found 1. So you press on the spot and breathe through and move the end just a little here and there, and eventually it releases the knot! To tell you the truth THIS is the hardest part of the process - the dialotors were like a massage after doing a marathon!!! 8-| ;-) o.O It's YOUR body and YOUR time table OK?
The one I got comes with 8. The doctor said to start with the smallest but if and when i'm fine with it, then to move to the next one. So I was fine with the first two, so I just went to the third, but that one kind of started to hurt. And yes, I used lubrication. So everyday is key, but I don't have to do it for the whole 20 minutes? Just for a long as I can?
I feel bad, I totally took over this post, I wonder how the original poster is.
I feel bad, I totally took over this post, I wonder how the original poster is.
Don't feel bad you need the help right? So IF #3 starts hurting just go back to number 2, remember they aren't that much different so nice and slow, there should be NO pain before the next one! It's ALL about you taking your time and gettting TOTALLY comfortable, don't follow a time table, just so you are at ease!
Sometimes posters come on, get the answer they wanted then don't come back on OR come back on several weeks or months later!
Sometimes posters come on, get the answer they wanted then don't come back on OR come back on several weeks or months later!
I just want to say thank you for helping me, I can now have a pain free sex life, for once in my life!
That's AWESOME! It REALLY helped me! It's just training the brain! I'm glad that it worked for you! Best of health and luck in the future!