Ok i was dating this guy for 1 yr and a half and did not lose my viginity until i got to college. I was known as the good girl and also a tease in high school because I would date guys but neva have sex. But i met my ex and dated him for the more than a yr and decided to lose once im in college because hey im gettin old and i love him. Let me tell u it was not pleasurable at all more like painful and lasted for like less than 10 minutes. Also we were long distance relationship. Well when i gave it up to him, he treated me differently. Like he didnt care anymore, stop callin and textin. Before when i was a virgin he would call me everyday and care for me. NOw I am single and hav been meeting guys in parties and other places but I kinda get scared to get into a realtionship cause i now think once a guy is done chasin u and finally get in ur pants, they move on....how can i stop feelin like this?....I mean all i do is meet guys and chicken out ..... also i havent had sex in ova a yr, I only did it once wit my ex, is my p***y still tight?(cause im talking to this guy and well ahem its big) Also im kinda scared to hav sex cause it hurt plus i am alwaysthinkin he is gunna leave...plus i found out my ex is goin out wit this ugly fat chick but has way more boobs and looks like a hooker was it cause i was badd at sex??
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Unfortunately honey he was just a pig! What you have to realize that there was NOTHING you could have done differently, and even though you lost your virginity to him think of it as having sex with him, but you didn't make love! When you fall in love THEN have sex and this time if you really trust the guy you can discuss how you feel before hand and tell him you want to be treated like a woman and tenderly! He broke your hymen thus the pain, so you will still have some of the hymen left so the next time MIGHT be a little painful but no where near what he put you through! Also a womans vagina is built for 7lbs babies so don't worry about the guy being too big OK? And IF it is hopefully by then you will be in a caring and loving relationship and can be able to tell him and then take it slow! There HAS to be respect and tenderness - if not it's just sex! I have good girlfriend of mine was a prostitute and then a madamme since she was 18!!! We are now 45! She says that when she was doing her "job" it ws just sex! But when she is with her husband - she quit the business over 10 years ago - she is making love! BIG difference, so think of this slime ball as a learning experience! NEVER to be thought of again! He will keep on using women because that is what he is! And I truly think that the reason why you held off for so long is that deep inside you, you knew he was a slimer! But you decided to basically go along with what "everyone else" was doing! It's a Catch 22.
So don't sell yourself short OK? and DO NOT jump into bed again till YOU are ready! Don't think because you are no longer a virgin that you are now going to have to do it all the time! It's YOUR body and on YOUR time schedule! END of STORY! I have counselled so many younger girls that feel the same way that you do! And they feel that NOW it is over, they HAVE to do it again! That's not the case! OK? Good luck and health honey and cyber hugs!
So don't sell yourself short OK? and DO NOT jump into bed again till YOU are ready! Don't think because you are no longer a virgin that you are now going to have to do it all the time! It's YOUR body and on YOUR time schedule! END of STORY! I have counselled so many younger girls that feel the same way that you do! And they feel that NOW it is over, they HAVE to do it again! That's not the case! OK? Good luck and health honey and cyber hugs!
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Hi lola, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I hope you can reach an agreement with yourself to not feel like you are less than you should be. You just broke a little piece of skin that may not be important at all to the man who loves you. I didn't expect the girl I married to be a technical virgin. I never felt a girls previous sexual experience was any of my business.
You had a bad sexual and emotional experience with a jerk who's egotistical goal in life is to break as many cherries as he can. I know guys who are like that. In my mind, they are sick in the head. Don't let his sickness destroy your personal relationships.
The next guy you fall for is not likely to be like that at all. Just don't fish in the same gene pool again. If you are looking for love, don't hang out with guys who just want sex. To me there's nothing wrong with just having sex, as long as both participants know that's what they're doing. I think you were making love to him and he was just having sex with you.
The way to stop feeling the way you do is to realize that most guys are not like that, but they nearly all want sex if you are willing. I don't know any guys who would turn down the opportunity if it came along.
Don't worry about your vagina not being tight because of this. It's built to swallow a penis for a lifetime. After all, a baby comes out and the husband's been going right back in, for ages. Just because the first one belonged to a jerk, that didn't damage it. The biggest penis in the world is nowhere near the size of a baby.
Your first time was with a jerk who didn't care about you, and it hurt. The next guy, who really cares about you, will make sure you're comfortable with whatever the two of you are doing.
Don't compare yourself with whomever he's going out with. You know what kind of a jerk he is.
You basically got raped by an as****e, do you feel you were supposed to be GOOD at it?
Nobody is "good" at sex until they have the chance to practice with someone they care about, so the two of them can figure out what's good for each other. You girls are complicated and us guys are stupid, besides you're all different. You have to show us what you like. You started masturbating when you were young so you could learn what sends you over the moon, now you have to tell us. So does he.
You had a bad sexual and emotional experience with a jerk who's egotistical goal in life is to break as many cherries as he can. I know guys who are like that. In my mind, they are sick in the head. Don't let his sickness destroy your personal relationships.
The next guy you fall for is not likely to be like that at all. Just don't fish in the same gene pool again. If you are looking for love, don't hang out with guys who just want sex. To me there's nothing wrong with just having sex, as long as both participants know that's what they're doing. I think you were making love to him and he was just having sex with you.
The way to stop feeling the way you do is to realize that most guys are not like that, but they nearly all want sex if you are willing. I don't know any guys who would turn down the opportunity if it came along.
Don't worry about your vagina not being tight because of this. It's built to swallow a penis for a lifetime. After all, a baby comes out and the husband's been going right back in, for ages. Just because the first one belonged to a jerk, that didn't damage it. The biggest penis in the world is nowhere near the size of a baby.
Your first time was with a jerk who didn't care about you, and it hurt. The next guy, who really cares about you, will make sure you're comfortable with whatever the two of you are doing.
Don't compare yourself with whomever he's going out with. You know what kind of a jerk he is.
You basically got raped by an as****e, do you feel you were supposed to be GOOD at it?
Nobody is "good" at sex until they have the chance to practice with someone they care about, so the two of them can figure out what's good for each other. You girls are complicated and us guys are stupid, besides you're all different. You have to show us what you like. You started masturbating when you were young so you could learn what sends you over the moon, now you have to tell us. So does he.
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Not all guys are like that just try to meet new people and go slow from their some guys like relationships and actually care about more than screwing :) like me
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