Why won't i let myself orgasm

I am 26 and have had this same exact problem for years. I typically "wiggle" out when I'm at the point when I feel that I can't bear it any more, however I can very easily cum. I hope to get over it, as well as my boyfriend (which is an understatement).

We've come to the point where I've told him to just restrain me so that I can't get away (don't worry, it's a mutual thing ;)) BUT if there is any better advice than "just relax" I would love to hear it. I once told a friend and she told me I need to go see a therapist!

I'm going through the same thing and I'm literally so fed up of it. I thought it wasn't normal. I've only had one sexual partner but he has been with others before and tells me to just relax and so I thought it was a problem with me. I'm relieved that it'd not just me

I have this problem also well, on and off. I can only reach that point when someone goes down me. I only reached that point with the person I was seeing before my current partner of 7 months now and I thought, great, can’t wait to do that again. However, with my partner now I sometimes find my self asking him to stop. When asked why I “always” made him stop, I used to say that it gets too intense and I feel overwhelmed so I need it to stop. However, sometimes I can get past it. I’ve found that I have to be in a comfortable evenviorment so that I am relaxed before hand. I also have to be in the mood. Also he, when saw me getting to that point used to either go faster/harder which overwhelmed me, other times it used to throw me off, annoying. I think it really helps to get him to start you off and then when you feel like your enjoying it and getting in to it, you take control. Ask him to follow your rhythm. I like moving my hips around... you’ll see what I mean when and if you give this a try. I’ve been able to finish when taking over nearly every time. And cliche as it is just relax think about the colour black if you can’t get out of your own head, also picturing what he’s doing can also help, fingers too. Remember it’s okay to squirm and be loud and react amazingly dramatic if it’s what your body naturally does, it’s okay to be as quite as a mouse. Everyone’s different and if it does get too intense take a break, try a different position or try a different body part lol. Or let him finish and then come back to you. Really hope this works for some if not all of you! just keep trying because you will get there! Also buy yourself an aid, like someone previously mentioned, practice letting yourself get to that point, I still practice now! :) x

I know this is an old comment. But I have the same issue and just read an article and it did say women need to learn to orgasm through masturbating first. It’s just so easy for guys to learn just how to early on but way harder for women. So, although you feel like u hate their advice they aren’t wrong. Not saying I’ve managed to yet but still