will i bleed during my first vaginal intercourse

Dear Tiara,

1. Everyone is different, but daily masturbation is not usually considered excessive or abnormal, unless there are religious or cultural expectations.
   • Why do you ask if it is normal? What is your main concern? Are there any religious or cultural implications?
   • When you say "i masterbate almost evryday for the past 1 week" it indicates that daily masturbation only started a week ago.
     • What was the frequency previously?
     • What has cxaused you to masturbate more frequently?
2. You said "2 days back when i was materbating i started to bleed".
   • Was this bleeding from inside your vagina?
   • It could be that you have ruptured or partially ruptured your hymen.
3. You said "the object what i inserted wasnt as thick as a penis"
   • What was the object?
   • Penis size varies greatly from male to male. So how big was the 'object'?
4. You then asked "will i bleed during my first vaginal intercourse"That will depend on a few factors:
   • Is your hymen ruptured? You need to check. If it is, you probably will not bleed on first sexual intercourse.
   • If the penis has a bigger girth than the 'object', then it might further tear a partially ruptured hymen, so maybe causing bleeding.
   • If you continue inserting objects, there is the possibility it might further rupture your hymen, and completely destroy it.
   • If your vagina has sufficient rest from penetration, there is the chance of some healing of a partially ruptured hymen such that there is a greater likelihood of bleeding on first sex.
   • The thickness of the hymen may well be a factor; also its relative elasticity.
5. Whether or not you have an intact hymen, you are still technically (medically) a virgin until a penis penetrates your vagina. However some people refer to their hymen as their 'virginity'. The hymen is also called the maidenhead. Also some cultures expect an intact hymen as evidence of virginity.
   • Where are you from?
   • Are there any religious cultural implications for you?

   Hope this helps as a start

Thanks for the reply!! I masterbate from the age of 7.I inserted a decently medium sized candle awhen I was 14 not knowing it would rupture my hymen.honestly didn't know anything about sex by then.I don't remember if I had bleeding.later I started masterbatering 6 months once but for the past 40 days I masterbate almost everyday even if I have my period. And the frequency depends on the urge.approximately at least 6 times per day..I long for sexual gratifaction.recently due to masterbating I'm able to insert 2 whole right up my vagina.in another 4 weeks me and my boyfriend have planned for the first intercourse.he does not know I masterbate.he got angry when I told him that I rubbed my clit when I got aroused.of course in my religion I have to bleed.he might have some kind of thoughts in mind if I don't bleed.he is very considerate and a good person.we have planned to get married in another few years so bleeding should cause no problems in the future.I'm doing kegel excersise .I want to bleed at least for his satisfaction..please help.

There are some aspects of your reply that cause me concern, and I think you must be careful.

You said "he got angry when I told him that I rubbed my clit when I got aroused". It is worrying that he should get angry. Did he say why? Given your current sexual longing, it doesn't sound as though you will stop, even when you are married. The fact that "he does not know I masterbate" means that you are hiding something from him, and that is rarely good for a relationship. You say "he is very considerate and a good person", yet he gets angry with you for clit-rubbing, and you are hiding your masturbation from him.

You also say that "in my religion I have to bleed", but you haven't said which religion, nor where you are from. What does your religion say about masturbation?

I worry about girls who are expected to be virgins on their wedding night but have sex with their boyfriend before marriage (when he expects bleeding). Often this does not lead to marriage, and the (kind and considerate) boyfriend moves on to marry a virgin, leaving a distressed de-flowered girl, who is clearly no longer a virgin. I am not sure that it is true that "bleeding should cause no problems in the future".

It is good that "I'm doing kegel excersise", but that will only tighten your vaginal muscles; it won't heal your hymen. It might be tighter for him, but it won't cause bleeding. I am not sure what you mean concerning some of the things you have inserted in your vagina, but is sounds as though it has been quite stretched. "I inserted a decently medium sized candle"- what was its diameter and length? "I'm able to insert 2 whole right up my vagina" - 2 whole what?

Regarding masturbating frequency, you say "for the past 40 days I masterbate almost everyday ... approximately at least 6 times per day." At least 6 per day? what is the maximum per day? That is quite a lot, and is way above average. You said earlier "i masterbate almost evryday for the past 1 week", but now you say almost 6 weeks. That seems to have suddenly increased dramatically, so what has caused you to masturbate so much more frequently? What causes the urges. Do you orgasm each time?

I don't think it wise "in another 4 weeks me and my boyfriend have planned for the first intercourse". In fact I think it could be disastrous. Certainly your vagina will not have recovered enough for him not to notice your lack of hymen (You have checked, haven't you?), and your masturbation style won't help!

I hope this helps. I await your responses.

Thanks once again for your response..my boyfriend got angry because he feels only he should explore my private parts and its against my religion.I'm a brahmin and its strictly not allowed to masterbate in my religion.and its 2 whole fingers.and yea even I don't think I can stop after marriage..my sexual urge goes up so high that I have to push in somethinginto my vagina till I'm satisfied..I use pen markers,tooth brush handle,my most stretching insertion was other candle n sometimes carrots width of which is 1 inch..I know my boyfriend will not leave me even if I don't bleed but he might get disappointed and I definetly cannot discuss about masterbation with him.I am trying to stop it..I really want to stop it.please help..and today I limited my masterbation to 3 times:) but I have the urge to go for more..

My boyfriend has a 2 inch wide penis and its pretty huge so huge that we have never succeeded in inserting during anal sex with bottles of lube..still no chance of bleeding?

Initially I used to squirt whenever I masterbate but recently I squirt only once sometimes twice and that to I have to masterbate for a long time and reality hard master nation is needed

From what I have read about your religion, I thought that masturbation certainly IS allowed, but that premarital sex is totally forbidden. And that is what you propose to have! Does he masturbate? I think he is being over-possessive when he feels that only he, and not you, should explore your private parts. His anger is selfishness. They are part of your body, and you would test his love for you if you did not allow him to touch those private parts.

You want to bleed when you have sex so you don't disappoint him, but what will happen when he finds out that you do masturbate. I'm sure he will at some time, especially as you say "I don't think I can stop after marriage".

If you want to stop masturbating, you need to identify what it is that gives you such powerful urges. It it something you read or see or think about ? Then try to eliminate the trigger factors, or at least control then.

When you limited yourself to 3 times, was that a number you decided, or did you stop until you couldn't resist anymore? Why did you do it at all. You won't die if you just stop. So, why not decide not to masturbate at all for (say) 3 days?

The vagina is made to accommodate any size penis (it will allow the passage of a baby in childbirth!) But not so the anus. As you have already stretched your vagina with two fingers, I would think that there is little left to bleed. Have you inspected your hymen? Some hymens are very elastic. As you are still frequently masturbating with vaginal penetration, there seems to be very little chance of bleeding. Have you tried masturbating by clitoral stimulation only?

"Initially I used to squirt whenever I masterbate" - even when a child? When did your squirting start?

"recently I squirt only once sometimes twice" - how recently? since multiple daily sessions? When did it change, and how has your technique changed?

"I have to masterbate for a long time" may be because you do it so often.

What does "reality hard master nation is needed" mean?

 

I think your body is telling you you are masturbating too often. It needs time to recover.

Well, I dont know if I inderstood properly all you have post,I am from spain.I started masturbating very young too with penetration and getting lot of juice so I know what you talk about.If you bleed during masturbation there is no problem in my opinion if there is not pain.If you problem is to probe your hymen for your husband, there are many ways to cheat him.