i am 17 years old i have had a large labia since i was 12. one day i was masterbating with the jet in my pool after that i noticed my labia was swollen and larger ythan it was before. it alway rubbed in my pants and i hated it. i used to stare at it and hate it so bad i wanted to cut it off at one point. it was always something very personal that i kept to myself. it othered me rubbing and hurting as i got older. i am now a jounior in high school. i have been sexually active since 9th grade but i always found a way to hide it during sex and when someone went down on me. i had one serious botfriend before but was not able to tell him. now ive been dating a guy for 4 months and im totally comfortable i told him about it and he was cool with it. he made me feel so good about myself he always reminds me thta its normal and he loes me for me not my vagina. it is ok to have big lips. i was depressed and kept that secret for 5 years i was embarrassed and ashamed and now im happier than ever that i was able to find someone i feel comfortable enough to share it with.