Ok, So both me and my girlfriend are virgins... hell she's never even masturbated, but have gotten intimateas of late. we both now want sex, but our foreplay and making out has lasted up to three hours, in between which i've gotten hard and soft alot. She also has some strong vaginal muscles, my finrgers we're actually clamped when she orgasmed and i couldn't take them out. This seems to be what i think is the problem, as i'm usually hard when we are ready to do it and i get the condom on and i try to push in and i pretty much can't. I'm unsure as of what is the real problem because out of the couple times we tried, i wasn't hard enough to push in, it felt like it wasn't going in right, and the last time i popped early before we even started i'm at a loss at what i can do. I have very little experience in the art of lovemaking and no experience with intercourse so i can't tell if it's a problem with me, a problem with her, or a little of both. any help would be appreciated
Hey everyone starts out a virgin,
My boyfriend and I were also both virgins when we started out-and yes needless to say sex was a bit of a struggle for us because we had no former experience. BUT the only way to get better is to practice, don't give up after the first few times-if you really enjoy your boy/girl friend and WANT to get better with them then continue to practice and you WILL find a comfortable set of positions for one another. And oddly enough, watching a few erotic videos actually gaves us some hints and clues as to how to perform certain positions (watchin the pros never hurt). And now a days sex is great between us because we've practiced and know what works and what doesn't. Practice makes perfect :-D
My boyfriend and I were also both virgins when we started out-and yes needless to say sex was a bit of a struggle for us because we had no former experience. BUT the only way to get better is to practice, don't give up after the first few times-if you really enjoy your boy/girl friend and WANT to get better with them then continue to practice and you WILL find a comfortable set of positions for one another. And oddly enough, watching a few erotic videos actually gaves us some hints and clues as to how to perform certain positions (watchin the pros never hurt). And now a days sex is great between us because we've practiced and know what works and what doesn't. Practice makes perfect :-D
It sounds like you both need to learn a little more about your own bodies before you get into the blind-leading-the-blind thing. Your girlfriend needs to learn how to give herself pleasure and give herself an orgasm, then she can teach you how it all works. Give her a copy of Becoming Orgasmic and take her shopping for sex toys.
And you, young man, need to become the master of your sexual response. Most guys learn to masturbate to orgasm as quickly as possible, before they get caught, so they end up literally practicing how to be lousy lovers! You can unlearn this, and you are really going to enjoy it. Learn how to focus on the pleasure you're feeling at every moment instead of being in a headlong rush to reach orgasm. Orgasm, for guys, is practically inevitable, so there is no need ever to rush it.
Sex is so much better when it lasts 30 minutes or more, and it's so much more interesting when your partner comes over and over again. With practice, most women can come almost continuously for several minutes, and when they do, it is awesome.
If the two of you have a lot of time together you can masturbate together and compare notes, and when you get more competent and aware of your own sexuality, you'll find that intercourse comes easily.
But please, use contraception! Being virgins, you don't need to sweat the safe sex routine, but believe me, nothing makes you lose your appetite for sex faster than those squalling, drooling, smelly little bundles of selfishness you end up with if you're not careful!
And you, young man, need to become the master of your sexual response. Most guys learn to masturbate to orgasm as quickly as possible, before they get caught, so they end up literally practicing how to be lousy lovers! You can unlearn this, and you are really going to enjoy it. Learn how to focus on the pleasure you're feeling at every moment instead of being in a headlong rush to reach orgasm. Orgasm, for guys, is practically inevitable, so there is no need ever to rush it.
Sex is so much better when it lasts 30 minutes or more, and it's so much more interesting when your partner comes over and over again. With practice, most women can come almost continuously for several minutes, and when they do, it is awesome.
If the two of you have a lot of time together you can masturbate together and compare notes, and when you get more competent and aware of your own sexuality, you'll find that intercourse comes easily.
But please, use contraception! Being virgins, you don't need to sweat the safe sex routine, but believe me, nothing makes you lose your appetite for sex faster than those squalling, drooling, smelly little bundles of selfishness you end up with if you're not careful!
dont feel bad im in the same boat my gf is a virgin n refuses 2 masterbate but she seems 2 luv 2 tease me n stroke me. on our first time she had me hard 4 like almost 2 hrs n then she finaly tld me 2 get the condom n like as soon as her grip was gone i wasnt as hard but good enough 2 work still i thot n i went 2 insert n i wasnt hard enough n her p***y was so tite we just said 4 get it n laid there 2 gether makeingout n then a weak later same prob n now shes worried n dsnt want 2 4 awile n it sux i tld her try not 2 tease me n may b itll work out better. its been a month now sence ive even seen her topless or even madeout w her n i wanna try again but she dsnt wich is fine idw rush her but still it sux ive even gone 2 my ex g/f ( total s***) askin her 4 tips she keeps sayin it hard 2 hlp verbaly visualys better. needless 2 say shes no hlp i dnt want 2 lose my virginity 2 her i luv my G/F