All of the sudden I'm worried I'm a lesbian...

If you like both men and women you are probably bisexual, not a lesbian. And that is a perfectly fine thing to be :)

yes ame issue of mine too, o dont knw wht next, am confused, will this give safe pleasure with lesbo act,

I think you said it. You over analyze things. If you happen to have a sexual experience with another girl because you feel like it, that doesn't make you a lesbian. You just did something that interested you at the time. I don't see why you need to put a name to it anyway.

So you had sexual experiences with a girl friend when you were young, so what? When I was that age us guys got together to masturbate and play with each other and none of us ever thought that made us homosexual. It certainly didn't mean we wouldn't have rather been doing the exploring with a girl. If only we could have found one who was willing. We were just having fun exploring. I don't see why girls can't do that too.

I like lesbian porn too. Think about whatever turns you on to help with what you're doing. You seem to have a great sex life with your bf, enjoy it and stop thinking so much.

 

Relax and enjoy life.

Thank you...I went and saw a doctor and was diagnosed with depression and GAD. So, my constant worry makes a little more sense now. I started taking medication yesterday, but for someone reason the anxiety is still there. :( I hope it goes away soon....
Thank you again

I am really glad that you asked this question. It totally resonates with what I am going through right now.
I went to an all girls school and did not have any interaction with guys till grade 9.  Then, I had a huge crush on this guy attending math tuitions that we were a part of.  Since then I have only been with guys. I was involved in 3 serious relationships over the course of about 8 years. Right now I am 25.

In my childhood I have done a few physical acts with girls my age and younger. It really excited me at that time. But somehow after coming into contact with other guys, I never felt physically attracted to girls at all. I do check out females if they are good looking...just to admire how nice they look and wish I could be like them too. But thats it. Nothing more than that. I never felt like doing anything physical to them.

Right now I have this nagging feeling every now and then telling me that "I am actually a lesbian and that I dont want to accept it". I am really frustrated. I know that I would rather prefer guys but this feeling refuses to go away.

I want to know if going to a doctor has helped you. Right now I am just trying to meditate, engage in other activities to get rid of this thought. Please help in case you have any advise or insight on this

Thanks

yes, i think you are just over analyzing and making yourself go crazy. Relax, enjoy sex with your boyfriend and quit worrying. If you were a lesbian, you would know, all those childhood experimentation is normal.

hi guys!

 

can you tell me the outcome of this? im 20 ive been with my boyfriend over 2 years i love him with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him, i use to mastibate over lesbian porn but stopped when one day i randomly had obsessive thoughts. we have an amazing sex life, but i barly orgasim i can only do it on my own, but doing this i ALWAYS orgasim thinking about him when im masterbating.. i just can barly achieve it when im actually having sex.. just anal or for play.

ive never ever wanted to be in a realationship with a girl or have sex with one.

i have intence OCD and anxiety would love to know the outcome of you storys..

I'm 24, been with my boyfriend for going on three years now and I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else! But recently I met this girl and I am really crushing on her! Hard! I think about her alot and we're in nursing school together so there's lots of touchy/feely assessment stuff going since we're lab partners! She's also got a boyfriend so I don't feel comfortable opening up to her about it. But these feelings are driving me crazy! I can't talk to my boyfriend about it and I don't want my friends to take this "too seriously" if it's just a temporary obsession I'm my mind is having fun with. But I can't contain myself! I feel like I just wanna scream out at the top of my lungs! So much tension building up inside of me and I don't even know what it's over. Partly sexual, the mystery piece, and I guess I like having something to look forward to everyday and having something to fantasize about but what do I really have to look forward to? I know I'm obsessing on this hard but I just don't know what I'm doing!

WOW this totaallllly resonates with me. I'm so glad I'm not the only one haha I thought I was going crazy. I was exposed to lesbian porn kinda young so I thought since I was watching it and enjoying it it made me a lesbian. But now I know that if I was, I would have known from a very early age. Since I can remember i've been completely boy crazy so feeling this way always confused me and I felt trapped. I always have those nagging thoughts because I overanalyze but now I know not to overanalyze and just be completely honest with myself that it dosen't make me a lesbian!

You're not a lesbian, and you're also not bi. You are straight. I once wrote a paper for a University class and it was about pornography and women/ men watching it. I nearly failed it because of claims that "women watching women obviously meant they are lesbians". That is not the case at all. In fact, women watch pornography (not to get off from watching boobs or anything), but because the actual act of manipulating the clitoris and vagina is a stimulating image to watch. Regardless of it is a woman, man, dildo, whatever manipulating it, it is the ACT of seeing a vagina/clit getting stimulated that is what makes you become aroused. It is almost a way of pretending that the specific vagina/clit in the video is yours, (a way that people identify with what they are viewing). Pretend you are watching a movie, for example, Cinderella. Cinderella is the main character for which you as a girl identify with, psychologically when you watch it you pretend you are her.

Now, in terms of your anxiety. Your anxiety is what is BRINGING this out. You are straight. Always have been, always will be. However, you have an anxiety problem which is easily triggered. For instance, a random thought of, "Omg, am I a lesbian??" Trust me, you are not. If you were, you wouldn't be questioning it. So, take a deep breath. You are not going crazy. You are an anxious person.

So the real issue here is your anxiety, not whether or not you are a lesbian. I promise you, you are not. I highly recommend that you get your anxiety under control now, rather than later, because it is a very difficult problem to deal with once it becomes so severe. Please seek help. I hope this helps.

Hi, my name is Sarah. Your post is exactly what's currently going on for me. I realize this is an old posy but I'm wondering how things worked out for you? Thank u.

Stop taking the medication...

I am scared I'm going to become lesbian and I don't want to and I heard if your worried your not going to be lesbian

Hi. I'm 24. I have a boyfriend who I love and adore. We've been together for three years. Never have I questioned my sexuality until now. Recently I've been home, bored, doing absolutely nothing. My mind tends to over think about several things. Recently, I began asking myself if I'm a lesbian. I have never fantasized about being with a women in my entire life... Physically or romantically. However because I began over analyzing and creating scenarios in my head about being with other girls (no fanatasies) I feel as if I am? If I look at a girl (while having anxiety about being a lesbian) I feel as if I want to kiss her because I'm questioning it. I picture other things because my anxiety pushes me too and it just feels awakward. I would just like some feedback .