Ok well hi everybody
Reading through the posts i can assure that her health is completely fine, thank you for the concerns. We went very slow, and i have a rather large penis (8 1/2 inches) so i was never fully in her.
Im sorry to hear about your past experiences with this all Hizgrace4all
Thank you for your concerns and your advice, it is all taken in greatly.
Reading through the posts i can assure that her health is completely fine, thank you for the concerns. We went very slow, and i have a rather large penis (8 1/2 inches) so i was never fully in her.
Im sorry to hear about your past experiences with this all Hizgrace4all
Thank you for your concerns and your advice, it is all taken in greatly.
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frankly it is a couples own choice as to what they want to do what each person is comfortable with and communication.
If a couple wants to engage in anal penetration then by all means explore- get educated, and only do what youre comfortable and what your partners comfortable with, and if it hurts, stop. No ones going to make you go further than what you want to do.
and if they do, get out of the situation. end of story.
It sounds like to me that those posting on this site have had some bad experiences with that exploration and have been abused, or have abused.
Fear has no room to live in a loving relationship.
Im quite sorry for offending anyone by being frank - I could use medical terms for parts of our anatomy- but prefer to call things by what most people recognize them as- theyre all the same thing with many names, and the more ways you can communicate something the better - I think. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with describing sexual behavior. Once again- the clearer you can be in communication- the better. Vagueness does no good in explaining exactly what you mean.
In my opinion, communication is the key to all relationships.
Yes get educated, talk to your partner, explain how you feel to eachother, and what scares you about anal sex and what turns you on about it, as well as the many things that could go wrong, and decide if youre both comfortable with it, if you want to try it, or of its just not for you.
Any of those options is okay- it is you and your partners decision, please dont let anyone with a bad past decide your decisions for you, or scare you out of exploring your sexuality with your partner.
And you always have the right to change your mind - if you feel uncomfortable with something that you thought you would be comfortable with before hand.
the same goes for you partner, and when you care for someone you respect how they feel and what they say- no matter how much you want to try something.
-And "Hisgrace4all"-I do not base my marriage on public peer pressure, please do not imply that I do. THAT is offending. It is obvious to me that you want to push your opinions on everyone else and you believe that your values are right and everyone else should feel as you do.
I dont know what your values are, or what your past has been like, or how you choose to live, but the fact that you would so strongly impose on others, is not reciprocated, nor do I appreciate it.
It sounds like you are very hurt and are grieving over something in your personal sexual relationship, as well as repressed emotion and anxiety.
I would really advise you to seek out professional help, to help you get through that.
Im not attempting to offend you, I am merely reflecting what I see in your posts, and am concerned.
If a couple wants to engage in anal penetration then by all means explore- get educated, and only do what youre comfortable and what your partners comfortable with, and if it hurts, stop. No ones going to make you go further than what you want to do.
and if they do, get out of the situation. end of story.
It sounds like to me that those posting on this site have had some bad experiences with that exploration and have been abused, or have abused.
Fear has no room to live in a loving relationship.
Im quite sorry for offending anyone by being frank - I could use medical terms for parts of our anatomy- but prefer to call things by what most people recognize them as- theyre all the same thing with many names, and the more ways you can communicate something the better - I think. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with describing sexual behavior. Once again- the clearer you can be in communication- the better. Vagueness does no good in explaining exactly what you mean.
In my opinion, communication is the key to all relationships.
Yes get educated, talk to your partner, explain how you feel to eachother, and what scares you about anal sex and what turns you on about it, as well as the many things that could go wrong, and decide if youre both comfortable with it, if you want to try it, or of its just not for you.
Any of those options is okay- it is you and your partners decision, please dont let anyone with a bad past decide your decisions for you, or scare you out of exploring your sexuality with your partner.
And you always have the right to change your mind - if you feel uncomfortable with something that you thought you would be comfortable with before hand.
the same goes for you partner, and when you care for someone you respect how they feel and what they say- no matter how much you want to try something.
-And "Hisgrace4all"-I do not base my marriage on public peer pressure, please do not imply that I do. THAT is offending. It is obvious to me that you want to push your opinions on everyone else and you believe that your values are right and everyone else should feel as you do.
I dont know what your values are, or what your past has been like, or how you choose to live, but the fact that you would so strongly impose on others, is not reciprocated, nor do I appreciate it.
It sounds like you are very hurt and are grieving over something in your personal sexual relationship, as well as repressed emotion and anxiety.
I would really advise you to seek out professional help, to help you get through that.
Im not attempting to offend you, I am merely reflecting what I see in your posts, and am concerned.
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birth control does not make your body that bad! when i first went on the pill i only had to wait 7 days till i was protected.
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ok- coming from my gyn it is wise to wait a full cycle before engaging sex without a back up when starting the pill for the first time, or switching to a new pill- because its not gauranteed to be 99% effective.
And everyones body reacts differently to the different hormones and amounts of hormones in various pills. On some you might have a lot of side effects, some you might not react to at all, or have very minimal side effects. every woman is different and you should find whats right for you.
And everyones body reacts differently to the different hormones and amounts of hormones in various pills. On some you might have a lot of side effects, some you might not react to at all, or have very minimal side effects. every woman is different and you should find whats right for you.
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i think maybe the information they give you in america is different to the UK because i never seem to agree with anything.
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it differs with who you talk to, for example, when I had a sinus infection I had to get an antibiotic, and my doc said- oh you re pills should work fine, but then when I went to pick up the prescription, the pharmacist said that it is possible for you get pregnant b/c the antibiotic will make the pill less effective. (so the chance was still low, but we didnt want to take any chances)
its just an extra precaution.
its just an extra precaution.
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Adventuresofava,
This is a public forum where we all can express our opinions, that is the beauty of it. It in not just for opinions, but also for facts. The facts are a wonderful thing.
My original post was to Fender. There was absolutely NO point of wanting to push my beliefs or otherwise on him. I presented facts, and candidly shared something that happened to me, honestly not expecting to get what I felt was a disgusting reply from you. But, as I said, this an open forum where we can express these things.
When the comment was made about public peer pressure, it was not made to point to you or anything in your marriage. Bottom line. It was a general comment. Not pointing fingers toward any particular person.
You mentioned, what I thought to be "psychoanalyzing" , from posts/comments I made, and made a very strong judgement call based on comments and opinions that were expressed by me, furthermore, expressing that you felt "help" was needed.
People often times feel VERY strongly about certain issues, wether they have had good or bad experiences with them. In these forums, it is a wonderful blessing to be able to express these things, and people can read them, take them or leave them as they wish. Again, we have the right to speak freely and to speak up when we have been offended by another person, as we do not all view things through the same eyes. My desire in the first post was not to "shove beliefs" or any such thing on ANYONE, but to relay facts, and some information in the best way I know possible.
Again, a person may take this or leave it. Fender did not take offense to the post, or so it seems in the post, it was taken with stride and appreciation. The posts that are placed again, can be taken or left aside.
Posts which I put in this forum I place after research, facts, and a desire to try and help others POSSIBLY avoid future "issues" (if you will). To educate them on things that they may or may not know. They will take it or leave it.
My point is why would ANYONE want to possibly risk ANY harm to someone they love in ANY way, not just this way. No matter what any persons convictions are on these issues, I dont (in my humble opinion) believe that anyone would consciously do anything to another to cause harm. Some dont know the effects. The way you presented the first post you sent to me was offensive to me, period. I have the right to express that in this forum.
I will place a little info that I researched on several sites on this post for AL:
Anal sex can be risky. Even when people use lots of lubrication during anal sex, there can be tearing of the tissue inside the anus, which is not as well protected as the skin outside the anus. Our external tissue is "kerotinized," meaning that it has layers of dead cells that create a thickened protective barrier. The tissue inside the anus does not have this feature. Without plenty of lubrication, anal tissue can tear quite easily, creating openings where bacteria and viruses can enter and cause disease problems, such as anal cancer or HIV/AIDS transmission
The anus is usually held closed by a sphincter, which is a muscle that goes around the opening of the anus. (There are many different sphincters in the body, and they all encircle specific body parts, keeping them closed when the sphincter muscle contracts, then letting things pass through when the sphincter muscle relaxes.)
The extra pressure on the anus places the sphincter muscle around the anus to contract extra tightly. This tightening of the sphincter is a reflex and it happens automatically, as if the body was designed to keep things from entering the anus from the outside. The contraction of the sphincter makes it all the harder for the penis to enter into the anus—the tight fit of the penis in the anus (which is closed by the anal sphincter) causes small tears in the interior parts of the anus, though there may not be any conspicuous external bleeding.
one of the many tiny tears in the anus is much larger than a virus. Hence, even a miniscule tear is like a “superhighway” for viruses and HIV —the virus that causes AIDS. Viruses are among the very smallest of life forms, so a broken blood vessel is gigantic in comparison with a virus. If HPV (the virus that causes genital warts) gets into the anus, it can cause anal cancer.
For this reason, anal sex is the riskiest form of sexual activity when it comes to the transmission of HIV/AIDS. Tiny tears in the anal tissue are like giant superhighways for the HIV viruses, allowing them to get inside the body and enter the blood system. Anal tears provide an opening for all the other STDs as well. It may be possible for repetitive anal sex to lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, which is the muscle that tightens after we defecate. Once weakened, feces can escape the anus against our will.
Hizgrace
This is a public forum where we all can express our opinions, that is the beauty of it. It in not just for opinions, but also for facts. The facts are a wonderful thing.
My original post was to Fender. There was absolutely NO point of wanting to push my beliefs or otherwise on him. I presented facts, and candidly shared something that happened to me, honestly not expecting to get what I felt was a disgusting reply from you. But, as I said, this an open forum where we can express these things.
When the comment was made about public peer pressure, it was not made to point to you or anything in your marriage. Bottom line. It was a general comment. Not pointing fingers toward any particular person.
You mentioned, what I thought to be "psychoanalyzing" , from posts/comments I made, and made a very strong judgement call based on comments and opinions that were expressed by me, furthermore, expressing that you felt "help" was needed.
People often times feel VERY strongly about certain issues, wether they have had good or bad experiences with them. In these forums, it is a wonderful blessing to be able to express these things, and people can read them, take them or leave them as they wish. Again, we have the right to speak freely and to speak up when we have been offended by another person, as we do not all view things through the same eyes. My desire in the first post was not to "shove beliefs" or any such thing on ANYONE, but to relay facts, and some information in the best way I know possible.
Again, a person may take this or leave it. Fender did not take offense to the post, or so it seems in the post, it was taken with stride and appreciation. The posts that are placed again, can be taken or left aside.
Posts which I put in this forum I place after research, facts, and a desire to try and help others POSSIBLY avoid future "issues" (if you will). To educate them on things that they may or may not know. They will take it or leave it.
My point is why would ANYONE want to possibly risk ANY harm to someone they love in ANY way, not just this way. No matter what any persons convictions are on these issues, I dont (in my humble opinion) believe that anyone would consciously do anything to another to cause harm. Some dont know the effects. The way you presented the first post you sent to me was offensive to me, period. I have the right to express that in this forum.
I will place a little info that I researched on several sites on this post for AL:
Anal sex can be risky. Even when people use lots of lubrication during anal sex, there can be tearing of the tissue inside the anus, which is not as well protected as the skin outside the anus. Our external tissue is "kerotinized," meaning that it has layers of dead cells that create a thickened protective barrier. The tissue inside the anus does not have this feature. Without plenty of lubrication, anal tissue can tear quite easily, creating openings where bacteria and viruses can enter and cause disease problems, such as anal cancer or HIV/AIDS transmission
The anus is usually held closed by a sphincter, which is a muscle that goes around the opening of the anus. (There are many different sphincters in the body, and they all encircle specific body parts, keeping them closed when the sphincter muscle contracts, then letting things pass through when the sphincter muscle relaxes.)
The extra pressure on the anus places the sphincter muscle around the anus to contract extra tightly. This tightening of the sphincter is a reflex and it happens automatically, as if the body was designed to keep things from entering the anus from the outside. The contraction of the sphincter makes it all the harder for the penis to enter into the anus—the tight fit of the penis in the anus (which is closed by the anal sphincter) causes small tears in the interior parts of the anus, though there may not be any conspicuous external bleeding.
one of the many tiny tears in the anus is much larger than a virus. Hence, even a miniscule tear is like a “superhighway” for viruses and HIV —the virus that causes AIDS. Viruses are among the very smallest of life forms, so a broken blood vessel is gigantic in comparison with a virus. If HPV (the virus that causes genital warts) gets into the anus, it can cause anal cancer.
For this reason, anal sex is the riskiest form of sexual activity when it comes to the transmission of HIV/AIDS. Tiny tears in the anal tissue are like giant superhighways for the HIV viruses, allowing them to get inside the body and enter the blood system. Anal tears provide an opening for all the other STDs as well. It may be possible for repetitive anal sex to lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, which is the muscle that tightens after we defecate. Once weakened, feces can escape the anus against our will.
Hizgrace
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what more can I say.
than duh-
or, much less vulgar to you I'm sure, I'll be more specific:
Obviously this is a place for opinion, and you have the right to say what you would like, in respect to that, I do as well.
Get over it. If you say something I don't like or I take offensive, I will let you know, as I'm sure you will let me know, as you have demonstrated.
Are we quite finished bantering back and forth?
I would like to side step the lectures, as you are the only one I have come across that likes to explain your opinion over and over again to me.
I get it.
You're opinionated. And not a person that I would ask an opinion of, not that you're not knowledgeable, but I don't like your approach.
Please stop writing back things that are directed to me.
than duh-
or, much less vulgar to you I'm sure, I'll be more specific:
Obviously this is a place for opinion, and you have the right to say what you would like, in respect to that, I do as well.
Get over it. If you say something I don't like or I take offensive, I will let you know, as I'm sure you will let me know, as you have demonstrated.
Are we quite finished bantering back and forth?
I would like to side step the lectures, as you are the only one I have come across that likes to explain your opinion over and over again to me.
I get it.
You're opinionated. And not a person that I would ask an opinion of, not that you're not knowledgeable, but I don't like your approach.
Please stop writing back things that are directed to me.
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