Hi, I have my Mother-In-Law (Louise) living in my home with me and my Husband (her son). Louise I was very close to for about 25 of my 34 years of marriage. Louise is now 95 years old and she has turned on me for going into her home with her son and cleaning up her Livingroom for her, her son was with me and we both did the cleaning so he is my witness that I did nothing wrong. Louise is mad at me because we packed her books in boxes and labeled it for her. Louise eyesight is bad and will never get better according to the eye Doctor but she is convinced she will get her eyesight back and can read again. Now we have apologized to her telling her we thought we were helping her but she will not forgive and she dwells on it all the time but her anger is at me even though her son was also involved. This hap;pened over a year ago and today she is confused on her facts of what happened on that day but in her words we are wrong and she knows exactly what happened. Louise is domineering and wants all her sons time and attention and gets upset if we leave the house together and just go to Walmart. I have just stayed away and let my Husband care for her but I can see the toll all of this has put on our marriage. If Louise has a Doctor appointment she does not want me going in the vehicle with them and if on any day we have an errand and she finds out I am going she will not go with us.
I would appreciate any feed back on this as to how to cope with it.
I would appreciate any feed back on this as to how to cope with it.
I am dealing with the exact same situation . I put in some google searches desperate for any advice on how to work through this . Have things patched up since then ? I'd like to talk with you !
Wendy Rivara
Wendy Rivara