Just wondering as I seem kind of alone in this.
I have a 3 month old baby and have fallen pregnant. Me and my fiance wouldn't be able to cope with another baby so soon, so we've made the heart-breaking decision to have a termination.
When I go on to abortion forums, it seems the majority are girls who are yet to have children, who are delaying the prospect of motherhood until later. This makes me feel worse for some reason.
I think I would find this termination easier if I hadn't just had a baby, memories of carrying a child for nine months are still strong.
Also, I tried to book a termination the minute I found out, but the hospital wouldn't allow me to come until I'm 6 weeks pregnant (termination is next week) I'm a bit sad because I wanted one as early as possible. They said that they need to be able to see the baby on a scan first, which is why I have to wait until then. Why is this?
I just need some support. I feel terrible.
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Hi Dizzy,
Are you having a surgical or chemical abortion? It may be the policy of the hospital/clinic that you need to see the baby first.
I can't imagine what you are feeling now. I know I shouldn't add to this but here goes...
I'm not trying to change your mind. I realize this must have been a difficult decision. From my experience on this board I can only tell you of what I see, so many times, after an abortion. It's just something else to consider.
You feel terrible now. How are you going to feel after the abortion? It likely won't be relief. Read some of the posts from those women that have had abortions. Many feel regret, wondering what "could have been." As you said, you've just given birth, you know what it is like to feel that baby grow. As the months progress you'll remember when you felt that first kick or any of the other feelings you had as you carried your child. You'll recall when you went into labor as you near the baby's due date.
There are other options, adoption is one.
Good luck.
Are you having a surgical or chemical abortion? It may be the policy of the hospital/clinic that you need to see the baby first.
I can't imagine what you are feeling now. I know I shouldn't add to this but here goes...
I'm not trying to change your mind. I realize this must have been a difficult decision. From my experience on this board I can only tell you of what I see, so many times, after an abortion. It's just something else to consider.
You feel terrible now. How are you going to feel after the abortion? It likely won't be relief. Read some of the posts from those women that have had abortions. Many feel regret, wondering what "could have been." As you said, you've just given birth, you know what it is like to feel that baby grow. As the months progress you'll remember when you felt that first kick or any of the other feelings you had as you carried your child. You'll recall when you went into labor as you near the baby's due date.
There are other options, adoption is one.
Good luck.
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Hi there dizzypixiegirl.
I have 5 children...fell pregnant with my 6th. My partners and my relationship was on rocky road. He wanted the termination more than me and thought we wouldn't cope. So we decided to terminate. I had the termination at 5 weeks. I cry everyday and struggle to come to terms with it. I had never had one before. Being a mother all ready it was the hardest thing, I have a strong bond and nurturing nature. I did it for my partner which I regret to this very day. The procedure it self was very quick. It is the after psychological effects that I'm coming to grips with. The clinic staff said I wouldn't feel a thing, but I 'feel' everyday. I think about whether its a boy or a girl. I will never forget or forgive myself for the horrible thing that I did. I wish I could take it back. I would of coped on my own if I had too. It was something to look forward too, new life.
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Hi, can you tell me what happened after you posted this, and how you feel now. I am in a very simaler position except my baby is 8 months old. i also feel very alone, thankyou
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