I have had sex a few times in the last couple of months with a guy who says that he has been tested and there is no way that he can father children. We didn't use a condom. I am on birth control but was sick recently and on antibiotics and we had sex again. I have been EXTREMELY emotional - crying for the last 3 days, nauseated, and wanting to drink white milk - I hate white milk. I won't be able to nurse babies because I have had a breast reduction so I don't know how my mammary glands will respond to pregnancy. The last time we had sex was 11 days ago but since I am on birth control, and I take it for 3 months in a row, I don't have any way of knowing when my period would be late. Should I stop taking my birth control and see if I get a period? What are the chances that I really could be pregnant?
Hi. Please be very careful when taking BCP's and antibiotics!! The antibiotics will "lessen" the effect of your BCP's and you could become pregnant. Use a second form of birth control like condoms to double protect yourself, especially if you do not want another baby. As for the breast reduction...I had my last child 3 years after my breast reductions and was able to breast feed alittle. Make sure you check with your doctor first to be sure it will be safe, especially if you just had the surgery. Good luck.
Jeannine
Jeannine
Thanks. Yes, I know that antibiotics can lessen the effects of birth control pills. As I mentioned I am concerned because supposedly he is not able to father children and he has no reason to lie to me about that because he does not want a child out of wedlock either. We've been friends for a long time and he told me that long before we had sex. That is why we didn't use a condom - I didn't think it was possible that I would be able to conceive with him. I will admit that I have been very emotional lately because of the situation with him. He does not want to be in a relationship with me even though he wants/wanted to sleep with me and it is really breaking my heart. I have been bawling for 5 days now - which is very uncommon for me. I do cry easily but I usually run out of tears and even if I want to cry more my eyes just don't produce the tears. My eating habits have not changed but none of my pants or skirts fit anymore at the waist except for the elastic ones. I was at the store last night and noticed that my belly has expanded quite a bit. I took a home pregnancy test this morning but it came out negative. It has only been 12 days since we had unprotected sex while I was also on antibiotics. I have been very queasy for several days now and have thrown up small amounts every day for the last 2 days several times a day. Am I just trying to talk myself into being pregnant? I would love to have a baby but I am single and I am 99% sure that he is not going to want to be with me even if I am having his baby and I wouldn't want him just for that reason. I have mixed feelings about the whole thing and I am sure that I will be both happy and sad about the results no matter what they are. Happy to have a baby but sad to be alone. Happy to not be having a baby with someone who doesn't want me but sad that I'm not having a baby. I'm so confused!
Oh, I am so sorry that this man is just using you for sex!! I think that is the worst part, especially if you want to be with him. Emotions run high and you get mentally attached which makes it worse. The best thing you can do is made a decision whether you want to be in a relationship with someone that does not or if it is ok with you to just have a sexual relationship without the emotional involvement. That is the hardest part hon. I do have a suggestion...This may sound alittle childish, but it DOES work! Make a Pro's and Con's list. This will be something you can visually look at which may register mentally with you. I hope for your sake everything works out! If you are infact pregnant, there will be many choices for you to make. You have to do what is best for YOU, though. Good luck and if you need anything please let me know :-)
Jeannine
Jeannine
Well, good news, I'm not pregnant and after he has been treating me this week - I wouldn't take him even if he came crawling back to me begging. I guess a lesson lived is a lesson learned in this case.