I randomly stumbled across this forum and i cant express how relieved i am to know that there are other people out there that understand what i am going through.
I am 21 years old and have noticed this problem since i was about 12/13...
I have never been able to tell anyone but have recently built up the courage to go and see my GP...
I live in the UK and im hoping that the NHS Will cover a corrective surgery as i really can not afford to pay for it.
This is something that constantly eats away at your self esteem and breaks you down gradually.I think about my breast size all the time and it makes me incredibly insecure and depressed and i think it has majory affected my mental health.
I was wondering if anyone else in the UK knows about the NHS and if this covers it?
I am 21 years old and have noticed this problem since i was about 12/13...
I have never been able to tell anyone but have recently built up the courage to go and see my GP...
I live in the UK and im hoping that the NHS Will cover a corrective surgery as i really can not afford to pay for it.
This is something that constantly eats away at your self esteem and breaks you down gradually.I think about my breast size all the time and it makes me incredibly insecure and depressed and i think it has majory affected my mental health.
I was wondering if anyone else in the UK knows about the NHS and if this covers it?
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I am 32 yrs old and had severe soliosis which was treated with surgery when I was 13. Even though I had two rods fused on either side of my spine, I am still very uneven. Along with my back being uneven so are my breasts! One is a C cup the other is a small B. It has driven me crazy for years. Thankfully when I grew up in the late 80's early 90's baggy clothes were in. Now not so much. I am not as self concious as I was when I was younger. I will wear tank tops now, but not too low cut and bathing suits are out of the picture. I hate shopping for shirts or bras. Bras cannot have an underwire because they don't sit right on my lopsided body. The only bras that fit are the cheap non padded ones. I look fine if you view me from the front but from the side my left breast is huge and the right is tiny. I contemplated implants in my mid 20's and seeked to have them covered by medical because the scoliosis contributed to the uneveness. But the plastic surgeon said no even though I complained that it grated on my self esteem and caused me to be depressed which it has. Still no. I am once again thinking about implants, but at this point, I would rather pay down my mortgage or buy a new car.... so now I am contemplating asking my doctor about reduction on the bigger side. And if that is covered by medical, then that would be the best way to even them out. I usually wear dark colors, stuff that is not too tight as it accentuates the soliosis and uneven breasts. I wear a lot of tank tops and hoodies. The hoody is usually unzipped in the middle to take the eye away from the breasts. I have bought the gel inserts but when I put it in on the right side, it looks wrong.
So no you are not alone. And people need to stop saying all woman have uneven breasts and to get over it. If it is a difference in cup size it is a big deal to those of us that have to live with it.
So no you are not alone. And people need to stop saying all woman have uneven breasts and to get over it. If it is a difference in cup size it is a big deal to those of us that have to live with it.
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What I have done to improve my condition- left side A, right side B or C depending- is to do pectoral exercises on the left side. By doing short repetitious weight exercises I have gained some muscle that helps my smaller breast seem perkier. It has helped me form that crease in between my breasts that shapes cleavage. Because my breasts point outward and away, rather than straight and centered, this is mostly what I desire.
I also keep my left bra strap much looser than the right so that I can constantly pull down the under wire to make the top of my left breast levitates on the same level as the right.
I noticed that a change in my posture also made a big difference in how I feel and by arching my back I feel like I am more of a woman.
I have developed a habit of sleeping on a side so that this left breast will hang toward the center and I also give myself frequent massage to help loosen the skin, whether it works or not it makes me feel more confident.
When it comes to the bedroom, I find that one's partner often enjoys it when one touches their own breast, so I made a habit of just holding mine together until they look even for the sake of less embarrassment and more stimulation.
I wouldn't take my bra off for guys for a while until I got into my most recent relationship. As it works with all relationships, you really just have to find one TRUSTWORTHY person who loves you so much that you can tell that they don't honestly care. I'm the type of female who gets really defensive when it comes to the influence that the porn industry has on male sexualities. I don't really want big, fake, gigantic breasts to feel sexy nor should I feel pressured to have them.
A friend of mine claimed that as she entered her thirties, her breasts grew/moved/reshaped with age. There is an obvious difference between a 20 year old's breast and a 30 year old's. I decided that after I have graduated from college (I'm 23 now, I've got 2-4 years left) I will go to a surgeon for a consultation on a lift only. I would like to see how I might obtain "cleavage" and permanently! If I can't do anything without avoiding expensive implantation, I don't think I ever will do anything at all.
I also keep my left bra strap much looser than the right so that I can constantly pull down the under wire to make the top of my left breast levitates on the same level as the right.
I noticed that a change in my posture also made a big difference in how I feel and by arching my back I feel like I am more of a woman.
I have developed a habit of sleeping on a side so that this left breast will hang toward the center and I also give myself frequent massage to help loosen the skin, whether it works or not it makes me feel more confident.
When it comes to the bedroom, I find that one's partner often enjoys it when one touches their own breast, so I made a habit of just holding mine together until they look even for the sake of less embarrassment and more stimulation.
I wouldn't take my bra off for guys for a while until I got into my most recent relationship. As it works with all relationships, you really just have to find one TRUSTWORTHY person who loves you so much that you can tell that they don't honestly care. I'm the type of female who gets really defensive when it comes to the influence that the porn industry has on male sexualities. I don't really want big, fake, gigantic breasts to feel sexy nor should I feel pressured to have them.
A friend of mine claimed that as she entered her thirties, her breasts grew/moved/reshaped with age. There is an obvious difference between a 20 year old's breast and a 30 year old's. I decided that after I have graduated from college (I'm 23 now, I've got 2-4 years left) I will go to a surgeon for a consultation on a lift only. I would like to see how I might obtain "cleavage" and permanently! If I can't do anything without avoiding expensive implantation, I don't think I ever will do anything at all.
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I would never have imagined that there are so many woman out there with this large of an uneveness in their breats- all of my friends say what every one else says "No woman has normal breasts" And then I show them and they're like oh...well still... Its rather annoying and while I dont like that fact that so many woman have these issues I feel better knowing I'm not alone.
I'm watching the BBC AM special about large breasts and got curious about my own condition-my left breast has been smaller then right for about a decade-i'm 23 now.
During pueberty I knew right away they weren the same size and the worst damage it did was I didnt care how I looked since I thought I'd never look good especially in a swim suit- so I became overweight, which doesnt help since it only caused the Right side to grow larger (if it had any effect).
At 13 my mother realized the issue when I couldnt wear her old bras anymore- my right side was a C cup and the left was an A-and she took me to a top local specialist to see if it was a tumor in the right side. It wasnt ofcourse, I learned it was normal and that if I wanted to do a surgical redux or implant I should wait until I have children, or if I dont want children I should wait til after I'm 18. I'm glad I wasnt too keen on surgery when I was a teen because after about 3 yrs they started growing again and my c/d a/b became DD B.
Throughout my teen yrs I used padding but I also joined the swim team in an effort to get over the fear of being the odd one out- it helped in some ways because no one really cared- the only comment I heard was 3yrs in by a guy friend on the team that was more comical to me then anything else- he hadnt noticed til then.
I think the worst of it was knowing that any guy that asked me out only did so because they wanted to get to know my chest on an more intimate level and were disapointed to discover the difference when they'd place their hands on them. I know there are guys that really dont care- or so they say-but its like if they dont care then why is it such a big deal? Why are even the simplist clothes designed to show off or even point out the shape of breasts? Plus using the padding felt a little like a lie when it came to the dating game.
When I was 20/21 the plus size store Torrid came out with a bra line- and one bra is really really really good at hiding the difference with out padding, the cups are firm -already shaped - and basically I just fill them up-the one side as more room left over but I'm the only one who can tell which is great. Its nice to have a normal shape fully clothed.
I still used padding though- I was afraid the oddity would cause me to loose a job or get negative attention. But for the last month I've been padding free and no one cares- no one points and laughs and no one asks about it-
I think though that before anyone should go through with an operation is to try being completely natural- no padding- and where normal clothes that you like- including a swim suit- I know its been like a weight lifted off of me since since I stopped bothering with the padding.
I really hope this is more helpfully then sounding like a random rant about this. Thank you to the original poster!
I'm watching the BBC AM special about large breasts and got curious about my own condition-my left breast has been smaller then right for about a decade-i'm 23 now.
During pueberty I knew right away they weren the same size and the worst damage it did was I didnt care how I looked since I thought I'd never look good especially in a swim suit- so I became overweight, which doesnt help since it only caused the Right side to grow larger (if it had any effect).
At 13 my mother realized the issue when I couldnt wear her old bras anymore- my right side was a C cup and the left was an A-and she took me to a top local specialist to see if it was a tumor in the right side. It wasnt ofcourse, I learned it was normal and that if I wanted to do a surgical redux or implant I should wait until I have children, or if I dont want children I should wait til after I'm 18. I'm glad I wasnt too keen on surgery when I was a teen because after about 3 yrs they started growing again and my c/d a/b became DD B.
Throughout my teen yrs I used padding but I also joined the swim team in an effort to get over the fear of being the odd one out- it helped in some ways because no one really cared- the only comment I heard was 3yrs in by a guy friend on the team that was more comical to me then anything else- he hadnt noticed til then.
I think the worst of it was knowing that any guy that asked me out only did so because they wanted to get to know my chest on an more intimate level and were disapointed to discover the difference when they'd place their hands on them. I know there are guys that really dont care- or so they say-but its like if they dont care then why is it such a big deal? Why are even the simplist clothes designed to show off or even point out the shape of breasts? Plus using the padding felt a little like a lie when it came to the dating game.
When I was 20/21 the plus size store Torrid came out with a bra line- and one bra is really really really good at hiding the difference with out padding, the cups are firm -already shaped - and basically I just fill them up-the one side as more room left over but I'm the only one who can tell which is great. Its nice to have a normal shape fully clothed.
I still used padding though- I was afraid the oddity would cause me to loose a job or get negative attention. But for the last month I've been padding free and no one cares- no one points and laughs and no one asks about it-
I think though that before anyone should go through with an operation is to try being completely natural- no padding- and where normal clothes that you like- including a swim suit- I know its been like a weight lifted off of me since since I stopped bothering with the padding.
I really hope this is more helpfully then sounding like a random rant about this. Thank you to the original poster!
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Wow, I feel so relieved seeing so many women going through what I did. I've always felt really alone in this, and never personally met another person suffering from this.
I'm 20 years old. I wear a 38B size, but my left breast is huge compared to my right one. -- It's like since I was 10 only the left breast grew, while the right one remained tiny, just slightly jutting out.
As I grew up, right from the beginning I became alarmed seeing only one breast develop. I knew it would be a problem, despite my doctor's reassurances that it would eventually grow.
Adding to my bad luck, since I was 12 there have been countless stretch marks growing on my body. On my hips, tummy, shoulders, butt, breasts. Yes, even in the smaller breast. -- It's because I tended to grow A LOT in short periods of time, and almost every year my weight was like a yo-yo... I would easily gain AND lose 44 pounds in less than 4 months.
I'm sure that my hormonal imbalance only worsened the breast problem. My period was totally inconstant. I could go 3 months without it or have it twice in the same month. -- So I started taking the Pill when I was 14.
I have really low self-esteem, 90% due to my body. I avoided the beach like the plague, only wore t-shirts that covered my shoulders and tummy, never wore low-riding jeans and even avoided dresses/skirts altogether. And I wore a kind of push-up bra to disguise in the beginning, then bigger bras that I'd fill with some cloth/sponge/something.
It also affected my relationships with other people, specially guys. I didn't feel confortable around them and whenever I tried to date one, I broke up with him when he wanted more physicall contact (that would involve my breasts).
Right now I'm having my first potencially-lasting relationship, with a long-time friend and crush of mine. I felt I could trust him... but in the end I'm afraid to. Understandably, he wants more contact, wants to touch my breasts or even remove my shirt... but I really don't want him to see/feel them, nor my stretch marks.
It's hard for me to consider surgery... because even now my weight changes abruptly. But when I'm 25, then I'll think seriously about it.
I'm 20 years old. I wear a 38B size, but my left breast is huge compared to my right one. -- It's like since I was 10 only the left breast grew, while the right one remained tiny, just slightly jutting out.
As I grew up, right from the beginning I became alarmed seeing only one breast develop. I knew it would be a problem, despite my doctor's reassurances that it would eventually grow.
Adding to my bad luck, since I was 12 there have been countless stretch marks growing on my body. On my hips, tummy, shoulders, butt, breasts. Yes, even in the smaller breast. -- It's because I tended to grow A LOT in short periods of time, and almost every year my weight was like a yo-yo... I would easily gain AND lose 44 pounds in less than 4 months.
I'm sure that my hormonal imbalance only worsened the breast problem. My period was totally inconstant. I could go 3 months without it or have it twice in the same month. -- So I started taking the Pill when I was 14.
I have really low self-esteem, 90% due to my body. I avoided the beach like the plague, only wore t-shirts that covered my shoulders and tummy, never wore low-riding jeans and even avoided dresses/skirts altogether. And I wore a kind of push-up bra to disguise in the beginning, then bigger bras that I'd fill with some cloth/sponge/something.
It also affected my relationships with other people, specially guys. I didn't feel confortable around them and whenever I tried to date one, I broke up with him when he wanted more physicall contact (that would involve my breasts).
Right now I'm having my first potencially-lasting relationship, with a long-time friend and crush of mine. I felt I could trust him... but in the end I'm afraid to. Understandably, he wants more contact, wants to touch my breasts or even remove my shirt... but I really don't want him to see/feel them, nor my stretch marks.
It's hard for me to consider surgery... because even now my weight changes abruptly. But when I'm 25, then I'll think seriously about it.
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I'm 23 and have an A size cup and a B size cup. I'm extremely thin so this size variance is very noticeable. It has bothered me since they started forming and I immediately noticed the difference. I am married, and I know I'm very young, but next year we want to try to have a baby (my husband "claims" he doesn't notice). I have heard that this will only make the difference greater because fatty areas are more prone to growth. I'm very worried about this because I have a career as well and don't want anybody to notice! It is comforting to know that there are others out there!
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I was hoping Happy Girl might give an update, as I just had the same surgery six days ago and am in the same condition she was (larger breast still slightly larger, nipples just slightly off but still swollen) and hoping to know how she made out!!
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Hi everyone,
It's nice to read about others with the same problem as me just to know I'm not alone. I thought I should post on here too because I've read posts on here as well as other sites but never contributed so it only seems fair. It's made me feel better to read others' comments, so I think the more women that post about this problem, the more others will feel better/or at least have more people to relate to. I wish there was more info about this generally as I was despairing a lot until I started finding some forums like this one.
I have uneven breasts too, probably a B on the left and maybe a full C on the right. Although this seems to change a little with weight gain and weight loss and I've found that when I'm slimmer (and do some regular resistance exercises for the pec muscles - like chest presses etc) the difference doesn't seem quite as bad and both boobs seem a bit perkier. When I put on weight it seems to make my bigger boob even bigger in relation to the smaller one so I try to avoid putting on weight at all costs! I discovered this a few years ago and unfortunately it's meant that I've become really obsessed with food and being thin and quite often maybe not eating quite as much as I should. My friends think it's because I want to look more like the stick insects you see in magazines - I've never told them that I actually think it's more attractive to have a few curves! I just hate putting a few pounds on cz it seems to go to my boobs - and more on the already bigger one like I said. I'm not really really skinny but I think most people would say I'm a bit underweight.
I'm 25 now and like most other girls posting on this I first noticed the difference when I was about 14 yrs old - pretty much when my boobs had been growing for a year or two. I'm maybe a bit luckier than some as my boobs are pretty much the same shape - the right one just looks bigger and is lower/slightly droopier :( with a bit of a bigger nipple. I know it really isn't the end of the world and there are people out there in the world with far bigger problems than my stupid boobs but I've always been hugely self conscious about it and it's really affected my self esteem so much over the years. Sometimes being generally depressed, or when I've been in a relationship but I can feel it going wrong because of intimacy issues, or sometimes just not living life to the full/avoiding a situation where I'd be in a bikini/not going out with friends cz I can't find anything to wear that disguises the size difference/feeling awkward in tight or summer clothes. The list goes on.. and I'm really so so fed up with feeling like this.
I think, as others have said on here - you can only really appreciate this if you're in the same boat. I'd just like to have surgery and feel more 'normal' and then I could stop thinking about this practically all the time. It would be so amazing to just go out and buy a bra without the stress of trying to work out if it disguises the problem enough, or buy a stripey top - or actually have fun picking a bikini and not worrying constantly on the beach and not being a green eyed monster seeing girls with perfect boobs going topless! Not to mention the whole relationship thing..
I haven't ever told anyone about it, not even a doctor or a trusted friend or even my sister who I know would be great about it- as I feel too much of a freak. Or at least I feel that because I haven't told anyone then I feel 'normal' because they think I am. I suppose it helps me pretend that there's nothing wrong. I know some people have more worse or maybe a bit less asymmetry than me but I think like some people have said on here - it doesn't matter what the size difference is, if it bothers you then it doesn't matter what other people might say - it's a really big deal for those of us who have spent probably most of our teen life with this and maybe longer (like me). It's really great that some people are able to just live with it and not worry anymore but I just don't seem able to do that.
I can totally relate to people saying they only have sex in the dark and with their bra still on - just like i've done. I've even had two long term relationships, but my lack of confidence and inability to show any guy my boobs has slowly meant I have pushed them away because they think I just don't want to be that intimate - and I have always got gradually more and more anxious the longer the relationship has gone on and it becomes a major sticking point. They haven't understood why I've become more withdrawn about it and then inevitably the relationship has ended. Having just come out of a relationship of a few years I feel like I could have stopped the break up from happening, or got help sooner or something - and I have probably pushed away an amazing guy and will never get that relationship back. I realise I could have just bitten the bullit and just told my past boyfriends and maybe then found out that they don't actually care that much - but i've never had the confidence for fear of being dumped because they think I'm a freak. I've rather done the dumping myself or let myself be dumped which is pretty ridiculous I know..
Anyway, I agree with other people who have said the best way to disguise the cup or two cup difference is with a padded, formed but not push up bra - preferably one with the slots where you can insert a chicken fillet. I've bought a few different sizes of fillets so if I stuff one in the left side then clothes usually look totally fine over this and no one has noticed or at least ever said anything! I know what people mean though when they say it feels like a lie, especially in the dating game - but I don't have the courage to not try cover up the size difference.
I'm sick to death of trying to cover this up for so many years and I think i've finally worked up the courage to go see a surgeon about it and see about reducing the right side to match the left as I don't really care what size I have as long as I'm more even. I'd really like to know though if anyone else has been in my situation (maybe a cup and a half difference but same shaped boobs -and had a reduction?) -has it been successful, and what happens if you put on a bit of weight or get pregnant one day? Does the boob that's been reduced get bigger again, or does the boob that's not been reduced become the bigger one? That's why I don't want an augmentation/implants cz I want to decrease the variables if you see what I mean, and just get my boobs to the same kind of size in their natural state. If anyone knows anything about this I'd love to hear about it so please please reply! Also, having taken the pill a few years ago, it seemed to make my boobs more swollen and bigger, and my bigger boob seemed to get just a bit bigger in relation to the smaller one, which wasn't great.. so I stopped taking it.. which wasn't great for the relationship I was in at the time. I just wondered what experiences anyone has had if they started taking the pill after having had one boob reduced -did things stay even or did it cause un-eveness again?
Also if you're in the UK, can you recommend a good surgeon or the websites/methods used to look for one (I don't know if that's allowed on this site - so if you could email me or something if it's not allowed).
Also, I think I read here that's it's cheaper to just have one boob done than two - that makes sense I suppose as it's less work for the surgeon, but can anyone tell me is it a big difference in cost or not that much? I'm just trying to work out roughly how much I'm going to have to pay (in the UK) -but anyone with info from outside of the UK then please post too!
I just wanted to add my story on to all of the others on this site anyway cz I don't personally know anyone with the same problem as me - all my friends and my mum and sister have even boobs and can go bra-less and/or topless and I just find it so depressing that I'm not the same. Sorry for this really long post but I really wanted to say to every girl with the same problem reading this - don't think you're a freak or less of a woman because of this. I've had the tendency to think like this for so much of the past 10 years - but I've realized it's way too damaging to think like this so please don't!! I've been more optimistic for a while now because I do have a lot of good things in my life - yes I know I want surgery to correct it but I really admire the women who don't let uneven boobs get them down. The comment posted about the African tribeswomen is so true - you might not know anyone around you with the problem but there are plenty of other women like us, and it's western society that says you have to be perfect. I'm conforming to this by wanting surgery to correct the problem instead of just learning to get over it - but it's probably because I'm not a really confident person and I just need to feel a bit more 'normal' and even to fit in so then I can get on with my life..
So don't despair! - I'm going to see what I can have done and I'll let you all know how I go if you like.. and please everyone keep posting with your stories!
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It's nice to read about others with the same problem as me just to know I'm not alone. I thought I should post on here too because I've read posts on here as well as other sites but never contributed so it only seems fair. It's made me feel better to read others' comments, so I think the more women that post about this problem, the more others will feel better/or at least have more people to relate to. I wish there was more info about this generally as I was despairing a lot until I started finding some forums like this one.
I have uneven breasts too, probably a B on the left and maybe a full C on the right. Although this seems to change a little with weight gain and weight loss and I've found that when I'm slimmer (and do some regular resistance exercises for the pec muscles - like chest presses etc) the difference doesn't seem quite as bad and both boobs seem a bit perkier. When I put on weight it seems to make my bigger boob even bigger in relation to the smaller one so I try to avoid putting on weight at all costs! I discovered this a few years ago and unfortunately it's meant that I've become really obsessed with food and being thin and quite often maybe not eating quite as much as I should. My friends think it's because I want to look more like the stick insects you see in magazines - I've never told them that I actually think it's more attractive to have a few curves! I just hate putting a few pounds on cz it seems to go to my boobs - and more on the already bigger one like I said. I'm not really really skinny but I think most people would say I'm a bit underweight.
I'm 25 now and like most other girls posting on this I first noticed the difference when I was about 14 yrs old - pretty much when my boobs had been growing for a year or two. I'm maybe a bit luckier than some as my boobs are pretty much the same shape - the right one just looks bigger and is lower/slightly droopier :( with a bit of a bigger nipple. I know it really isn't the end of the world and there are people out there in the world with far bigger problems than my stupid boobs but I've always been hugely self conscious about it and it's really affected my self esteem so much over the years. Sometimes being generally depressed, or when I've been in a relationship but I can feel it going wrong because of intimacy issues, or sometimes just not living life to the full/avoiding a situation where I'd be in a bikini/not going out with friends cz I can't find anything to wear that disguises the size difference/feeling awkward in tight or summer clothes. The list goes on.. and I'm really so so fed up with feeling like this.
I think, as others have said on here - you can only really appreciate this if you're in the same boat. I'd just like to have surgery and feel more 'normal' and then I could stop thinking about this practically all the time. It would be so amazing to just go out and buy a bra without the stress of trying to work out if it disguises the problem enough, or buy a stripey top - or actually have fun picking a bikini and not worrying constantly on the beach and not being a green eyed monster seeing girls with perfect boobs going topless! Not to mention the whole relationship thing..
I haven't ever told anyone about it, not even a doctor or a trusted friend or even my sister who I know would be great about it- as I feel too much of a freak. Or at least I feel that because I haven't told anyone then I feel 'normal' because they think I am. I suppose it helps me pretend that there's nothing wrong. I know some people have more worse or maybe a bit less asymmetry than me but I think like some people have said on here - it doesn't matter what the size difference is, if it bothers you then it doesn't matter what other people might say - it's a really big deal for those of us who have spent probably most of our teen life with this and maybe longer (like me). It's really great that some people are able to just live with it and not worry anymore but I just don't seem able to do that.
I can totally relate to people saying they only have sex in the dark and with their bra still on - just like i've done. I've even had two long term relationships, but my lack of confidence and inability to show any guy my boobs has slowly meant I have pushed them away because they think I just don't want to be that intimate - and I have always got gradually more and more anxious the longer the relationship has gone on and it becomes a major sticking point. They haven't understood why I've become more withdrawn about it and then inevitably the relationship has ended. Having just come out of a relationship of a few years I feel like I could have stopped the break up from happening, or got help sooner or something - and I have probably pushed away an amazing guy and will never get that relationship back. I realise I could have just bitten the bullit and just told my past boyfriends and maybe then found out that they don't actually care that much - but i've never had the confidence for fear of being dumped because they think I'm a freak. I've rather done the dumping myself or let myself be dumped which is pretty ridiculous I know..
Anyway, I agree with other people who have said the best way to disguise the cup or two cup difference is with a padded, formed but not push up bra - preferably one with the slots where you can insert a chicken fillet. I've bought a few different sizes of fillets so if I stuff one in the left side then clothes usually look totally fine over this and no one has noticed or at least ever said anything! I know what people mean though when they say it feels like a lie, especially in the dating game - but I don't have the courage to not try cover up the size difference.
I'm sick to death of trying to cover this up for so many years and I think i've finally worked up the courage to go see a surgeon about it and see about reducing the right side to match the left as I don't really care what size I have as long as I'm more even. I'd really like to know though if anyone else has been in my situation (maybe a cup and a half difference but same shaped boobs -and had a reduction?) -has it been successful, and what happens if you put on a bit of weight or get pregnant one day? Does the boob that's been reduced get bigger again, or does the boob that's not been reduced become the bigger one? That's why I don't want an augmentation/implants cz I want to decrease the variables if you see what I mean, and just get my boobs to the same kind of size in their natural state. If anyone knows anything about this I'd love to hear about it so please please reply! Also, having taken the pill a few years ago, it seemed to make my boobs more swollen and bigger, and my bigger boob seemed to get just a bit bigger in relation to the smaller one, which wasn't great.. so I stopped taking it.. which wasn't great for the relationship I was in at the time. I just wondered what experiences anyone has had if they started taking the pill after having had one boob reduced -did things stay even or did it cause un-eveness again?
Also if you're in the UK, can you recommend a good surgeon or the websites/methods used to look for one (I don't know if that's allowed on this site - so if you could email me or something if it's not allowed).
Also, I think I read here that's it's cheaper to just have one boob done than two - that makes sense I suppose as it's less work for the surgeon, but can anyone tell me is it a big difference in cost or not that much? I'm just trying to work out roughly how much I'm going to have to pay (in the UK) -but anyone with info from outside of the UK then please post too!
I just wanted to add my story on to all of the others on this site anyway cz I don't personally know anyone with the same problem as me - all my friends and my mum and sister have even boobs and can go bra-less and/or topless and I just find it so depressing that I'm not the same. Sorry for this really long post but I really wanted to say to every girl with the same problem reading this - don't think you're a freak or less of a woman because of this. I've had the tendency to think like this for so much of the past 10 years - but I've realized it's way too damaging to think like this so please don't!! I've been more optimistic for a while now because I do have a lot of good things in my life - yes I know I want surgery to correct it but I really admire the women who don't let uneven boobs get them down. The comment posted about the African tribeswomen is so true - you might not know anyone around you with the problem but there are plenty of other women like us, and it's western society that says you have to be perfect. I'm conforming to this by wanting surgery to correct the problem instead of just learning to get over it - but it's probably because I'm not a really confident person and I just need to feel a bit more 'normal' and even to fit in so then I can get on with my life..
So don't despair! - I'm going to see what I can have done and I'll let you all know how I go if you like.. and please everyone keep posting with your stories!
thanks
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Hi there,
I'm 18 and have exactly the same problem as you - I'm an A/B on one side and a C on the other. I've hated this ever sine I first noticed the pronounced difference - when I was about 13, I guess. Ironically my breasts have grown at equal rates since then meaning the difference has always been the same ratio! Augh.
I have however been to my GP about this and have the opportunity to get surgery done on the NHS. After deciding against getting my smaller side enlarged (too many side effects, have to get it changed ever 8-10 years, etc) I'm going to see a counseller at the surgery today about getting the larger one reduced. However, I'm more tempted to show a trusted male friend a photograph and ask him whether men would really mind that much, notice that much, etc at all - after all, I'm not sure if I want a load of surgery, and if people don't reeeally notice, why would I need it?
I'm 18 and have exactly the same problem as you - I'm an A/B on one side and a C on the other. I've hated this ever sine I first noticed the pronounced difference - when I was about 13, I guess. Ironically my breasts have grown at equal rates since then meaning the difference has always been the same ratio! Augh.
I have however been to my GP about this and have the opportunity to get surgery done on the NHS. After deciding against getting my smaller side enlarged (too many side effects, have to get it changed ever 8-10 years, etc) I'm going to see a counseller at the surgery today about getting the larger one reduced. However, I'm more tempted to show a trusted male friend a photograph and ask him whether men would really mind that much, notice that much, etc at all - after all, I'm not sure if I want a load of surgery, and if people don't reeeally notice, why would I need it?
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Hey,
Thanks for replying, I know exactly what you mean, my boobs grew at equal rates too unfortunately meaning I kept the size difference.. I read at the time that they might even out but they never did :-(
How did it go talking to the councellor, have you decided on the surgery?
I've been looking at surgery options and am thinking the same thing - I don't want to have implants that would have to be changed, and the enlarged side with the implant would probably end up looking unnatural next to the other side.. That's great though that you're thinking of actually asking a friend's opinion to decide if you actually need surgery. I'm always surprised when I read about women who have uneven breasts and say their partner or husband doesn't mind or doesn't even notice. I suppose I'm just over sensitive about it but I feel like it's so noticeable. Maybe a lot of guys really wouldn't care so I think it's great if you can learn to be happy with it!
I really hadn't considered trying to get a reduction on the NHS, I'd read that it's mainly for women with majorly big boobs - and I honestly thought I might get an unsympathetic GP telling me that I would have to go private. Which I have to say, from finding out a few prices, is going to be really expensive and something I'd have to save up for for quite a while, which is pretty depressing.. So that's great you actually got referred. I've read that you would have to demonstrate to your GP that the problem is affecting your emotional wellbeing to a really big extent for it to be paid for on the nhs? Is this true?? What was it like when you went and what did you say? I think the problem does affect my wellbeing to a very big extent, I was just nervous about my GP basically saying I couldn't have the operation on the nhs and then me feeling embarrassed and wishing I hadn't bothered going.. But I might go now that I've read your post so thanks!
I hope you decide what to do anyway and maybe if you show your friend a photo he'll say he doesn't think it's a big deal.. then like you say you don't have to go through with all the surgery.. Good luck whatever you decide and post again on here if you want to, it'd be great to hear how you get on.
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Thanks for replying, I know exactly what you mean, my boobs grew at equal rates too unfortunately meaning I kept the size difference.. I read at the time that they might even out but they never did :-(
How did it go talking to the councellor, have you decided on the surgery?
I've been looking at surgery options and am thinking the same thing - I don't want to have implants that would have to be changed, and the enlarged side with the implant would probably end up looking unnatural next to the other side.. That's great though that you're thinking of actually asking a friend's opinion to decide if you actually need surgery. I'm always surprised when I read about women who have uneven breasts and say their partner or husband doesn't mind or doesn't even notice. I suppose I'm just over sensitive about it but I feel like it's so noticeable. Maybe a lot of guys really wouldn't care so I think it's great if you can learn to be happy with it!
I really hadn't considered trying to get a reduction on the NHS, I'd read that it's mainly for women with majorly big boobs - and I honestly thought I might get an unsympathetic GP telling me that I would have to go private. Which I have to say, from finding out a few prices, is going to be really expensive and something I'd have to save up for for quite a while, which is pretty depressing.. So that's great you actually got referred. I've read that you would have to demonstrate to your GP that the problem is affecting your emotional wellbeing to a really big extent for it to be paid for on the nhs? Is this true?? What was it like when you went and what did you say? I think the problem does affect my wellbeing to a very big extent, I was just nervous about my GP basically saying I couldn't have the operation on the nhs and then me feeling embarrassed and wishing I hadn't bothered going.. But I might go now that I've read your post so thanks!
I hope you decide what to do anyway and maybe if you show your friend a photo he'll say he doesn't think it's a big deal.. then like you say you don't have to go through with all the surgery.. Good luck whatever you decide and post again on here if you want to, it'd be great to hear how you get on.
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I have the same problem. I'm 16 and my rights breasts is a B almost C cup whilst my left breast is only an A. I cannot even go swimming anymore. I have to pad it out like crazy. It affects what I wear, what I do I school....and I'm always worried somebody will notice. In two years I'm going to have them evened out. Either have the left one made larger or the right one smaller - probably the latter. I just thought I should post....good luck! :] You're not alone!
Aimie 8)
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I just had to express my feelings, along with everyone elses. I didn't know that uneven, saggy breast were so common. I'm 34 yrs. old. I've always had small breast, but my right breast is smaller than my left. After my 3rd pregnancy they seem to be more noticeable. I mean, all of a sudden I got an image of my breast from the side of a mirror, and I couldn't believe it. They are very evidently different size, and now they sag horribly. I couldn't help but start crying. My boyfriend and I split up a few moths ago. He never made any comments, but I figure they didn't look bad, until I saw them tonight. Now, I wonder if my ugly breast turned him off at any point. Our child is 1 yr. old now. I've always been a little self conscience about my breast, but now I feel so unsexy. For the first time, now I'm considering doing breast augmentation. I just don't think I can ever be naked in front of a man, without feeling like I have to hide how they look. Just looking for a bra is such a challenge. I'm always pulling one side down. They just look like deflated, uneven cones.
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I'm 23 and have asymmetrical breasts. One is a size AA, one a size B. You should really check out if you have scoliosis before anything. I have a curve and didn't notice it over my unevenness , which is one of the most common reasons for breast differences since your spine pushes up on your ribs/chest. I am having my breasts augmented, so if it really causes you a great concern, it is for the best! I am very slim so it is very noticeable on me, I know the surgery will hurt but since I have many years ahead of me and am pursuing a career that is predominately around people, I'm doing it! Please check to see if scoliosis is causing it, because at least you will know and will be able to get that checked out before it gets worse.
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I join all the other ladies out there. little B on the left, C on the right. The smaller looks like a sibling: you can see the relation, but they're different sizes, nipple sizes, so forth. And I'm 25, so that's the way it'll always be. Though I like the tip about doing pectoral exercises.
I have thought seriously about surgery and until I can save the money (here in the US I don't think insurance would ever cover it), I'm determined to come to peace with it as best I can. One day I'll be in a retirement home --where everyone's tits will be down to their waists, even or no-- and I just know I'll be angry that I wasted my best, hottest, free-est years hating my boobs. So I am determined. I thought I would share some tips I have on that front.
-Don't look at porn or men's magazines, if you can. That horrid sh*t seeps into your soul. Even if you say to yourself, "oh, they're all fake," inside you're taking note: this is what men like. Like anything else, porn is a business, and they're not exactly devoted to showing a wide variety of men's tastes. In fact they make a business out of seeming like authorities on the subject. I study rhetoric so it's easy for me to get past it. Just remember, if you can, that all models, actresses, and porn stars are good at their jobs because they are, generally, symmetrical, hairless freaks of nature.
-Instead, check out this site. http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php Seriously. It is a "normal breast gallery" and I suspect most people here, even the girls with a two cup or more difference, would feel a little better. If you're worried the above link is porn, do a google search for "breast pictures." It's the first link. It reminds you that people are just people, and our only job is to be ourselves. Our bodies aren't gifts to the male species.
-Speaking of, have sex with a bra on, if it makes you feel better, but give it a shot without. This won't work for everyone, if you are really feeling terrible about your situation, but sometimes I notice when I'm having sex I get in the zone, and I stop caring. Men are forgiving, more than we assume. They love boobs. They don't have boobs. They love them. I have had a few guys try and reassure me with things like, "they're both great, even if they are different." Of course it didn't make me feel all better, but it gave me a chuckle and reminded me that men are usually really excited by the presence of breasts, on their own. They want us to feel sexy and nice. If you end up with a guy who really is obsessed with having you look perfect, and they are out there, seriously, consider what kind of person he is. He is not looking for a person. Buy him a porno and say goodbye. Especially true for Americans in the college scene: Get out of the hookup culture. It puts women at a serious disadvantage, where you feel like you have to compete for scraps of unsatisfying casual sex. Hold out for something real, if that's what you want. Do your best to avoid people who criticize your body, though I think people like us tend to gravitate towards them because they reflect what we feel is "true". I know I have been turned off by guys who were really enthusiastic about my body because they seemed insincere. Yowza.
-I think things get easier, a little, as you get older. When you're in high school or beginning college, your body feels like a tool, something to help you get what you want or hold you back. It's never just a body, a remarkable machine to get you from one place or another. Everyone seems perfect except for you. Of course this forum lets you know, a lot of people are faking it. My father had polio as a child and now walks with an exaggerated limp. One leg is paralyzed and withered. When we go to the beach everyone would stare. That is a good lesson to grow up with. There's a real pressure to look presentable. And anyway, We can stuff our bras or get surgery, but there are some deformities--like a leg that looks like a twig--that can't be fixed. The closer you look to "normal," the more obsessive you can get about staying that way. Meanwhile, my father is perfectly happy. There's no way he could hide his disability. It isn't a perfect analogy because a man with a crippled leg is not the same as a woman with uneven breasts. There's no male leg magazines for sale. :-)
-Tell people about it. You don't have to show everyone, but tell people, if it comes up naturally. You know, girls sitting around chatting, or even when you've just started dating a guy. Be casual about it. Joke and shrug a little. Even if inside it is the most serious thing. One day you'll joke and shrug about it, so might as well start now, if you can. It is who you are. Trust me, there is nothing worse than feeling like you're fooling the world and they're going to discover you and ditch you and then you'll be all alone with your uneven boobs!! No. Tell some girlfriends about it. They'll feel at ease. Everyone has something to hide. So stop hiding. I would never tell anyone to parade around in a bikini top if they're not ready, but you'd be surprised how good it feels just to tell someone; get it off your chest. No pun intended.
-These points are starting to feel redundant, but I have one more. I was watching "Hedwig and the Angry Inch" for the first time a few weeks ago. It is a rock musical about a transexual with a botched sex operation (yeah, I know. It's pretty good actually). At one point he is about to be intimate and the other person notices his one-inch mangled genitals, and says, "What is that??" (Isnt that our worst nightmare? Hearing a shrieked, "Whats wrong with you!??") Hedwig says, "It's what I have to work with." I liked the sound of that.
It's been a long journey and it's not over for me. I still look in the mirror and dislike what I see. But I have flashes of peaceful acceptance where I say, "Man, it'd be great if I had even boobs. But, I don't. So. At least I have this great ass." These flashes are increasing in number, and that's enough to keep me going. Remember that you're not alone!
Sorry so long.
I have thought seriously about surgery and until I can save the money (here in the US I don't think insurance would ever cover it), I'm determined to come to peace with it as best I can. One day I'll be in a retirement home --where everyone's tits will be down to their waists, even or no-- and I just know I'll be angry that I wasted my best, hottest, free-est years hating my boobs. So I am determined. I thought I would share some tips I have on that front.
-Don't look at porn or men's magazines, if you can. That horrid sh*t seeps into your soul. Even if you say to yourself, "oh, they're all fake," inside you're taking note: this is what men like. Like anything else, porn is a business, and they're not exactly devoted to showing a wide variety of men's tastes. In fact they make a business out of seeming like authorities on the subject. I study rhetoric so it's easy for me to get past it. Just remember, if you can, that all models, actresses, and porn stars are good at their jobs because they are, generally, symmetrical, hairless freaks of nature.
-Instead, check out this site. http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php Seriously. It is a "normal breast gallery" and I suspect most people here, even the girls with a two cup or more difference, would feel a little better. If you're worried the above link is porn, do a google search for "breast pictures." It's the first link. It reminds you that people are just people, and our only job is to be ourselves. Our bodies aren't gifts to the male species.
-Speaking of, have sex with a bra on, if it makes you feel better, but give it a shot without. This won't work for everyone, if you are really feeling terrible about your situation, but sometimes I notice when I'm having sex I get in the zone, and I stop caring. Men are forgiving, more than we assume. They love boobs. They don't have boobs. They love them. I have had a few guys try and reassure me with things like, "they're both great, even if they are different." Of course it didn't make me feel all better, but it gave me a chuckle and reminded me that men are usually really excited by the presence of breasts, on their own. They want us to feel sexy and nice. If you end up with a guy who really is obsessed with having you look perfect, and they are out there, seriously, consider what kind of person he is. He is not looking for a person. Buy him a porno and say goodbye. Especially true for Americans in the college scene: Get out of the hookup culture. It puts women at a serious disadvantage, where you feel like you have to compete for scraps of unsatisfying casual sex. Hold out for something real, if that's what you want. Do your best to avoid people who criticize your body, though I think people like us tend to gravitate towards them because they reflect what we feel is "true". I know I have been turned off by guys who were really enthusiastic about my body because they seemed insincere. Yowza.
-I think things get easier, a little, as you get older. When you're in high school or beginning college, your body feels like a tool, something to help you get what you want or hold you back. It's never just a body, a remarkable machine to get you from one place or another. Everyone seems perfect except for you. Of course this forum lets you know, a lot of people are faking it. My father had polio as a child and now walks with an exaggerated limp. One leg is paralyzed and withered. When we go to the beach everyone would stare. That is a good lesson to grow up with. There's a real pressure to look presentable. And anyway, We can stuff our bras or get surgery, but there are some deformities--like a leg that looks like a twig--that can't be fixed. The closer you look to "normal," the more obsessive you can get about staying that way. Meanwhile, my father is perfectly happy. There's no way he could hide his disability. It isn't a perfect analogy because a man with a crippled leg is not the same as a woman with uneven breasts. There's no male leg magazines for sale. :-)
-Tell people about it. You don't have to show everyone, but tell people, if it comes up naturally. You know, girls sitting around chatting, or even when you've just started dating a guy. Be casual about it. Joke and shrug a little. Even if inside it is the most serious thing. One day you'll joke and shrug about it, so might as well start now, if you can. It is who you are. Trust me, there is nothing worse than feeling like you're fooling the world and they're going to discover you and ditch you and then you'll be all alone with your uneven boobs!! No. Tell some girlfriends about it. They'll feel at ease. Everyone has something to hide. So stop hiding. I would never tell anyone to parade around in a bikini top if they're not ready, but you'd be surprised how good it feels just to tell someone; get it off your chest. No pun intended.
-These points are starting to feel redundant, but I have one more. I was watching "Hedwig and the Angry Inch" for the first time a few weeks ago. It is a rock musical about a transexual with a botched sex operation (yeah, I know. It's pretty good actually). At one point he is about to be intimate and the other person notices his one-inch mangled genitals, and says, "What is that??" (Isnt that our worst nightmare? Hearing a shrieked, "Whats wrong with you!??") Hedwig says, "It's what I have to work with." I liked the sound of that.
It's been a long journey and it's not over for me. I still look in the mirror and dislike what I see. But I have flashes of peaceful acceptance where I say, "Man, it'd be great if I had even boobs. But, I don't. So. At least I have this great ass." These flashes are increasing in number, and that's enough to keep me going. Remember that you're not alone!
Sorry so long.
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Im in a totally different situation then everyone else here but maybe someone else reading might have had this issue. My boobs were ALWAYS very similar in size until I had my second child. At about 3 months after having my son, my left boob became noticeably smaller than the right. Now at 8 months, my left boob is about a B and my right boob is a D! I make up the difference with chicken cutlets but avoid bathing suits and tops that I might have once worn before. My husband doesn't care but it makes me feel insecure. I have noticed that the difference has affected my posture ( I lean to the left to make up for the weight on the right and my muscles are tighter on the right from bein pulled by the weight of my boob) I was hoping that as I weened my son the difference would go away but no such luck. My OB/GYN had told me when I stopped BFing if it didn't correct itself to make an appt and he would referr me to a surgeon (military) to get it corrected because it is considered a "medical condition that affects the morale and also was also caused by a previous medical condition" (pregnancy). I hope he's right and they can get this fixed but Im kinda scared. Im hoping maybe someone who has gone thru this themselves has some advice about it.
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