I wanted to know if a doctor could prove virginity. I was told this. I kind of wanted to prove it to my friends just because it really does bug me that they've not believed me. I want to prove it.
Not to mention my niece told me it could be proved (she had her's proved as I'm told) I am not sure if I can believe her myself.
WOW...As "agent10ve" stated, "Your husband should just TRUST you."Wise words. If some guy is losing sleep because of an out of control fear that you *MIGHT* not be a virgin, then I would really have to wonder what you see in him as a partner.....And who on earth has friends that accuse you of being a wh**e because of you being in a relationship where you MAY have had sex??Then we move on to the fact that your fiance of all people, question whether you are "SURE" that you are a virgin, as if this is something that people SOMEHOW have trouble figuring out and being "SURE" about??!?!.........And now you are praying that you bleed when you lose your virginity.........And NOW, you're unnaturally preoccupied because of those friends who fuss and obsess about your own private business... I admit that such a thing would bother me, but ONLY in the regard that I would have to spend time finding NEW FRIENDS for myself, RATHER than sitting around worrying, obsessing, and trying to find proof of my sexual history for my friends before I can feel OK with myself.... This is one seriously, UNHEALTHY, amazingly MESSED UP situation I'm seeing here, and I can't stress this enough! I'm just going to ask the question. What kind of cult are you a member of, anyway?????I mean the following statement in the nicest way possible, and I assure you that I am not just trying to be dramatic or belittling in saying this....But what you seem to be needing, is not a gynaecologist, but a therapist to work through this unhealthy and destructive/harmful *obsession* you seem to have with your virginity...More specifically, with trying to prove your virginity to everyone you come into contact with!!I really do mean that. It's an entirely genuine and justified level of concern for your well-being, and I just hope that you consider talking to some one (a *professional* therapist, not your preacher or cult leader) about this literally unhealthy preoccupation that is causing you great stress, being deluded into thinking that you have ANY responsibility to prove your sexual history to anyone,let alone getting so deeply entangled in this issue that you are now *praying to bleed* while having sex.... I'm not kidding, this screams out to me that you have some serious issues to overcome and some priorities to straighten out...1. Get some new friends, or just stop deluding *yourself* into thinking that them not believing you about your sex life is *somehow* something that deserves more than a moment's consideration... It depends on whether it's them making you paranoid and obsessed, or if it's you that is making yourself paranoid and obsessed, all because of business that is yours, not theirs...2. Possibly think again about this marriage that seems to be based on sex and seems to be dependant on you being "damaged goods" if you have EVER been with anyone else before him... It's not healthy. It simply is not.And once again, it depends on whether this is coming more-so from him obsessing about it, or if you are the one placing an irrational focus on this issue... But no matter which of you is the source of it, the marriage is still something to think very hard about if either of you is being so obsessive about this...You might consider couples counselling, and once again, NOT by your preacher or cult leader, but by a qualified professional that wants to help you rather than further expose you to this troubling line of thinking....3. If this unhealthy obsession is coming from yourself, then I suggest seeking therapy to work past these issues.If it is coming more from all these numerous others that are all around you, then I still recommend that therapy to help cope with the harm that all their obsession about what is none of their business, as well as most definitely finding new friends who actually care more about you than your crotch, as well as holding off on this marriage regardless of you or him being the source of this serious problem if you want to have a meaningful and healthy marriage..... I really do not envy your situation, but those are the first major steps to take to getting yourself out of it, and I hope you choose to take them. The alternative is only a road of more stress and obsession, the results of which can become actually serious, both psychologically and even physically... If you're praying to bleed because of superstitious, well, *OBSESSIONS*, then that is one of the many bright-red flags that are popping up in what you have said here... Don't ignore them, but instead, seek help.At the very least, maybe some one can explain to your fiance that virginity isn't something that a person is "not sure about" unless they are: A) splitting hairs, such as talking about fingering which is a sexual activity that it sounds like you have had some one else do to you, orB) has repressed or missing memories due to trauma or date-rape drugging...Otherwise, it's not really an intelligent question, "are you SUUUURE?"Like I said, I don't envy the difficult road ahead of you in addressing these numerous and serious issues that you have listed here in a very short question.... I can only imagine what else is going on that I have not been made aware of... It's about as healthy as laying awake all night obsessing and stressing because my eyes are blue instead of green...-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Either you are a virgin (by whatever definition your cult-like social circles go by), or you are not.You say you are, and I have no reason to doubt it if another man fingering you doesn't count that is,so just tell your creepy friends to mind their own damn private business,tell your fiance to be mature and get over his despirate insecurity,and the next time any of them open their mouths to worry and obsess about your sex life, just tell them that you already answered their question and that they are being inappropriate.It REALLY is that simple.I'll just leave it at that, before I start feeling overwhelmed once again by what I've read...
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How does this process all work??