I am 60 years old and have morning wood and a strong erection. My secret is no pills, cream or such other devices, it is plain and simple - common sense!
1. Realize the function of the body and place of sex in life. It is too early in the evolution process to treat the body purely for pleasure. We have overdone with Sex.
2. No porn.
3. Daily exercise. Eat good, preferably vegetarian. Lots of fruits. No caffeine.
4. Very moderate alcohol.
5. Positive relationships.
6. Meditate at least 30 minutes a day.
7. Get out and be with the nature.
8. Be happy.
Sounds too difficult? That's tragedy!
Wish you all good.
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I'm glad I found this post and temporarily relieved. I'm in almost the exact same boat as many others who have posted on here. I'm 24 years old and I can always get an erection but rarely what I'd call a full erection. It just gets semi-hard. Twice lately this has caused me problems with a woman which then became performance anxiety. It didn't get completely hard, she made a comment, and stress about pleasing her explodes until a full erection is impossible. Night ends, she doesn't call again. (haha) So I think from what I read that I could tone down my masterbating and stop using porn. I'm going to give that a try for a few months because everything I just read from you made perfect sense. I'm still as easily excited as a teenager, so desire isn't an issue. I think I've just self indulged and you know what they say about too much of a good thing. So thank you all for taking this seriously and giving logical advice. I hope I can post again down the road with good news. Goodluck to anyone in a similar situation.
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hi, this is great to find other people with this "problem"
ive got with this girl ive been longing for, for a few months now and the other night we finally got into my bed and then i couldnt get hard!
i havcnt had sex for 6 months and the last time i had no problem...ive found my self to have gone off porn aswell...
im so embarrased and quite frankly abit worried, im not sure weather its me being nervous and trying to hard or not being turned on enough.
i do smoke pot but dont eat c**p and go to the gym 4 times a week, i work full time and sleep pretty well so im not sure whats going on.
ive got with this girl ive been longing for, for a few months now and the other night we finally got into my bed and then i couldnt get hard!
i havcnt had sex for 6 months and the last time i had no problem...ive found my self to have gone off porn aswell...
im so embarrased and quite frankly abit worried, im not sure weather its me being nervous and trying to hard or not being turned on enough.
i do smoke pot but dont eat c**p and go to the gym 4 times a week, i work full time and sleep pretty well so im not sure whats going on.
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if its been 6 months without sex, then ur body prob just isnt used to it. ive had that before. give it a few more shots and im sure youll be ok
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Hello,
Considering how very common masturbation is and how frequently a lot of boys and men continue to do it, it is relatively uncommon for a person to have problems you have mentioned.
However, I have come across a few people who do have Erectile Dysfunction and Lack of Desire for Sex after having watched too much porn along with 'excess' masturbation. Kindly note here that 'excess' is a relative term. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** web addresses not allowed***
Once you understand why it may happen, you could take corrective steps to overcome the problem.
Namaste and all the Best.
Considering how very common masturbation is and how frequently a lot of boys and men continue to do it, it is relatively uncommon for a person to have problems you have mentioned.
However, I have come across a few people who do have Erectile Dysfunction and Lack of Desire for Sex after having watched too much porn along with 'excess' masturbation. Kindly note here that 'excess' is a relative term. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** web addresses not allowed***
Once you understand why it may happen, you could take corrective steps to overcome the problem.
Namaste and all the Best.
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I'm currently experiencing a similar issue. I had performance anxiety with my girlfriend about 6 years ago while having been on Zoloft for OCD/depression for many years. Masturbating, however, was not a problem.
I then switched to Lexapro and, after some time, I was able to perform and the worries went away. About 2 months ago, with a new girlfriend, the symptoms returned. I have now been on Viibryd for about 2 months now, and it was doing wonders for my sex life.
I'm now single and was able to achieve a full erection and masturbate no problem with porn about once (sometimes twice) a day. But a couple days ago I had anxiety while masturbating and was unable to get a full hard-on. I'm still able to climax but my penis goes limp immediately.
I'm worried that I may be getting addicted to porn and masturbating too much so I have stopped for now. It has been 2 days and am almost afraid to even masturbate. Will these feelings go away? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
I then switched to Lexapro and, after some time, I was able to perform and the worries went away. About 2 months ago, with a new girlfriend, the symptoms returned. I have now been on Viibryd for about 2 months now, and it was doing wonders for my sex life.
I'm now single and was able to achieve a full erection and masturbate no problem with porn about once (sometimes twice) a day. But a couple days ago I had anxiety while masturbating and was unable to get a full hard-on. I'm still able to climax but my penis goes limp immediately.
I'm worried that I may be getting addicted to porn and masturbating too much so I have stopped for now. It has been 2 days and am almost afraid to even masturbate. Will these feelings go away? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Great discussion. I think everyone's drawing the same conclusion that too much pornography can overstimulate and desensitize the brain so that normal sexual relations aren't arousing. Thanks for the topic and participation for I too have watched my share of the nudey flicks, and have recently run into problems with a beautiful, real life, hot and ready woman. I'm cuttin out porn so I can come back to the arena of normal (well, not too normal) sexual human relations with my beautiful gf.
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same thing happened to me recently. Lay off the porn. I did it and it worked in 4 days.:)
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I am 21 years old and I used to regularly have sex at least 2-3 days out of the week. Me and my ex used to have sex up to 10-12 times a night sometimes! I then had to move for schooling and fell into a rut of no sex for 5 months.. I was not used to not having sex considering I got it consistantly for 2 years straight. I finally got my chance with a girl after finally making some friends and I was intoxicated but we danced extremely sexually, made out, felt her up, still couldnt get an erection. I started to worry got all the way back to her house got her naked barely got half way erect tried having her give me heard which barely got me up so i just embarrassingly called it a night and awkwardly left her apartment. 2 weeks later, same exact thing this time I couldnt get hard at all! I back off of porn/masturbation for about a week now and have been trying to fantasize more in hopes i can train my mind to get erect out of my own will not from a video; so far its somewhat working but i havent gotten the chance to try with a girl. I feel a lot more confident though now that I am actually more orgasm deprived.
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I am 51 years old and haven't had intercourse in about 1 year. I masturbate 4-5 nights a week using same hand, same position, same lotion, etc. Watch porn in spurts (no pun intended) . Watch 3-4 consecutive nights and then may not watch for a couple of weeks. Here's the thing: I had an impromptu encounter a couple of days ago with a nice looking 31 year old wild child. Before I knew it we were naked in bed and working it. The problem? Foreplay, no response from Mr. Happy. A blow job resulted in about a 2/3 erection and upon vaginal insertion, 3 or 4 strokes and total flacidness. Being a good natured chick she said a ha****b would have to do since the main vein was inoperative. The result? With hand stimulation, she brought me to climax in about 5 minutes (notice the same method I use 4-5 nights only with her hand and not mine). My question is does the mind and body become so used to the repetitiveness of masturbation that the actual sex act with an attractive woman proves to be out of the norm creating some sort of mental block? Notice when she provided manual stimulation with the same style I'm accustomed to using on myself it worked?? I noticed that I was tense and uneasy as we began, totally uptight and I'm not sure why. I know that when the uptight feeling began, however, what I was engaged in was going to be a fruitless effort which proved to be true. Any thoughts or feedback would be most welcomed! Thanks!
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Mate! Im in the same boat and what you wrote in thi post just finalised for me what I was all ready just starting to do! Lay off the wankin get some kamagara to get over the mental block! I've always had issues with wankin, 3 4 5 once or twice even 7 a day since I was 9! Met the girl of my dreams and she loves me! Attempted to hae sex once or twice and kept flopping out but she turns me on and I wank over her pic all the time! In the end I've told her I think the problem is from too much wankin! She found it a bit weired, I've told her I'm gonna cut it out and when she gets back from her holiday I'm gonna make love to her like k ow I can not with a semi lol ! I really hope this works stop wackin off think of her no stimulation from any where else! If she loves it il be the happiest bloke about! It worked for u so it's go e me a bit of boost!
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I just found this site and was wondering if any of you guys could help me out because im in a similar situation alot of people on this thread.
im 18 years old and have been using porn and masterbating since i was 12 to pornography.
I had a problem durring my first ever sexual experience with a beautiful woman.
I threw a party at my house and this girl who i've had a huge crush on for a really long time wanted to get with me after everybody left. and we tried multiple things.
She tries giving me head, my penis has no reaction
I fingerd her Vagina, No reation
She mounted me naked and Kissed me. No reaction
In the end she was very understanding (thank god) and told me that it happens to everybody. I was frustrated because i never got it in, and sad because i was unable to please her the way I had hoped.
I was wondering if the porn had anything to do with it? any thoughts?
im 18 years old and have been using porn and masterbating since i was 12 to pornography.
I had a problem durring my first ever sexual experience with a beautiful woman.
I threw a party at my house and this girl who i've had a huge crush on for a really long time wanted to get with me after everybody left. and we tried multiple things.
She tries giving me head, my penis has no reaction
I fingerd her Vagina, No reation
She mounted me naked and Kissed me. No reaction
In the end she was very understanding (thank god) and told me that it happens to everybody. I was frustrated because i never got it in, and sad because i was unable to please her the way I had hoped.
I was wondering if the porn had anything to do with it? any thoughts?
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First you need to get off the drugs, there are alternatives and drugs are just a quick fix and should never be used as a long term solution to what are essentially problems of spiritual origin. Lay off the porn, excercise, sleep well, eat well - less meat, more raw salads, get a girlfriend and tell her, concentrate on her during sex.
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Here's an interesting question? If one continually masterbates to certain types of porn e.g. women on women, and at the same time can only achieve an orgasm via the prone position with say a pillow...is it possible that the effects can be irreversible? Let's a person can only achieve an orgasm when watching porn and rubbing his penis against a pillow and has done it this way for years...I wonder how long it might take to reverse the situation...if at all..
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Im 23 and have had this "problem" for few years. In my experience if you can get in control it can be a blessing in disguise. Firstly i would say DONT start your session looking at porn, arouse yourself naturally then get the computer/laptop out - this is key in my opinion. Once you can do this and have enough control to leave the porn alone for a few days before sex, i find when the moment arrives it might take slightly longer than average to get hard but when it is up i can go for as long as i want. I guess because im used to getting hard naturally (without porn) that a female can still get me hard BUT im used to harsher handling to reach orgasm so a woman just cant make me cum naturally which leaves me to go all night. This does mean the "death grip" finish but most girls are fine with that and its always impressive lol
The hardest bit is giving up the porn completely - i dont think i could. I had sex everyday for 2 weeks with this girl, she was so pretty you'd think i would've been satisfied for the rest of the year yet when i got home i still wanted to check out the latest updates. So instead of trying to beat it i try to work with it - like someone said earlier - moderation is key.
Hope someone takes something out of this as iv felt your pain when a woman thinks your not interested just because ya bois a little tired out!
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