Confused if my fiance was a virgin/lost her virginity to me

Was she a virgin? I have my girlfriend-fiance that I am going to marry soon.i love her so much,she told me she has never had sex,  but in her previous relationship guy only attempted but nothing happen.she also told me when they broke up the guy went telling her workmates she took her virginity, which I thot mayb was a way of verbal abuse.My attempt,I spent several days trying also to penetrate her,we both cld feel pain.i was convinced that she was a virgin, I could feel a ring like in front of my penis each time I force through(i guess that was the hymen?). My first time of penetration happened when I forced through on her last day of her period if not a day after, I felt like going through an elastic rubber band that feeling only happened once.we both didnt feel any pain and I felt like her vagina was not too tight.we had sex she was too exicited.i saw some trace of blood on my penis and I thought it was spotting frm her ending menstruation since she was not feeling uncomfortable pain it was nt her hymen.After a week after having sex she told me she was discharging whitish mucus odorless which I think is yeast infection or sti I doubt it could be sti I myself never had sick of sti before, her breast and bumps changed since then from the first time we started dating, She also says she doesnt know mayb she had lost it but never said never had sex or felt penetrated until that day. What are the chances that she could not be a virgin-her hymen? Could she bleed without feeling uncomfortable pain or no pain-lost her virginity during my trials? Could she have faked using vaginal creams-hymen creams and do they work? How did she got the infection could I have infected her?