Could I be desensitized from masturbation

i would love to hear a response to this, because i have the same fear

masturbated semi-regularly in adolescense and then when i had sex the first and second times, i was not able to finish. i could not help but wonder if my penis was too desensitized.

Ahh Yes you are right, masturbation ABsolutely effects your ability to perform and finsih, even to find your partner attractive...gee dont sound suprised!

But theres a big PROBLEM...Once you have figured out whether or not masturbating effects your orgasm ability...what are you going to do about it anyway?

Who do you know that has been able to say "I used to masturbate every day, and now...I have not for 3 months"? Not many.

My point is that if unless you understand what masturbation does to your BRAIN, you will have no chance in stopping.

If you can answer this questions of why do we do it, and so often, then you really will still have no chance of destroying the habit for longer than 3 weeks ( some cannot stop for over 3 days hey ).

I tried to stop for over 10 years, its a real monster to slay, but...guess what I SOLVED THE RIDDLE and I the simple steps I used have helped 100,000 plus guys break the habit.

So what changes can you expect when you stop mastubating every week, or every day?

Guess what! it makes a massive difference to your energy, peace, focus, relationships, sexual performance and satisfaction (for both of you)...I could go on. Did I mention it is fantastic to feel in control again!

I am so stoked to be free from the addiction...

You will never know if you are addicted until you try to stop...If you have not gone 10 days without masturbating...chances are you are in for a real shock when you try to stop.

If you want to take control and destroy the habit of porn, crazy thoughts, inappropriate desires, and masturbation, then drop me a line and I will help you out.

Peace to all the guys who are loving the habit still, enjoy it while you still believe your in control.


Have an awesome day!


Ian

I kinda think the same things, kinda worried.


Every week or two I decide to cut out the masturbation for a few days. Then I do beat it and it's a lot better, but its real hard to make it those few days.


No problem though, so many people out there masturbate every day, I dont feel bad about it, and I only stop to enhance it at a later time. If you know youre gunna bang your girl sometime soon, stop for a 2 or 3 day break before it. Plenty of people mastubate before a date or before sex so that they can last longer.

Plus we're at the age where our sex drive is at its highest, so its kind of accepted that we are extremely turned on and need to solve that somehow...

I wish I knew how to stop mastubating to porn. I've Tried and failed a few times. Its now a real problem. So what's ur advice

Stop watching porn! It is dangerous and addictive. Put your own films in the bin, and put a block on your web-browser.

Ok, so I thought women only talk about this kind of stuff & in scrutinising detail. I thought women where pathetic for scutinizing but after resently finding out that women can squirt prematuraly & that there squirting a fluid that isnt primarily used to release eggs as a sexual function & that they can have an orgasm without the release of fluid, that made me want to seek advice about how complicated the male bodily functions can be.

I figured masturbation was a way to disencitize the body while psychologically validating the body against social attributes.

Now after seeing clips of women cheating infront of the man, with black monster cocks it puts into question that im not validating the body.

So taking suppliment, which has left me with severe migrains, that lead me to going to hospital & insisting an a MRI that nearly got me institutionalised by desciminative psychotic experimentalist Psychiatrists. If it wasnt for my IQ being above average. Until I knew how much I could handle without excerting myself agressively due to increased testosterone levels, that has lead me to a court case, where I am now giving Police & the Magistrate, directives, I have still found that there are limitations on how much sperm & sexual fluids I can produce without my body expeling it while im asleep so not in control consiously of my body.

Its only when I relised that my time is counting down until I plan on cheating on my partner who no longer has sex with me. So im planing on having sex in just over 2months with a women who is the Sargent Police Prosecuter for the courts. Shes a hot & powerful women & I figured if I can bank 2months worth of load, then I can put on a show but since times ticken down, ive reliesed that ive got a problem.

If I detox. Meaning no stimulation, then im gonna end up with the same issue that I was confronted with, when I screwed a prostitue who informed me that if you dont use it you loss it, after I let her no that I had no sexual activity for over a month, so its not like I was short of sexual fluid. So to say loss it, in this case, means lossing your load rather then lossing your muscle or skill set which basically means the same thing if you thing that by increasing your sexual activity means that your desensitising yourself.

Now I have already reduced my suppliments due to migrains & testosterone, which where already 3 per day @ 2mths to 6mnths for maximum results, down to 1 per day. If I reduce that down to 3 per week. So 1 over 2 to-3 days. My body will hold the fluid while im asleep.

 

My question is if youve given up, what you call an addiction, how can you be desensitized? Its not what I call an addiction but a life style of increasing sexual proficiency & not souly for the porpose of getting off.

Also, im worried about how I can trigger deactivating myself from masturbating for the porpose of desensitizing myself, without getting off. So my next question is if youve given up what you call an addiction, how do you stop yourself from starting?

 

I already participate in the sexual techniques of desensitization. Being to have your eyes open & always be counsious of have your eyes open during sex. To use self infliction, from using nails on myself or asking my partner to, to being uncomfortable about the sexual position. To veriations - Theres not only many different veriations but different surfaces & places to the way your partner responds.

Ian, my bf has been masturbating one to three times a day for many, many years. He has ZERO interest in sex. We've talked about this and I have shown him so many articles on this and he wants to desensitize himself to masturbating! He wants to do it on his own though without the help of a sex therapist. I'm just happy he wants to try but am very concerned about him being able to do this own his own having been doing it so much for so long. PLEASE HELP with how you did it and how you helped so many guys to stop.
THANK YOU!!!

If you cant have sex with your boyfriend while his masturbating, then the chances are, your the problem. If you seem to think that its exceptable behavour that your boyfriend is masturbating 3 times a day which you obviously do because youve been letting it go on for many years now, then its most likely that he feels guilty for being with you, rather then being with a partner that can fulfil his needs, regardless of the living sercumstances. The fact that you have tried to get him to see a sex therapist, says something about your control issues & that you dont understand sexual fulfilment either, let alone the fact that you are manipulating your boyfriend by being with him, when for all intence porposes, you seek a partner for sex, otherwise there not a partner at all there just a friend. I suggest that you take advantage of him while his masturbating or leave him. Its never easy to seporate from someone you love but if you explain that you need some time apart, then if your serious enough about the relationship you should be expecting him to change his behavour in 2 months. That doesnt mean that you cant visit, once every few weeks to see how his progress is doing, but you seriously need to consider being detatched from the relationship for more then a couple of days. If he makes the effort to want to meet with you & f**k you, then you also have to be open to the experience otherwise nothing will change. As a partner its your responsibility to acknowledge how your actions effect your partner. Now its never an easy thing & I would expect a magical cure over night, like what your seeking. As I have suggested, it will take time & 2 months is long enough for you to determine weather or not he is the perfect suiter or its time to meet plenty of other perfect suiters & detatch yourself from relationships until you can find something serious.

would=wouldnt. Damn typos. "I wouldnt expect a magical cure"

I need help

You need to lower your standards from these supermodels & porn stars that are so appealing.

Social anxiety is the cause for not meeting people. Taking sustances like the socially acceptable alcohol (& now not so acceptable cigarettes) overcomes this.

Go out side. Being physically active evades this anxiety. Going for a walk locally may change your mind but gradually youll have to get into a routine of feeling happy about simple things such as tempurature by going from cold to warm & sugary drinks by going from water to your perfered beverage. You see people are so over stimulated that even when you turn on the tv your visually stimulated. The body is programmed to operate based on what you consume which mostly is no where near the dietry intake of an obandence of vitimans & minerals, to as simply as plants that you would never consider consuming however the extract is made available in tablets, that the body is lacking in substance to obtain the godly composure that we are confronted with from fake media from millionare celebraties. Theres no wonder, everyone can easily become over whelmed & with the deminising degridation of society through mental illness of the failure to identify ones own gender, theres no wonder there not getting ICP(insane clown posse) to run the suicide hotlines to reduce the population that is far more populated then its consumers can obsorbe. So much so that recently a city Detroit filed for bankruptcy.

Stop what your doing, go for a walk & think about what your planning to do for the future & contimplate that everyone is unreliable. If your smiling, a women will be smiling at you, while your not smiling at them. Start thinking about getting laid. By this time next year you would have forgotten all about this post & have already been laid. Whether or not it works out is irrelevant.

In what way?

Hi this is actually little embarrassing for me, cos I am a girl. But I have this problem I guess since my preschool years, when I had no idea what Iam actually doing. Now I just can not get rid of it, I mean I sometimes do that like four times a day. Maybe it is cos I am still a virgin, but I suppose I am virgin also because no one is actually attractive for me because I do not need anyone for sex. So I was just wondering whether you guys have some kind of special treatment for that. thanks a lot

No. You do not "need to lower your standards from these supermodels & porn stars that are so appealing." You need to raise your standards from them! Go for real, not the fake presentation.

While it may perhaps be that "Social anxiety is the cause for not meeting people" the answer is certainly not to take "substances like the socially acceptable alcohol (& now not so acceptable cigarettes) overcomes this". Although alcohol lowers the inhibitions, it also means that you are less in control of your senses, and are more likely to regret your actions and the consequences of them. Cigarettes do not portray you as a healthy individual. As they are not so socially acceptable, why recommend them? Avoid the 'cancer sticks' and show yourself to be a real man, not one who needs cigarettes as a prop. That's how you would appear.

If you "Start thinking about getting laid", then you are going to view women as sex objects or conquests, and fail in real relationships.

Start viewing women as real people with real personalities. Get to know them as such. Find out about their hopes and fears, their interests and delights, and communicate on a spiritual level before you even think about the physical.