Depression & uncertainty about relationship after stopping yasmin contraceptive pill!

Did this get any better for you I'm going through the same thing ? I see that you posted 3 months ago ? And am interested to see if things improved because I'm scared to death that they won't for me !

I feel like my mind is in knots during the 7 day break off Yasmin. I have always been extremely irrational during PMT, but it seems to be worse when I am on the pill. I have 'existential crises' in which my thoughts spiral totally out of control and I start to doubt everything - my ability to do my job and my relationship. I love my boyfriend, but at times (PMS times!) I feel I am going to mess it all up and it would be easier to be on my own.   I know that I cannot attribute everything to the pill, but I feel significantly different during the 7 days break/lead up to it - I can't get my thoughts straight and feel utterly hopeless about everything.  I really feel like there is something wrong with me mentally at these times, like I fall off the straight and narrow and am all of a sudden teetering over the edge again, really anxious.  It is good to hear others' stories, uncannily similar in some cases. What is happening to us? And what do we do about it?

i am a boyfriend, and my partner was on Yasmin for 2 months and I noticed a huge change in her.

She became, emotionally numb,  sad, then tells me she feels "not herself", then a little confused about everything in general, her libido disappeared, then she became emotional, then very distant towards me. Her personality was once very loving and caring and that just changed!

I noticed it enough to start searching for reasons as to why she had changed and found hundreds of people saying the same thing.

The only problem is coming off of is it seems to get worse before better. She is a little more caring but is know confused about her love towards me and has left our relationship for space, yet we have been together for a very long time and were deeply in love only a few months ago, planning our wedding.

Also i find that she doesn't seem to recognize that her thought s and feelings have been affected but all this. It takes a while for sufferers to notice that there was a problem, only when the "old self" starts to re emerge.

 

Hi there. Good on you for speaking up as a boyfriend! I was on yasmin for 2 years, and have been on other pills since i was 15 and am now 21 and have stopped taking the pill all together about 4 months ago. Since then I have been having severe anxiety and depression, I couldnt even drive to or go to work for a while because i was so anxious about EVERYTHING. About 2 months ago the depression started to creep in, I found myself really down, numb and pretty much everything else that you've described above. I have started questioning my relationship with my amazing boyfriehd, who 4 months ago before i started suffering like this i was ready to spend my life with. Now every single day, i question whether i still love him or whether this is 'what i want' when i had NEVER questioned it before.. ever. I am so confused and depressed and sad because it is so debilitating and heartbreaking to feel that way about my partner but i just can't help it. Then you start wondering whether this is 'really' how you feel, even though rationally i know that i love him and did with all my heart before this started happening to me, but the depression is just taking over and its so so hard to control those feelings of doubt. Its affecting me the most with my boyfriend because he is SO important to me and i saw our future together but now its just so murky and unclear and its terrifying. I am trying to stick it out, as I've researched this topic every day for the last 2 months and have learned that it can take at LEAST 6-12 months for the hormones in a womens body to balance out again after stopping taking the pill. obivously this is different for each woman but its clearly something that needs to be spoken about!! not just overlooked like it clearly has been.. Plus the hormones that we need to start reproducing is estrogen and progesterone which are the 2 hormones vital for keeping a healthy balance in serotonin which is vital for keeping us happy and not depressed!! see the pattern..Its just a big circle effect. I feel like i see no light at the end of this tunnel but i'm really hoping that these doubtful feelings i'm having towards my boyfriend are all just because i am suffereing from depression and my hormones are messed up.. I dont know. i just need someone to shed some light on anything they may have been feeling and have experienced!! Any help is appreciated.. Thanks :)

As a boyfriend and watching this from the other side it seems the confusion and feelings you are having are so strong that it creates even more confusion and odd feelings. Time is a healer, and you need to keep a healthy balanced diet, exercise moderately and supplement with B vitamins, perhaps St johns wort and evening primrose oil. My other half has been taking progesterone cream as directed on the instructions, to help balance out hormones naturally. Most of these symptoms seem to be the result of estrogen dominance or low progesterone. I know you will probably be feeling guilt from having the feelings you are having towards your boyfriend, and this causes further anxiety. etc etc.
Just look after yourself and tell your boyfriend what you are feeling and why. I asked my girlfriend what is wrong with our relationship, and she cant really tell me. Dont focus on the negatives and de-stress your life as much as possible and time will heal i am sure. Good luck Ellen1991

Madeofstone on 4/26/13 Hi there. Well it's lovely to read all of these stories to know that your not going through this alone, although going through this you wouldn't wish this upon anyone in the world. About a year ago I began taking bc cilest after meeting my boyfriend and deciding it be best to find a contraceptive to avoid pregnancy. Cilest was excellent for about 6 months my skin cleared up amazingly and I had no other side effects until I started getting angry at the drop of a hat. I've never been an angry person. Intact I've always been quite the opposite but I found myself turning into a complete monster!! after stopping the cilest my skin flared up but apart from that I seemed to be okay. I went back to the doctors and he gave me microgynon after a month of taking it I quit because again my skin got worse and my moods got worse and then the anxiety kicked in. It started off feeling faint and dizzy the first time it happened it was in college sitting with a fur coat on. I then started sweating and ran out the room. I then went through 3 weeks of avoiding that college class thinking that's what had caused it, but the faint feeling never went away. Back to the doctors I went and then accused of being pregnant I insisted I wasn't but she insisted I took a test to make sure, get back on bc and have a blood test for anaemia. turned out I wasn't pregnant, the dizziness went away and I began taking my now third bc pill in just 12 months. When i first started tacking marvelon I felt okay, however I felt a strange calmness as if I didn't have a care in the world. My boyfriend said I seemed 'vacant' asif I wasn't quite all there. The things I enjoyed didn't make me feel any joy anymore I felt like I was just plodding along because that was normal but saddened by a deep emotional disconnection. I lost my temper with my boyfriend on a Sunday afternoon having forgotten to take the pill the Saturday night and so decided this pill was yet another one not for me. the feeling of being completely spaced out was scaring me as I felt like a completely different person. I've always been a really laid back fairly happy girl, outgoing and very talkative but now I feel like that part of me has died and I don't know if it will ever come back. so after coming off marvelon after missing a pill I began shaking, worrying about everything - completely irrational things, I couldn't eat and I couldn't sleep, I didn't even want to get up in the morning but I couldn't sleep either. The doctor suggested I go and see a counsellor and give myself two weeks for my body's hormones to balance themselves out. unfortunately the counsellor was sick and had to cancel my appointment. 11 days on after quitting the pill and my skin is the worst it's ever been, I still can't eat, I still feel like I've lost myself due to these stupid hormones, I've got the worst upset stomach, the tingling shaky sensation all over my body, shoulder pain and I just feel like I'm in the worst deepest darkest place ever and I can't get out of it. my sex drive has completely gone and I find myself questioning my relationship which is absolutely amazing, and perfect and he is the best partner I could ever ask for, but the doubt and the racing thoughts just won't stop. It's like there's a voice in the back of my head playing devils advocate- everything I say or think or try to feel its questioning it. I feel so hollow and empty. The feeling that you don't even know if you would be upset if something terrible happened, I can't find enjoyment in anything anymore. It really feels like my personality has disappeared and I'm left as a robot in human form desperate to feel some kind of emotion that a month ago was there even if it was struggling with anxiety. I will never go back on bc. Never ever. I hate it for what it's done to me. Surely three different types of combined bc pills in 12 months can't be good for anyone's mental state and I can't believe doctors are happy to prescribe them here there and everywhere. I'm only 18 but I mean it when i say I would rather have a child by now if it would mean I had never taken all of these disgusting synthetic hormones. If anyone has anything about how long it will take for my body to get back on track it would be appreciated so muchly! Thanks for reading this. Just remember your not alone in this, the only comfort ive found is telling myself its my body it's not me and it's my hormones just sorting themselves out, but I don't feel like I can wait much longer so they'd better hurry up! I'm hanging in with all my might here. Keep the faith ladies!

Hi 11.06.13. I have read all posts and i really sympatise with everyone. I was on the pill for 20 years and been with my husband for 20 years and in that time i have never questioned our relationship. I love him unconditionally. When i stopped taking the pill i started feeling anxious and depressed and i to was questioning my relationship. In this time i started takin smokin pills to stop which also have depression as side effects (double trouble). My mind was out of control and i saw things that wasnt even there. My husband tried to help but i pushed him away because when i went to the doctors she said i'd be ok and i honestly believed that so i had that in my head all the time. She didnt prescribe me anything. I was in denail of everything. I cried for 5 mths when i was alone as i couldnt see anything good in life but still believed i was ok. I was really nasty to my husband, said some horrible things to him which deep down i knew i didnt mean. I tried to stop but couldnt control my mind and i gave up as i truly thought my life had ended. I had no strength to fight. I sank really hard so in my mind the only thing to do was to give up because i didnt think i would come out of it. I told my husband it was over but i knew thats not what i wanted. I think that gave me the strength to fight again as i love him with all my heart and would do anything for him, he is my life. So i URGE everyone please dont do anything rash its all in your mind which is very controlling, let your partners help you, your going to need it, its along hard road. Get help from your doctor because i wish she prescribed me something as i wouldnt be in the position i'm in now. I pushed my husband away from me..big mistake. Its been along tough 7 mths for not just myself my husband aswell.

i find it odd that no one has researched the fact that birth control alters your choice in mates. the pill keeps you from ovulating. the hormones that you secrete during ovulation greatly affect your choices in your partners. 

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This is happing to me… i been really cranky and i dont wanna know about my husband it seem like i dont wanna deal with him anymore after stopping my pills ❗❗❗

I am going through the same thing and was wondering if anyone got through it now that it's been a while. I was on Aviane and it made me crazy so I went off of it and now I'm anxious and depressed an doubting my relationship of 3 1/2 years... Which is ridiculous because we're so comfortable together and were happy up until this pill came into the picture. Anyone have any suggestions besides pills?

Hey, I'm 16 and have just had my withdrawal bleed after coming off of microgynon 30 about a month ago. I have been experiencing horrible withdrawal symptoms and your stories have really helped me stop worrying as well as a few others I have found online. I have been experiencing awful anxiety issues about my health but most of all my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and have never had any troubles or worries about being with him but the other night (the first night of my withdrawal bleed) a thought suddenly popped into my head questioning whether or not I feel we should be together and whether or not I love him when inside I know I do! It was totally out of the blue and we were so loved up just a few days before so I don't understand why I suddenly felt like that :( also, it being just 4 days until Christmas, I don't feel excited at all. I just feel detatched from everything and not myself at all. I can't stop worrying about my relationship and why I don't seem excited to see friends or family and what on earth is wrong with me!!! :( and all this worrying is meaning I can't sleep or eat which is making me feel even worse :( I would be hugely greatful if any of you could reply, I'm dreading Christmas if I'm still feeling like this and would feel much better if I knew why I am. How long did you all feel anxious and not yourself? - Emily

I have felt the same as most of yall. I'm just so confused.. I started the pill back in September. (Apri) I've always had problems everytime I have a shift in hormones, So I was worried to try it again. Well I took septembers and Octobers, and half way through december I had a tooth get infected.. I missed one pill, continued to take the birth control along with antibotics.. Then I had to have four teeth pulled.. I had three periods in the month of December.. My birth control got all messed up along with so many different medications in my system.I then begin having sucidial thoughts and thoughts about harming others, before this I wouldnt even hurt a fly or even consider it.. They came out of no where. I have a three year old daughter and have had the worse thoughts. Before I started the birth control I was fine.. I would actually worry constantly about something bad happeneing. I have stopped the Birth control completely.. its been a week and a half and started on celexa (20mgs) almost four weeks ago and it doesnt seem to be getting any better. I'm terrified im gonna flip out or turn into some crazy person I know im not. Its like im arguing with my own mind... its scary. Im thinking its all caused by a hormonal imblanace.. Im just so ready to feel better, and for all this to go away.  :(

Yasmin made me have intense suicidal thoughts. I didn't feel any emotion towards my bf anymore. Once I realized that was the only thing it could've been, I stopped it and all those feelings went away. Thankfully. I was feeling so depressed and kept thinking about death. Now Im on Marvelon and it's been fine for around 6 months. I'm wondering if it's the reason for these types of thoughts returning though..humm..

Has anyone had these types of thoughts coming off of a birth control?

Hi everyone. This is a guy chiming in. My fiancee and I have been together for three years and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She was not on the pill for the first 6 months but has been taking it since. She is a non-US citizen and I am a US citizen. We met in college and after her graduation have been going back and forth to visit each other. I just spent 3 months with her in her home country where we had the most beautiful summer together. We had arguments here and there but nothing that we couldn't solve after 10 minutes of talking it out. We are currently in the middle of the process of getting her fiance visa and within two months, she should have it. So we decided that whiles she waits, she would visit her sister in South Africa and help her with her business until the visa paperwork was figured out. We also decided that since she wouldn't be sexually active, it didn't make sense to take the pill while we were apart. The first week of me being gone/her being off the pill was fine, we texted, Skyped, talked like normal. Then things began to change, she started texting less meaningful, short sentenced texts. It was like I was having to pull any information out of her which is completely not normal because she normally tells me everything she thinks and does and in great detail. But now, it's like nothing. I try to bring it up that I feel like she is not there and she always makes an excuse, that I am mean and hurtful or that it's time for her work is really busy. She is also mentioning that she forced me into proposing to her and that if she didn't, I would have never proposed. Which is completely not true. I will admit that since this was such a sudden change in her demeanor, I reacted way to emotional and clingy, but I had no idea what was going on. My question is that will this go away. I feel like my fiance is gone and I won't get her back. I am trying my best to be supportive of her and not to make this about me but she just keeps saying she needs space and then doesn't talk to me at all. I'm afraid that when the visa papers arrive for her, she won't even leave South Africa to come to me. If anyone has a success story, please let me know. All I want is to help my fiance and to have her back.