Depression & uncertainty about relationship after stopping yasmin contraceptive pill!

Guest over a year ago

Don't apologize! I know how helpful it is to let every thing out. Draining is not even the word. Our stress levels have probably quadrupled going through this, and it really does suck. I feel like my confidence as a person has been taken away from me and I don't know who I am as a person. The depression lingering also makes it very hard to find happiness in everything. It is like my threshold for happiness has reached like a crazy height that I can't never attain. I'm happy that you told your bf because it really does help that they know what's going on. My bf told me that he knows I love him and that he isn't going anywhere. I haven't told him the extent to all that I am feeling, like the boring stuff and unattractiveness blah blah blah because it would hurt him a lot, and I know that this anxiety is to blame and that the thoughts aren't real. It is like I am feeling. Your bf is a great guy too and I'm sure he knows the moodiness is to blame. We are both very lucky to have that support system. For me it feels like I have "the grass is always greener" syndrome which is bizarre because I never had this. What a roller coaster.

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Guest over a year ago

I’m so over feeling like this! I also never told my boyfriend about me questioning his attractiveness because that’s just mean lol. He knows how I felt I’m just not sure if he knows I still feel like this. I almost just feel like view him under a different light and will never see him the way I used to see him. It’s very sad! What is the “the grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome? lol!

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Guest over a year ago

Yeah. Same here completely different light. Basically, I feel like that a relationship other than the one I currently am in would be better. I don't know if you ever heard of the expression that the grass is greener on the other side. But I never felt like this before.

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Guest over a year ago

oh okay, yeah I feel the same way. But something would just not let me not break up with him even feeling like this. We will hopefully feel in love soon again.

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Guest over a year ago

I know. Same here. Yes! Soon we will be okay. I'm glad we are making progress though!

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Guest over a year ago

Have you been writing on other threads as well recently or do just so many different girls feel this way?!

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Guest over a year ago

Does anyone also just feel bothered by everything their SO does. Things he does/says turn me off and bother me so much now! It’s crazy and makes me think how I ever thought he was perfect which is terrible to feel this way! I don’t know how to explain it.

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Guest over a year ago

Yeah. But always only when I feel pretty anxious do I come here because talking to other people lIke you helps. When I'm having good days coming here can be a trigger.

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Guest over a year ago

You are right about that! Lately everything my boyfriend does has been bothering me and I am so mean! Also his physical looks and height has been bothering me so much and I don’t know what to do!

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Guest over a year ago

I know what you mean. All stuff that never was a problem became a problem. So annoying. I get like you exactly.

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Guest over a year ago

In the beginning these thoughts really scared me. Now, I feel like I have gotten used to them and they became less scary because 1) I know how to deal with them and 2) it’s almost like it’s been so long since I’ve felt any love that I forgot what it was like to be deeply in love. I really wonder when I’m going to go back to how I was. The 5th month was definitely a hard one when it should be getting better.

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Guest over a year ago

Hello girls! I’ve been reading a lot because I’ve felt so distant and weird about my husband for 7 months now. I don’t feel attracted to him and I don’t really care much about what he does anymore. This is odd oh my gosh. I feel like he’s more like a friend rather than my husband! Ugh so weird. Is this normal ?

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Guest over a year ago

Yeah, almost like we are used to these thoughts. at this point I always wonder what love is anymore. I still always have hope though. There's a reason why we hang on!

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Guest over a year ago

Hi! I have been feeling the same odd way for a while, around the 6 month mark too with my boyfriend. I would say after seeing all of the responses from other women on this topic that this is pretty common. However, it definitely does not make this any less manageable. I keep feeling like a friend too and it just feels like something is off with the whole relationship, even though bf is a great guy that I never second guessed. No matter how many great qualities I consistently tell myself that my boyfriend has, I still feel this way and it bothers me a lot. Hope you are finding progress, in any way, though!

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Guest over a year ago

How is everyone doing this week? I’m feeling ok. I would consider these past 6 days to be “good days” with occasional negative thoughts. Other than that I think I’m slowing feeling more and more like myself. I still have a very long way to go though. I’m not even sure if I remember who I used to be and how I used to feel about certain things but I’m trying to get back to myself.

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