did i lose my virginity if his penis didnt go all the way in

moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

There is no problem with your 'ramble'. It is important, and I understand your concern. I appreciate your integrity.

"it didn't go only 1cm past the urethra opening". I imagine not, but probably more like 1½ cm. But it still, from your description, would not have penetrated your vagina.

"I believe what really bugs me about the situation is the not knowing part". I don't think so, but rather it is the guilt from what you have done. "I probably would have felt better if I would have lost it that night or not have fooled around at all" No, you would not have felt better if you had lost it, although you would have felt better if you had not "fooled around at all".

"you couldn’t really tell me if I was penetrated because you weren’t there", and I am not there now, but I could tell from the appearance of your hymen and vaginal opening (as described) that it is almost impossible. The tip of the glans would have been covered by your labia minora, and depending on their size would add to the feeling of being entered. But it did not go beyond your hymen into the canal.

"My virginity is a personal code and a religious one" That is good. You haven't said anything about your 'religion', but it could be that you haven't asked for forgiveness, or you can't believe you've been forgiven.

"I let the tip of a penis probably penetrating me determine my self value for almost a year now :/" So that needs dealing with. I imagine that it's not just the question of whether you are still a virgin, but what actually did take place. You mustn't let that haunt you any longer.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you for your response :). I am a Christian and was not raised dicussing sex. That word wasn’t repeated in my household. So when i got my first boyfriend ( now my ex) i did a lot more things as you can tell i wish I haven’t done. I did pray afterwards and i would feel better for a few weeks then go back to being depressed again. Little things said or done would trigger me worrying about it again. So could the labia minora contract during an orgasm? Because I definitely felt something contract around a small part of the tip.

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

I thought you probably were a Christian (as am I), and understand your situation. If you would like to talk about the spiritual side of this more, why not register and that aspect could be handled Biblically through the message facility. I will do what I can to help you find peace in this area.
The labia minora wouldn't itself contract and you would have felt the introitus (opening) contracting on his penis glans, but if you have substantial labia minora, it might have seemed as though it were further in than it actually was.

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Guest over a year ago

Hello , thank you so much for helping me. I did register :)

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

You will need to make at least one other public post, then you can message me. But make sure your email address isn't obvious in public (username?). Stay safe online!!

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expert bat over a year ago

I know! I accidentally put my email as my username amd was freaking out lol. But i think I changed it quick thank you :).

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

OK. That's good. You will have to make at least another post as I cannot yet contact you by message yet.

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expert bat over a year ago

Hey :) do you mean just responding to you one more time?

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

Yes. You should be able to message me now.

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gmar over a year ago

am confuse am 31 and my boy friend and I try to have sex yesteday it was my first time but not for him. he try twice he said he did not penetrate me but I was bleeding a litle. is it possible not to be fully penetrate and still bleed?

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

Yes, it is possible to bleed without full penetration.

Your hymen might have been partially ruptured, or even fully ruptured but you were not able to accommodate him. That might be because of his large size, or you were not lubricated enough. You would likely feel that he was inside you if he penetrated you.

You can check the state of your hymen by using a hand-mirror.

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Guest over a year ago

what if i bleed but id didnt really went in?

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moonstruck big-rig over a year ago

You're being rather vague!
If his penis did not penetrate your vagina, then technically you are still a virgin.
You can check the state of your hymen by using a hand mirror. Bleeding indicates at least a partial rupture, but it might not be completely ruptured.

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Guest over a year ago

My girlfriend and I tried, 'Doing it' in the missionary position for the first time yesterday and, as we were both a bit overexcited, with it being our first time, I didn't manage to get my penis very far in before I came. We are both first-timers and, after spending a while holding, kissing and talking to each other, we tried again and, on the second attempt, I penetrated her and we were able to make full, satisfying love. There was a little blood afterwards but that wasn't a problem. We've tried different positions such as my g/f on top and it feels really good. If it's your first time relax and enjoy it.

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Guest over a year ago

Can a girl get pregnant if she is still a virgin and you just whant to put in your penis and let it stay there can she get pregnant

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