did i lose my virginity if his penis didnt go all the way in

I assume this was the first time you have had sex.

What you refer to as your 'virginity' is your hymen.

Hymens vary, and it may be that your hymen is tough and elastic or perhaps your Hymen was already ruptured through means other than sexual intercourse. However, you are now no longer a virgin whatever the state of your hymen.

You can check the state of your hymen using a mirror. Do you know what you are looking for?

When i had sex I bleed but my guy friend penis didn't go all the way in. Did i lose my virginty?

What do you mean by "it didn't go all the way in"? It doesn't have to go all the way in; just sufficient to penetrate your vagina, and you have lost your virginity (whatever the state of your hymen).

The average penis size is 5 inches, and the average relaxed vagina is 4 inches. So halfway in could mean half his penis is in or it is half way in your vagina. That is 2 to 2½ inches in.

Your hymen could be ruptured by just and inch of penetration. Have you checked its state?

If the tip of tht penise did not gone in side but u still bleed are u still a virgin

Heelo.i actually fooled around yesterday with a guy dats not my boifrend..he promised not to penetrate..buh u know guys,he actauly didn't penetrate tho buh I tink d head fully went in lyk half way or smtin,it was so painful nd am worried abh me lossin my virginity..pls did i loose it or not..could u explain it to me cus m lost

nd can u loose ur virginity to jxt a finger

If the head of his penis went in, the chances are that your hymen could have been ruptured, or at least partly so.

You are technically a virgin until a penis penetrates your vagina, whatever the state of your hymen. But some consider the state of the hymen to be the determining factor (intact hymen=virgin; ruptured hymen=not virgin). This is complicated by those who insist a woman must bleed on intercourse to prove her hymen was intact.

However, some women have had intercourse and their hymens haven't ruptured until the second or third time; others find their hymens have ruptured through sports or horse-riding or even masturbation/fingering.

It sounds as though technically you may have lost your virginity (only you know whether you were penetrated), but you certainly got close. Why did you allow such contact if you want to retain your virginity?

As far as the state of your hymen is concerned, you can visually check it by using a hand-mirror, taking a picture, or getting someone you trust implicitly to check it for you. Do you know what you are looking for?

I hope this helps, but if you want more help, please ask.

A finger can rupture the hymen.

A year ago me and my bf were fooling around and I don’t think he penetrated my vagina canal but im not sure. Is it possible for a penis to be inside your vaginal entrance and not be in the canal? I say this because Once i had an orgasm i felt the opening contract around the tip a little. But I don’t think he went in far enough to actually penetrate the canal. So my question is does the vagina entrance/ opening have a little depth to contract around the head a little? I have never used tampons and had anything that close to my vagina so i am a little confused. Thanks in advance!

Here is a picture of a hymen:

• http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/sites/default/files/files/styles/large/public/field/image/hymen_virginal.jpg

What does yours look like (use a hand-mirror)?

You can see the hymen is just inside the entrance. You haven't said much about your orgasmic experience and exactly how it all happened, but it does sound as though his penis might well have penetrated. How big is his penis, and how big is the tip? It will depend on the strength of your orgasm what impact it might have had on his penis, but at least you can establish whether your hymen is still intact.

However, even with an intact hymen, with his penis at the entrance to your vagina, there is the risk of pregnancy and STDs

Thanks for your reply! My hymen is still intact with a slight tear that has been there since before i started fooling around. His penis was a little above average probably right at 7 inches or a little less and his tip was “normal” size i guess. My hymen is more of a cresent shape btw. Not to be too crude but i was laying on my stomach masturbating and his penis was between my outer and inner labia. When i finally had and orgasm I realized at some point his penis went a little deeper and found it’s way at the opening because i felt the opening clamp down on his penis. I think it clamped down just below his urethra opening or a little more past, not even 1cm. I feel like if it was actually in my vagina i would have felt it? Except for me actually having to have it clamp down for me to feel it in there, especially since im a virgin. He didn’t feel anything btw and he said he wasn’t inside but like i said i felt the opening clamp down so i jist don’t know if the very tip of his penis was just in the opening or if it did penetrate the canal. Thank you

Thank you for that. It is good to hear you don't want to be crude, and you were not. You explained in a very reasonable way what happened.

His urethral opening would be at the tip, so 1 cm sounds like he had not penetrated your vagina, but was very close to doing so. Even the pressure of his penis close to your hymen could rupture it. I think you probably would have felt his penis in your vagina if it had gone in unless your hymen is very elastic. With your orgasm clamping down on his penis, I think you would have felt it differently.

A crescent-shaped hymen opening is very common, and unless your hymen was very elastic, if he had penetrated you, I am sure you would have felt the different sensation unless your masturbation has previously included fingering.

I would not be particularly guided by what your boyfriend said because he could have been saying what he thought you wanted to hear (often happens), and I am surprised that if you could feel your vagina clamping on his penis, that he could not feel it even more so.

When you say "having to have it clamp down for me to feel it in there, especially since I'm a virgin", do you mean "since I was a virgin before" because if he did penetrate you a year ago then you would not be a virgin now!?

You said this happened a year ago, so what is your concern now? What has raised the concern?

I hope what I have said helps you to better determine your virginal state.

If you need more confidentiality regarding anything, please feel free to send a private message (but you would have to register first).

Thank you, I appreciate the time you are taking to help me out. If you were to google “Medical anatomy of penis” and look at the very first diagram on google images, where it is labeled glans penis is about where i felt myself clamp down on. I don’t know if that is about sufficent to penetrate a vagina. Even though it happened almost a year ago i have been feeling an extreme amount of guilt that i put myself in that situation considering how proud i was to be a virgin. I started regretting it about a couple weeks after it happened. I do not have a lot of experience fingering myself, it is very uncomfortable to me, which is why I found it very strange that if it did penetrate my canal as to why I didn’t feel it going inside until i had my orgasm. Not to be crude again but there is one time i managed to get some of a finger in my vagina while i was masturbating and when I finally had an orgasm i do remember my finger was forced out of my vagina. I was a little farther in with my finger than he was with his penis so i was speculating if his penis tip was in my canal than it would have done the same thing it had done with my finger? That was the first and only time slipping a finger in so i am very unfamiliar with the feeling especially since it was about 3 years back. I know at the end of the day only i know i was penetrated but it’s good to hear someone else’s perspective on it. Thank you!

From what you have described, I would judge that you were not penetrated. But when you say "I know at the end of the day only I know I was penetrated" it includes the definite positive statement "I know I was penetrated". So what do you really think?

The orgasmic force on your finger would indicate that if he had penetrated you he would have certainly felt a similar force when you orgasmed.

Is your honorable virginal pride only a personal code, or does it also have religious/cultural/spiritual implications?

I think you can still be proud, even though you have gone not fully satisfied your own high standards. I would consider you to still be a virgin.

Lol i meant at the end of the day you couldn’t really tell me if i was penetrated because you weren’t there and since it’s been almost a year since it happened it’s getting harder for me to remember exactly how far i felt it go in. My virginity is a personal code and a religious one. Unfortunately i let the tip of a penis probably penetrating me determine my self value for almost a year now :/. I haven’t done anything similar to it since them. But from what i told you in my post yesterday it didn’t go only 1cm past the urethra opening it went where the “glans penis” was in the diagram i told you about. I still don’t THINK it went in the canal. I believe what really bugs me about the situation is the not knowing part. I probably would have felt better if i would have lost it that night or not have fooled around at all. Instead of feeling stuck in the middle. But thank you for listening to me ramble :)