Do moms belong in the boy's locker room helping undress after swimming?

At that age, kids should be self-sufficient in that manner so having mom or dad there seems a bit of an overstretch.

Dad can be in the boy's locker room because he is a male. The question is about to do mothers belong in the boy's locker room. The answer is no. Who do women than they can step in other people's self-space? Wo do women think they can see other parent's sons naked when they should not view them nude. So many women have a double-gender rule in modesty that boys should not see girls or women naked, but it OK for us females to see them naked. Is it a fact that mothers who do this with their son in the boy's locker room at the pool are doing it for sexual graduation? To meet some sexual pleasure from this bye seeing other boys in the locker room naked.

No, women do not belong in the boy's locker room. They use this they need help with changing their clothes or washing. Women make any excuses to cover their self up to see boys naked. They are grade-A sex pedophiles.

Total agree with you that women have these issues they can do as they please with others because they are a mother. Then you have women and girls who do this also who are not mothers. Boys have the right to having privates in who they what them to see them naked.

It's unethical for adults to be in the opposite sex locker room. If they have boys young enough to need help the boys should be in the women's room. The same goes for men with young daughters, they use the men's room.

I don’t think most boys that age would have a problem with a grown woman in the locker room. That age group are still used to their mom seeing them naked. As long as the moms act naturally I think the boys would accept them being there.

(I don’t think most boys that age would have a problem with a grown woman in the locker room. That age group are still used to their mom seeing them naked. As long as the moms act naturally I think the boys would accept them being there.) My sons wouldn't have an issue with a woman in the locker room, as they were always naked at home. Their mom, and I always saw them nude. It would have been fine.

I don’t see any problem if the mom has a legitimate reason to be in there. Most Boys 8-12 are used to their mother seeing them naked and probably wouldn’t think twice about another mother seeing them either. I highly doubt that a mother is getting a thrill by seeing a naked 8-12 year old boy.

Boys 8 - 12 years old are fully capable of getting dressed without their mother watching.  Mothers accompanying their sons into the locker room is all the worse given they are taking it upon themselves to watch other boys getting dressed who are not their son.  This kind of voyeurism is wrong no matter how these mothers might try to justify it. 

As an adult it wouldn’t bother me if women were in there but when I was that age I didn’t even let my mom see me naked.

I am a 28 year old male and have been going to the same gym for several years. A few months ago as I was doing my weight training on the gym floor, some of the guys were talking about several women that were coming into the men's locker room with their young sons because an older man supposedly made advances to the boys when the were changing clothes. I didn't think about it until I entered the men's locker room, and there were two mothers standing beside there two young sons where they both showered and changed after swimming. Unfortunately, they and the boys were using lockers right next to mine. I was kind of confused as to what to do. Should I strip right in front of the women and hit the showers or should I move all of my belongings to a different area? Just as I was about to move my belongings, one of the mother's spoke to me and told me her name and why she was in there with her son. She then introduced me to the her son and the other lady's son as well. I introduced myself and we all started a conversation. They told me why they were there, to protect their sons, while I tried to make small talk. The two boys were soon nude and grabbed their towels and headed to the showers. The one lady looked me in the eye and said, please go about whatever you need to do. Without thinking I began removing my sweaty gym clothes as we all continued to talk. The other woman said for me not to worry about nudity because she had been raised with four brothers so she had seen it all. The other woman just laughed. I think it was too late for me to change my mind at this point, so I quickly removed all of my clothes. Both ladies continued to talk to me asking me questions such as did I live close by, where did I go to school, where did I work etc. etc. I soon found myself totally nude facing the two fully dressed women and continuing a conversation with both of them. As a faced them, suddenly noticed that both women were looking straight at my junk while they were talking to me. This kind of made me feel uncomfortable, but every time I started to leave, they would pepper me with more small talk, especially about what time I usually go the gym. Soon the two boys came back from the showers and I said that I should go hit the showers as I needed to leave soon. Both women said goodbye using my first name, and gave me their names again as I walked away. I hit the first shower I came to which was in full view of the two mothers and their sons. The boys were getting dressed as the women talked to each other while watching me shower. For some reason I was not disgusted or nervous. All the other men at the gym that I talked to moved as far away and out of sight as possible which is probably what I should have done.
Two days later there were three mothers there and soon one more. So now four mothers were entering the men's locker room with their young sons while they showered and dressed. I got to know all four mothers fairly well and knew them all by name. Soon the danger was over and the gym manager told them that it was now safe to leave their sons in the men's locker room by themselves. Needles to say, it was an unusual experience for me. I enjoyed every minute of it.

I don't mind having mothers come in to the men's locker room if it is for safety reasons. When I was 7 or 8 years old, my mother always came in with me at the public pool. Many other mothers did as well. We rarely saw older men in the locker room during the summer months, but some of the other boys were teenagers. No one made a big deal out of it,

At the gym I attend, their are no so-called boys or girls locker rooms. There is only men's and women's locker rooms. So when a mother brings her 8 year old son into the men's locker room, naked men will be in there. While this would seem to be awkward for both the mother and the naked men, in today's world, I can understand why she is doing it to protect her son.

I've read Swish Vane's other submissions in the past. In those, she struck me as a "free spirit" mother. Here, even though she isn't giving a direct opinion, her implied thinking is more traditional, like mine. Then answer to her question is "Of course mothers of 8-12 year-old boys don't need to be in the locker room to help them undress. They can do that at half that age." Actually, almost any boy who is out of diapers, usually closer to 2, has already mastered pulling his pants down. So her question is a rhetorical one.
The big straight question I will address is, "At what age should a mother send her son into the locker room alone to shower and change into his street clothes?" Since I am a guy, my ability to answer that question from a mother's perspective is limited, but I'll try to add some of my insight to the discussion.
Let's go back to the boy, or any child, of two or so. Once your child is old enough to run around, you would like them to know how to swim so a few unguarded moments doesn't mean your kid could be dead by drowning. For many parents, that means swimming lessons at a public pool. With the high level of chlorine in public pools, the end of a session in the public pool means a shower to get that chlorine off and out of your skin, if you want to feel "fresh as a daisy" for the rest of the day. (I know because I didn't shower after my pool swims and felt kind of crappy for the rest of those days.) At those younger ages, of course mom (or dad) is going to shower the kid and mom is doing this in the women's showers. Ok at 2,3,4 and maybe a little older. But when her son is school age, the other mothers and their naked daughters are becoming a little uncomfortable with sonny getting such an eyeful. By the time the boy is 8, mom and sonny are getting the message this mixed nudity is unacceptable.
Here's where the modern day "helicopter parents" get it wrong. When I was a kid, a mother understood that if her son was too old to be inside the women's locker room, he was old enough to go into the men's locker room by himself, or more likely, with his friends. A kindergartener is expected to be able to use the bathroom at school so even at the tender age of 5, a boy should be all right taking a shower away from mommy.
From the perspective of someone who was this age 6 decades ago, it would have felt humiliating if my mother came into take care of me, because I would know that I looked like a "mommy's boy" to every other guy in the locker room. And back then, mom, and every other mother, knew that and wouldn't put her son through it.
Some writers mention being with the boy for safety. I assume they mean from child molesters. I wouldn't be worried about them. Their #1 rule is, "Don't get caught!" There is no privacy in a public pool locker/shower room. They wouldn't dare touch one of those naked boys, and if they just hung out there for any length of time they would be told "GET OUT OF HERE, YOU CREEP!" in a way that would make them think they'd better never show their face there again.