Been feeling a bit better last few days. But still get anxiety about stuff when im on my own. Its always about my relationship tho. Startin to struggle to kno when im overthinking somethin or if im justified. Its like two people arguin in my head. One day i can think a thought an it doesnt bother me, then il think the same thought another day an start to panic an assume the worst. Anyone else get this? :-(
Hello, i know this has been sent SO long ago, but your message is EXACTLY what I have been living for the past 4-5 months. I stopped the pill on august 1st and have been stuck in a deep swirl of dark emotions, doubts, anxiety, depressed feelings and the worst is definetely the doubts about my feelings for my boyfriend of 2 years. This have been causing me so much pain because deep down I know I love him with all my heart and now my feelings are a blurr and I can't say that I love him anymore. Like if my head was deciding over my heart and it just hurts so much. Please tell me you have found your passion back. Thanks you so much for the answer
OMG, you guys. I thought I was the only one, I can't believe this. The exact same thing happens to me, all the time. Im at a point where i just wana leave him not to have to deal with all those doubts. They affect me SO much because I know that i love him with passion. Please if you guys are ever returning to your normal selves, let us know. It has been 5 months for me.... I can't take it anymore.
yes i read all of the "archive" messages and she has succeeded
I’ve been off since may and the love just feels completely different! Like everything is different I can’t even explain
Im going to be very true with myself while writing this and try to explain everything that I have been through. When starting the pill in March it was around 3 years of dating my boyfriend. Things were great and I THINK it happened suddenly but since it’s been so long I really can’t even remember but I believe I just randomly had a thought in my head while on the pill. Within the first two weeks of taking it actually. It made me so emotional that I decided I had to get off of it. I remember telling me boyfriend that I want to feel like I love him again and that’s why I’m getting off. A month after coming off the pill and it was June 1st. I had the worst anxiety and depression ever. I couldn’t get out of bed, I just wanted to sleep because that’s when the thoughts stopped, I didn’t eat and I tried to break up with my boyfriend a numerous of times. When I realized what I was doing I then decided to relax for a second and the break up never happened. Each month I was noticing something different. At first I just felt like I didn’t want to be with him anymore than I questioned if he is attractive, his height, I thought he was annoying for the longest time, I didn’t want to have sex with him and honestly some of these feelings are still here 7 months better. I am a lot better. I can have normal days but they still consist of thoughts. I can spend time with him without over analyzing everything. I am still holding onto a few things though and I’m not sure how long it will take me to get these thoughts completely out of my head. The main thing that bothers me is although I know I love him it feels like a different type of love. Sometimes I feel numb and sometimes I am emotional but the love is just never the same as what it used to be. I can’t even describe how it isn’t the same but it just doesn’t feel like it used to. It scares me that I will never go back to normal because I’ve gotten used to feeling like this. This has been such a heartbreaking, weird and exhausting experience and sometimes I fail to believe it was even the pill causing me this. SO SAD!! (Sorry for the short story lol)
Hi there, yes we have ALL experienced the exact same things, in literally the same order almost.. It goes from one thought to the next each month, its so weird! I struggled with it really bad the first 2 months that I was over my anxiety/OCD thoughts that I had to just talk to a professional and honestly she helped SO MUCH even after the first session. I think you should look up Relationship OCD because that is what most of us have after stopping birth control! You have to control you OCD thoughts and not your relationship (i tried breaking up numerous times, just dont lol). Do not fight the thoughts, I realized to really silence them I let them enter my head and I say "okay anxiety i hear you nice thought" and let it pass.. and tbh i dont really notice them when they com through anymore. I am on my period right now, just got it, and I am VERY irritated maybe SLIGHT thoughts, but FINALLY no anxiety/depression anymore.. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do :( I am still fighting though and cannot wait to share my recovery story
How long have you been off bc?
3 months but I am proactive, go to therapy, take myltivitamins everyday, exercise, and overall just don't give up. Just saying that because I know some ladies might think 3 months is short, I have had MANY setbacks though don't get me wrong
I am 14 months an still strugglin :-( it has put a massive strain on our relationship as i just get paranoid an insecure an overthink everythink! Stuff bothers me that never did before! Its killin me :-( iv taken vitamins religiously an iv now been put on fluoextine. Feel like im never goin to recover
Wow, I can’t tell you all how thankful I am to have found this site. I am in my first month of going off the pill after being on it for 17 years... and it’s been terrible. I am experiencing many of the same symptoms as most women on this site - major bloating, cramps, headaches, weight gain, mental fog, feeling like I could cry and aggressive mood swings. I went off on my boyfriend the other night and can honestly say I didn’t recognize myself... my reaction caused a huge argument about something so insignificant. This isn’t me! I am such an easy-going person and this is very frustrating. I am hoping these symptoms improve with time... for those of you that experienced mood swings, how long until the intensity of your moods decreased? Any advice on ways to handle these mood swings? Thanks to all of you for sharing your experience... hate to hear there are so many experiencing this, but relieved to know I’m not the only one.
Eugh im so fed up with this all :-( i usually love christmas an i jus cant get excited this year. My marriage is hangin by a thread cos im jus so detached an overthinking everythin. Strugglin to believe its the pill now. Hands down the hardest year iv ever had! My poor husband is being pushed to the limit an all he has done is try to support me but instead im accusin him of all sorts :-/ help! :-( i jus be a blissfully happy newly wed who has an amazin life that i jus cant seem to enjoy
MERRY CHRISTMASS TO YOU ALL! I wish you all the happiest for today and the rest of 2017! Have a happy new year and spend it with the ones you love! Keep fighting if you still are battling this! :) -Nikki
Thank you so much! Happy holidays to you all!
Happy holidays everyone!