I just find myself doubting a lot of stuff- i used to always stress hed leave me, never once did i think id consider leavin him but sometimes i feel it lately cos i get so paranoid about stuff an think hes lying etc. I kno its in my head but sometimes it gets so vivid an i get scared of being hurt so i start to wonder should i just leave so i wont get hurt. Hes done nothin on me, in fact hes put up with so much c**p an he tells me it hurts when he feels i dont trust him when he hasnt done anything wrong. Its jus a vicious circle. I have a loving husband who adores me, a beautiful home, great family including inlaws but yet i cant seem to enjoy it. I wouldnt wish this on my worsr enemy :-(
It’s been a long 7 months for me and I’m very discouraged that I will never get better. I’m going to make an appointment to get my hormones checked but I’m nervous I will be upset with the results if they come back and everything is fine. My biggest fear is feeling like this forever
Is it weird that I feel more comfortable with my boyfriend now ??? I’ve opened up to him about so many of my feelings in the past months so now I feel really comfortable with him although I still don’t feel in love. Does anyone feel this way??? Also I used to be really shy around him and now I feel like we are best friends although before I even went on BC we were very close and best friends it’s just different now.
Feeling really bad because my mom just said it’s not normal to have felt like this for almost 9 months. I’m so sad
Ladies, lets break it down.
You got off the pill.. it caused a hormonal imbalance.. which then turned into anxiety and depression (side effects of not having your hormones balanced) (some of you may have experiences of anxiety and depression BEFORE the pill and that makes you more septible to having it now).
Anxiety and depression CAUSES CONFUSION, FOGGYNESS, NOT FEELING LIKE YOURSELF, IDENTITY CRISIS ETC. AND RELATIONSHIP OCD OR OCD IN GENERAL.
Relationship OCD is having OBSSESIVE THOUGHTS about your relationship (in a negative way).
The only way to "cure" this is to learn how to "cope" with it.
I can admit that I have rOCD, I look back in my past and I can notice it now, that i have always lived with OCD thoughts. But over the years the only thing that has helped me was learning how to deal with these thoughts and MINDFULNESS (I'm almost 100% mindfulness is to key to many things). Looking back at how I dealt with thoughts (these same thoughts) when I was "normal", I just let them come in my mind and then I just said "okay moving on" and I did NOT entertain the thought any longer then 5 seconds. I am realizing now that when I get a bad thought when I am with my friends or with my boyfriend, I think to myself "Okay and.. *continue to do what I am doing in the moment cause that is what I want to be doing*" I am trying to MASTER HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE THOUGHTS. And one day yes they will become a distant memory but you will realize you are just coping with them. Live in the moment, take each day as it comes because you never know what card you're going to get dealt with next. And if you do have a setback, do not panic.
I also advise some of the girls to not always check this forum.. I am only 3 months off BCP but I can already see the negative effects of reading everyones NEGATIVE posts, why don't we talk about SOLUTIONS?
I don't know I want to help everyone and I want us all to find inner peace and calmness within our lives.. It is there we just have to keep working on it. Progression not perfection.
You got off the pill.. it caused a hormonal imbalance.. which then turned into anxiety and depression (side effects of not having your hormones balanced) (some of you may have experiences of anxiety and depression BEFORE the pill and that makes you more septible to having it now).
Anxiety and depression CAUSES CONFUSION, FOGGYNESS, NOT FEELING LIKE YOURSELF, IDENTITY CRISIS ETC. AND RELATIONSHIP OCD OR OCD IN GENERAL.
Relationship OCD is having OBSSESIVE THOUGHTS about your relationship (in a negative way).
The only way to "cure" this is to learn how to "cope" with it.
I can admit that I have rOCD, I look back in my past and I can notice it now, that i have always lived with OCD thoughts. But over the years the only thing that has helped me was learning how to deal with these thoughts and MINDFULNESS (I'm almost 100% mindfulness is to key to many things). Looking back at how I dealt with thoughts (these same thoughts) when I was "normal", I just let them come in my mind and then I just said "okay moving on" and I did NOT entertain the thought any longer then 5 seconds. I am realizing now that when I get a bad thought when I am with my friends or with my boyfriend, I think to myself "Okay and.. *continue to do what I am doing in the moment cause that is what I want to be doing*" I am trying to MASTER HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE THOUGHTS. And one day yes they will become a distant memory but you will realize you are just coping with them. Live in the moment, take each day as it comes because you never know what card you're going to get dealt with next. And if you do have a setback, do not panic.
I also advise some of the girls to not always check this forum.. I am only 3 months off BCP but I can already see the negative effects of reading everyones NEGATIVE posts, why don't we talk about SOLUTIONS?
I don't know I want to help everyone and I want us all to find inner peace and calmness within our lives.. It is there we just have to keep working on it. Progression not perfection.
You know how many times my dad would tell me to "snap out of it" ? Don't worry, tell her if you wanted to be "normal" you would snap your fingers, some of us are wired differently in the brain. AND actually it took one of the main survivors of this whole post-BCP thing 1.5 years! Do not think you need to have a "time limit" on getting better. You take each day that you need to recover and you make sure each day you are trying your best. There is no time limit and that is what I learned.
My last few cycles have been as follows: 27,30, 35, 25, 27,30..would these be classifed as normal or still out of sync?? It comes every month but the length is always pretty different
that is definitely out of sync.. just think about when you were "normal" were ur cycles always the same ?
Mine is back to “normal” I guess you could say. For about 2 months after stoping it was regulating and I got it on I think the 25th day and then by my third month is started to get later and later. Now I am back to skipping a month and it’s around 40ish days.
This is the thing- i was on the pill for 9 years so i cant really remember what they were like before that. Although i dont remember anythin out of the ordinary either so i imagine they were pretty normal. Should they be the exact same distance apart each month? As u can see mine are never the same an range from 25-35
This might be a weird question but doesn’t anyone get like little seconds of happiness during a bad day. Like if I’m having a bad day And I see a picture of my boyfriend on my phone or even just see him in person for like 3 seconds I’ll get really happy and I’ll think “I love you” which is nice after not feeling love for so long! It’s weird
Also, I’ve had this thought about being nervous to get pregnant in the future. Say this feelings go away within the next year I don’t want them to come back while I’m pregnant or after I’m pregnant because I know your hormones go crazy during that time as well
I totally get this. I find when my husband is at work or im home alone is when im worst an my mind wonders an i start to question everythin. When im with him im much better an feel wee patches of genuine joy an normality. I just wish i could stop all the negative thinking an anxiety when im not with him
Yes when I’m not with him it’s a lot worse. But I also try to feel the same love I used to when I’m with him and I don’t alth I feel some type of love and enjoyment it’s not the same.
I have similar fears more so towards the baby though, it’s terrifying considering i’ve always wanted to be a mom!