Foreskin about to peel off

Hey man,

could you elaborate more about what the skin looks like when you retract it? without a picture its hard to understand unless you can describe it a little better. There is a piece of skin that is suppose to be there its called the frenulum. also what makes you think that you wont be able to penetrate a girl? also what is the big rush to loose your virginity. loosing it is a big deal and there are many risks that could happen such as STD's Pregnacy ect. I'm in college and still havent lost it. I know that it can be a bit embarrassing especially when asked about it. however to loose it just to fit in is a rediculous idea. if you don't want to admit that your still a virgin than don't tell people. chances are most of your friends probably have not lost theirs yet but say they do. Finally DO NOT let your self get down and the suicide buisness is the worst possible thing to do. i've heard a nice deffinition of suicide once "Suicide is a perminat answer to a temporary problem" there are so many things in life more valuable and killing yourself will put such a horrible burden on your family and friends. especially if you killed yourself because if being laughed at for not loosing your virginity. it will happen when it happens and i personally think it will be more enjoyable when you loose it to someone you truly care about instead of some random person.

please keep us updated on the forskin problem and just enjoy being you.... :-D

Hi hood! You are probably thinking about the frenulum - which is supposed to be there! Below is a link regarding what the penis does and is supposed to look like!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum_of_prepuce_of_penis

The foreskin is actually completely connected to the shaft of the penis, so you AREN'T supposed to be able to retract it all the way down, it should be able to just go below the head of the penis! OR it can be torn and believe me that is VERY painful for men to endure!

I have a 17 year old boy and I will tell you what I tell him! It is NO ONES business about your sexual health and history! Even your best friend could be TOTALLY exagerating about his sexual exploits! It is a natural game that men play! If you look at a group of males in the wild, they basically do the same thing! They try to be the biggest and the most aggressive! They just need to prove who is the strongest male! And thus when you are dealing with teenage - Testosterone filled - boys, they will say whatever they can to make the other boys feel inferior!

If you can masturbate with no pain or problem, believe me honey you will have no problem having sex! You are built for it, and it is VERY rare that there are any structural problems, especially in someone so young! It is hard for you at this stage, as it is for my son and EVERY other teenage boy! I can guarantee you honey, that EVERY boy out there ESPECIALLY in puberty, feels the EXACT same way! With your friends yapping on about loosing it, shows you a couple of things! 1. They are immature! 2. They are probably bragging about something, that no one can actually prove - without asking the girl! 3. You are more mature about it, because you are telling the truth, underneath they respect that!

I also told my son this, It is VERY easy to have SEX! It is far harder to MAKE LOVE!!!! So you have to decide wether you are going to have a "conquest" and brag about it, or REALLY connect with a girl you like and keep it to yourself! Because "making Love" is an oxymoron isn't it? Because love should be there first! Then you will have the tenderness and respect of EACH OTHER! To listen and take care of each other, and hold the ULTIMATE SECRET! If you are worried about your 1st time, then you will also understand about how a girl feels - because when a girl looses her virginity it is more physical than a mans! (eg. the hymen tearing!) So she is going out further on a limb then you would be! As I have told girls on here, there's all these Music Videos and movies showing girls girating and "enjoying" themselves, but that isn't real!! IF it was EVERYONE wouldn't be working or going to school!!! ;-) XD 8-| You have to decide, if it's down to this "goal of doing it before you are 18" OR finding someone that you can be TRUE with and she back! And she knowing that you aren't going to be some immature little you know what who spreads lies and intimate details around! Who is going to give the ultimate gift to someone who will abuse it without a second thought? So think of it that way!

Even though it's been "awhile" since I was a teenager, It still feels like yesterday! I remember going out with guys and they would tell their friends that we "made out!" and I thought that ALL my girlfriends weren't virgins so I went along with it! I didn't want to stand out as "The Virgin" And neither did the guys I was dating! It wasn't till years later, that I found out from my girlfriends that they didn't do it either!!! It was just thought of that way! And it was ALL because of guys bragging away! If you have close girlfriends I am sure you have heard of them "Falling in love and giving up their virginity" only to find out the guy was a pig and Told EVERYONE! That is devestating for them! So don't do that OK? They can NEVER get over it! Also from a girls point of view - because I talk to several of my sons girlfriends - they could actually retaliate and ruin your REP!!! If you think about it right?!!!!!

NEVER think of suicide honey! I know you think that "this is it, this is how it ALWAYS is going to be this way" BUT I promise you honey it wont! Like I tell my boys and all their friends, there is ALWAYS tommorrow! And tommorrow could be the best day of your life! Also I have known a couple of people that killed themselves, and the PAIN that is left behind NEVER leaves! My dearest friend lost her brother to suicide it has been 19 years and her heart AND her mom and dads hearts are still broken! Her dad found his son in HIS bedroom with his brains shot out!!!!!!! There is NOTHING worse for a paretn to loose their child, ESPECIALLY at their own hands! So please don't go there OK? It is normal to feel this way! That's why you NEVER find anyone that wants to be a teenager again!! It SUCKS!!! ;-) XD Just hang in there honey, and be a "Gentleman" and ALWAYS respect a lady! And your "REP" Will increase 10 fold and you will have to fight off the girls - I PROMISE!!!

If you ever need to talk I'm on here OK? I might be a middleaged housewife, but I have 2 boys and LOTS of experience talking to teenagers - for some reason about Sex!!!!! ;-) XD So big hugs, and just be yourself OK? There's NOTHING wrong with you!

nicely put..... ;-)

Thank you both of you
i appreciate it a lot..i understand now
the frenulum is there and ok ;-)
when i pull back the foreskin a bump kinda comes out and i see red viens. is that normal?
but when its erected i pull it back and it hurts a little.am i stretching the frenulum to its limits?thats why it hurts right ? i mean when i can see the the head completely then its alright i dont have to worry about making the forskin retract more back than it supposed to.uhg I Hope i Made sense

you made perfect sense all except for the bump part. is the bump on or near the frenulum. it could be from over streatching it. yes there are some viens under the forskin that are visible when retracted thats normal. yea the reason it hurts when you pull back the forskin especially when erect is because it is streatching it. im shure the head of your penis tends to bend downward a little when the forskin is retracted too hard right?? thats also normal. the frenulum is a very sensitive piece of tissue (for a lot of people it is the most sensitive part). as long as the head is compleatly visible than your fine :-)


let us know if any other issues come up 8)

WOW Bambi, that was a terrific post. I agree with you almost completely.

I question the part about the frenulum and it's keeping the foreskin from being retracted all the way down.
I know that's what it does but my experience is a little different.

I didn't have intercourse until I met my wife when I was 25 years old. Until then it was just mutual masturbation with the girls I dated and me giving them oral. Back in the dark ages, where I was born, oral sex was a no no. They only did that in France XD So no girl I dated ever gave me oral but I had one GF who loved me doing it for her. So basically we were just careful not to pull my foreskin back enough so it hurt and obviously I didn't do it myself when I masturbated.

That all changed after I got married. At the beginning, my frenulum tore during sex and it healed back to it's original position which was too short for comfort. The next time it tore, I wrapped it (my penis) with something to keep the ends from reattaching when it healed, so it was a little longer. It tore several more times and I did the same each time. After it quit tearing, I am now able to retract my foreskin all the way back so the tip is almost at my belly and the whole shaft is covered by the exposed inner foreskin. This is delightful during intercourse and I assumed that is the way it's supposed to be. It's really nice to have a foreskin that rolls all the way back comfortably.

So I just surmised that God gave us males a frenulum so we could experience the same "pleasure" >;) that you girls do when breaking your hymen. Once we've done that our foreskins retract all the way as intended.

Any guys who have had a similar experience, feel free to jump in here --- please.

I don't remember it being terribly painful. I think your brain releases endorphins during sex that do good job of killing any pain. I know my friends who were in Vietnam, tell about some girls in the whorehouses in Saigon somehow secreting razor blades in their mouths to cut up a penis, o.O and they had to be careful about that because you wouldn't feel it until afterward. One of them said that slamming back the operating slide on his .45 was a reasonably effective method of causing the razor blades to fall on the floor, before commencing. :O

Hi hood! IF it hurts you are pulling it back too much! Plain and simple! The foreskin is a loop of skin, the only way I can describe it is like this! Think of a glove, then if you push the top of the finger part inwards, this will be EXACTLY what your foreskin is like! It is conneted to the shaft of your penis, and the frenulum is just like the skin under your tongue! When pulled or torn, it is VERY painful! It is supposed to be the most sensitive part of the penis, so don't mess with it! The purpose of the Frenulum is to make sure that the foreskin doesn't go back too much! Just think of the frenulum under your tongue! Without it, your tongue would hang out of your mouth and flop to the back of your throat!!!! XD So don't mess too much with what God gave you OK? And just know that IF you push it too far, IT WILL react back!! As long as you can easily move your foreskin under the hood of the penis, you're good to go! Also just had another analogy!!!! Just think about this, IF you were able to reach from behind and grab your tongue and pull it as hard as possible to the back of your throat, do you think your tongue and ESPECIALLY your frenulum would hurt?!!!!!! o.O o.O ;-) XD So think of it like that OK? And stop messing with it or you will go blind!!!!! ;-) XD XD XD Good luck honey!

Yes..Then Im Fine after all these years i thought i had something wrong..nevermind its when the penis goes downward kinda Thing but its normal
thanks bambi
Great advice

haha yup, everything is normal. glad you understand and feel better now.

enjoy your the holidays and if anything ealse comes up you know where to go ;-)

You're welcome honey! I REALLY wish they would teach EVERYTHING liket his in school! Including feelings for the same sex, different kinds of STD's, Anatomy, natural feelings etc. Good luck and health honey!

Dear Hood,

Please don't feel bad, I'm a 45 year old male, and I'm STILL a virgin. I'm saving myself for that ONE SPECIAL LADY. Your friends were WRONG for abandoning you or making fun of you if you choose to KEEP your virginity. I'm sure when the time ARRIVES, it will be RIGHT for YOU, for your "FIRST TIME". You shouldn't rush into LOSING your virginity, you should do what is right for YOU, not what may SEEM right for your friends. A true friend would UNDERSTAND if you CHOOSE to not have sex. I feel your friends were WRONG for having a problem with your continued virginity. Continuing your virginity does not make you any less a man, but this tells me that you are WISER than your friends, for if a person is EXTREMELY SEXUALLY ACTIVE, especially if that person has unprotected sex, then this is a very DANGEROUS situation for ALL who are involved.

Well said charlie.... i agree with you 100% there are plenty of virgins out there much older that you are....

I 2nd that! Great advice Charlie! There is TOO much pressure on younger kids then EVER before, for them to have sex! They want to grow up before they are emotional and mentally ready!

So that's 3 people telling you that everything is fine honey! So just think of ALL the millions of people that feel the same way as we do! And like I said it will be your friends too that feel that way too! EVERYONE does! Except for Megan Fox!!!!! ;-) XD OH and Tiger Woods!!!!!!!! o.O 8-| Sorry I just had to throw him under the bus!!!!