Hi,
We've been together for about 2 years. My girlfriend and I are both virgins and we're thinking of doing it the first time. I personally masturbate, but she does not ( want to). When we got to foreplay, she has no reaction to neither her boobs nor her vagina and has extreme pain when the slightest stroke (very gentle) on her vagina. We're going very slow and she can't seem to get turned on or wet enough for herself to be lubricated. (We don't want to have to try lubricants if we can avoid it.) There seems to be no friction and it hurts a lot even if I try to go near it (emotionally) but I have her all relaxed. I am pretty sure I haven't damaged any nerves. We've also tried dry humping and she says it hurts a lot, if not more and is very sensitive.
Can anyone give us any advice?
So are you 14, 16, 21? Are you a young couple where sex maybe a little advanced? Some people wait until they get married, be it 18, 25, or 45. Some people need lubricants all the time, some - sometimes, some - never. She may be very sensative & it may have a physical cause. It may also be emotional/ mental. I'm thinking that all guys start to masterbate as soon as they "find" thier hands as babies, ok maybe not quite that soon, but some women may never really get into it too much or not at all really?????? Dont know why. If you are both up for it & want to give it a go, try some lubricants. It appears that there are not too many "older" virgins now-a-days so as a word of caution, age can play a part in legalities where sex is involved, just keep that in mind if it applies to you. Being ready takes some people longer than others, rush a situation like that & it may end up being a one time deal only. Take your time, try not to rush, you've got the rest of your life to get some & rushing may cause friction in your relationship too....easier said than done though when one person is ready & the other ....almost ready. LOTS OF TALKING & COMMUNICATION may be all that is needed. Hope this helps.