have i been molested, and is it my fault

i have vbeen molested by my mothers ex boyfriend it happened to me every since from the time i was 11 till i was 13 that messed my whloe life up summer of 2008 i am just letting my mother know after 5 years it is confusing to me cause i dont under stand

amber,I was molested as a child by two different family members.The only the thing i can tell you is when ever i see them on occasions i feel descussted.As a christian ,i have learned to for give them.As God would for give me if i have sined.You cant have hate in your heart for them but pray to God that he will help you deal with the way you feel.You have to let God deal with them because remember he sees everything and he has the higher power.And in his word (the bible)it says you will reap what you have sowed(that means what goes around comes around) that if they havent asked God for forgiveness.The Bible doesnt lie.Go to church and read the bible and pray to God for streghth.Keep praying.

Love,ronnie

I am not a female, gay, bi, or curious people. And I have been RAPPED! You wish like me to find "your old/new self"..the "perfect/untouched/non raped me". Like some of us out there want to grab knifes to stab the low life people. Those out there like some call the police (in my case did not help)! One said, I am 18 that it is my fault. So I did not go back to Maryland since that answer. Understand I am going to help us!! So, also when people ask for you to see a professional, the "help", can hurt much more than friendship has to offer. Especially if you were under influence of prescription medications, and or therapy, which inhibites rationality. Who in their RIGHT MINDS would ever even...be caught dead and burned ALIVE dancing IN, let alone be near Gay/homosexual/guy on guy clubs!...On, MEDS PRESCRIBED. And there are SO many more that I had not seen happen. Now or near future, 'MOST' of us NEED TO QUIT the doctors AND to...../edit!..... j/k. See now YALL, not so ALONE!...AND I LOVE TO HELP GIRLS!!!

hey i am sarah i have been moelested by 3 boys all about a cupel yrears older then me the first 2 boys did it every time i saw them it wasnt my folt i was only liltel and the other boy has done it one time it was so scery :'( one of the boys are still trying to do it to me i am 14 and i olny just lernt to tell peple and my mum called me a s***??? but i know its only cos she thort i was not knowing about any think about sex but i do and i shouldent have done the stuff they made me do i wish i hadent done any think but i have we all should have been abel to exsplore sexule things with out beening forst to i know its scerry but its not your folt ! ! ! ! :'(

hi am sara and i no wat have been through i was molested when i was 9 and up tiill this day i cant get over it. i am 15 now.he was nine years older It was only a year ago that i told my parents. they believe me but they were not there for me. i thought if i told them the pain would go away instead somehow it got worst, my dad was like if you waited this long to tell then you liked it. i was not penetrated but touched in places.i have nightmares almost everyday.i have this fear of being close to anyone. but the pain dont seem to go away. it seems as if no one really cared

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry you're so sad. I will tell you though without your family things get better. When I was 5 or so my brother molested me. He was 6 years older. I told my older brother who was 9 yrs older. That brother then started doing it too. I didn't tell any one else. I lied and stole when I was growing up to make myself feel good. Later I found out that the brother who was 6 years older than I was molested by an uncle. I suffered quietly and it stopped when I was 12 and they had moved out. By then I was so different and weird...I didn't want to be around people because they just wanted to use me. No one saw me. I had multiple suicide attempts and no friends it was really hard being a teenager. You feel so alone. So I grow up and moved out and the further I got from my family the safer I felt. When I was 23 my dad became ill and I moved back to help them with my husband in tow. I got pregnant and feared for my child's safety because my brothers would visit. I told my mom what happened and she accepted it then she came back at me after my son was born. She demanded to know dates times and where she was because young children remember this sort of information. She tells me that she doesn't believe me. I relapse into drugs and leave her, I have a complete distinction of my relation ship. Finally I get my husband back, and I'm off of the drugs again but not talking to the folks. The longer I don't know their alive the more I forget and the easier it is to pretend I'm normal. Then my mom calls me up because my brother is in jail for molesting his kids, she claims to now beleive me about him but not the other brother. I have 4 brothers in all and im the youngest. The two oldest did this the other two don't believe me either. I am going to say the only thing that I found helpful is to have nothing to do with them. This is hard as a teenager and I will pray for you to find the strength to stay alive. The world is not as sick or unbelieving as your family. My husband, 2 kids, and I have made our own family of friends on our terms and rarely do we deal with our blood relatives. I don't have memories attack me most days and some times I believe I actually can trust some people. I still freeze and feel guilty and ashamed when my family finds and wants to talk but since I blew up at my mom again I don't have them contacting me so much. I hope this gives you hope. When you're an adult you are free.