My sex drive is still there, i dont have any problems what so ever. my problem is, is that once i acheive the BIG "O", its like i lose the feeling i guess you could say. i can get it back but it takes a few to several minutes, in the mean time my wife has lost her sexual drive. its very depressing and ive tried doing everything except for medication. whats more depressing is my wife doesnt like having sex anymore. what can i do?
If I read your screen name correctly then you're 26. It is not uncommon for things to start taking a little longer than when you were 18. A few minutes or so, even 20 minutes, it happens. It's common. Just use the time to keep doing "other" activities. Maybe massages or oral.
Do you have kids? Lots of women seem to lose interest a bit after childbirth. Find a way to make time for the two of you to be alone and try new things. Put the worries behind you, they won't help "performance" at all. There are enough worries in todays world, you don't need them in the bedroom.
It may also be time for that physical you've been putting off, just to rule out a medical problem. Certain medications and alcohol can also cause problems.
Keep the faith, good luck!