Yesterday, I found out that I am having twins. My boyfriend is with me and claims he will remain by my side if I should keep the children, but I don't feel he has a clue about parenting or the work it is going to take. He already likes to hang out with his friends too much. In addition, he is currently unemployed. He is 8 years younger than me and has no children (I am 32 and he is 24). This means I am the bread winner and already have a daughter who is 5. I would have to work, leave him with the children for daycare and pay for everything. Not sure what to do here.
I can relate to your situation. I'm 22 and I have two little boys. They are 14 months apart and it has not been easy. Even though I've had my boyfriend by my side the entire time, it's definitely not as easy as it looks.
I don't know how long you and your boyfriend have been together but you seriously need to sit down and have a talk with him. Babies aren't just for 9 months...or 18 years...they are forever. First you need to gather your thoughts. Think about the things you want to say to him, the things you need from him, the things he needs to change, the things you can change together. Of course you as a mother already know what needs to be done in order to make it all work, but let him try and answer those questions. Don't assume what's going to happen. Ask him what he's gonna do in order to raise these twins. By asking him, you can get a feel for what state of mind he is in.
Best of luck!
I don't know how long you and your boyfriend have been together but you seriously need to sit down and have a talk with him. Babies aren't just for 9 months...or 18 years...they are forever. First you need to gather your thoughts. Think about the things you want to say to him, the things you need from him, the things he needs to change, the things you can change together. Of course you as a mother already know what needs to be done in order to make it all work, but let him try and answer those questions. Don't assume what's going to happen. Ask him what he's gonna do in order to raise these twins. By asking him, you can get a feel for what state of mind he is in.
Best of luck!